I've Heard It (Said It) Before
I’ve Heard It (Said It) Before
I was out last week for a meeting not related to my work but for a “community organization”. During the course of the conversation I was asked what I do for a living.
When I told the person, his eyes opened wide, he stated this has happened for a reason, and called another family member in. Funny, they have a family member who has a problem and appears to be in denial about it.
This happens frequently with people I meet; its’ usually never them, but they know someone. Funny, at a point going back in my life I would have said I knew someone who had a problem (my wife would have said the same thing) but I would never have said it was they guy in the mirror. My wife would have pointed me out!
Funny how that works!!
Most addicted people, or people with living issues for that matter, are in denial. While many on the outside may admit they have some issues, most are not being honest. People who care about them want to believe but the funny things, with 10%+ of the population having an addiction (or major living) issue, the truth is the addicted LIE to themselves and to others.
Question is- how do you know when they are lying?
A good friend of mind, Patrick Meninga who writes “Spiritual River” has just done a great article on this. I have posted it in full on my web site, www.hopeserenity.ca. If this article is ringing true with you, I invite you to go over to my site, and read Patrick’s article in full. It certainly hit home with a couple of addicted friends and family in my life!
Thursday, November 4, 2010
Tuesday, November 2, 2010
बे त्रुए तो सेल्फ!
BE TRUE TO SELF!
And this above all, to thine own self be true. And it must follow as night the day, thou canst not be false to any man.
--Shakespeare
"To thine own self be true." "Live the life you were meant to live." "Be the person you were meant to be." These statements convey a wonderful truth. They form the basic philosophies coaches have about clients - that when we go inside and trust our intuition, life opens before us. When we ignore our inner leanings, however, trouble arises.
Many love their families or have a true passion for a hobby. They get so involved and overdo other things-work, sports, addictions, gaming, etc. One day they face a real scare- illness, death- and realize they have missed those things that are truly important to them.
I have learned the hard way, I must be true to the things that are really important before the opportunity is lost. I cannot live as I think others may want me to live.
Why not start off with the right fit? Acknowledge your unique gifts and talents, as well as your wants and needs. Then seek out situations and circumstances that will allow them their full expression. This route may take time, but the results are worth it - a life of peace and fulfillment that comes from being true to you.
I remain constantly grateful that I finally heard the message BEFORE it was too late, and heeded the advice that the small quiet voice inside was telling me.
I got help and did the things I needed to do to make change. I started to become true to my true values and started to live the life I was meant to live. Less materially maybe, but a life richer in hope, serenity and internal peace. I truly have all I need, not necessarily everything I want, and I am true to my real self! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
We are better than we know. If we can be made to see it, perhaps for the rest of our lives, we will be unwilling to settle for less.
-- Anonymous
And this above all, to thine own self be true. And it must follow as night the day, thou canst not be false to any man.
--Shakespeare
"To thine own self be true." "Live the life you were meant to live." "Be the person you were meant to be." These statements convey a wonderful truth. They form the basic philosophies coaches have about clients - that when we go inside and trust our intuition, life opens before us. When we ignore our inner leanings, however, trouble arises.
Many love their families or have a true passion for a hobby. They get so involved and overdo other things-work, sports, addictions, gaming, etc. One day they face a real scare- illness, death- and realize they have missed those things that are truly important to them.
I have learned the hard way, I must be true to the things that are really important before the opportunity is lost. I cannot live as I think others may want me to live.
Why not start off with the right fit? Acknowledge your unique gifts and talents, as well as your wants and needs. Then seek out situations and circumstances that will allow them their full expression. This route may take time, but the results are worth it - a life of peace and fulfillment that comes from being true to you.
I remain constantly grateful that I finally heard the message BEFORE it was too late, and heeded the advice that the small quiet voice inside was telling me.
I got help and did the things I needed to do to make change. I started to become true to my true values and started to live the life I was meant to live. Less materially maybe, but a life richer in hope, serenity and internal peace. I truly have all I need, not necessarily everything I want, and I am true to my real self! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
We are better than we know. If we can be made to see it, perhaps for the rest of our lives, we will be unwilling to settle for less.
-- Anonymous
BE TRUE TO SELF!
BE TRUE TO SELF!
BE TRUE TO SELF!
And this above all, to thine own self be true. And it must follow as night the day, thou canst not be false to any man.
--Shakespeare
"To thine own self be true." "Live the life you were meant to live." "Be the person you were meant to be." These statements convey a wonderful truth. They form the basic philosophies coaches have about clients - that when we go inside and trust our intuition, life opens before us. When we ignore our inner leanings, however, trouble arises.
Many love their families or have a true passion for a hobby. They get so involved and overdo other things-work, sports, addictions, gaming, etc. One day they face a real scare- illness, death- and realize they have missed those things that are truly important to them.
I have learned the hard way, I must be true to the things that are really important before the opportunity is lost. I cannot live as I think others may want me to live.
Why not start off with the right fit? Acknowledge your unique gifts and talents, as well as your wants and needs. Then seek out situations and circumstances that will allow them their full expression. This route may take time, but the results are worth it - a life of peace and fulfillment that comes from being true to you.
I remain constantly grateful that I finally heard the message BEFORE it was too late, and heeded the advice that the small quiet voice inside was telling me.
I got help and did the things I needed to do to make change. I started to become true to my true values and started to live the life I was meant to live. Less materially maybe, but a life richer in hope, serenity and internal peace. I truly have all I need, not necessarily everything I want, and I am true to my real self! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
We are better than we know. If we can be made to see it, perhaps for the rest of our lives, we will be unwilling to settle for less.
-- Anonymous
BE TRUE TO SELF!
And this above all, to thine own self be true. And it must follow as night the day, thou canst not be false to any man.
--Shakespeare
"To thine own self be true." "Live the life you were meant to live." "Be the person you were meant to be." These statements convey a wonderful truth. They form the basic philosophies coaches have about clients - that when we go inside and trust our intuition, life opens before us. When we ignore our inner leanings, however, trouble arises.
Many love their families or have a true passion for a hobby. They get so involved and overdo other things-work, sports, addictions, gaming, etc. One day they face a real scare- illness, death- and realize they have missed those things that are truly important to them.
I have learned the hard way, I must be true to the things that are really important before the opportunity is lost. I cannot live as I think others may want me to live.
Why not start off with the right fit? Acknowledge your unique gifts and talents, as well as your wants and needs. Then seek out situations and circumstances that will allow them their full expression. This route may take time, but the results are worth it - a life of peace and fulfillment that comes from being true to you.
I remain constantly grateful that I finally heard the message BEFORE it was too late, and heeded the advice that the small quiet voice inside was telling me.
I got help and did the things I needed to do to make change. I started to become true to my true values and started to live the life I was meant to live. Less materially maybe, but a life richer in hope, serenity and internal peace. I truly have all I need, not necessarily everything I want, and I am true to my real self! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
We are better than we know. If we can be made to see it, perhaps for the rest of our lives, we will be unwilling to settle for less.
-- Anonymous
Friday, October 29, 2010
REAWAKEN YOUR CURIOUSITY
REAWAKEN YOUR CURIOUSITY
Reawaken your curiosity
"What a distressing contrast there is between the radiant intelligence of the child and the feeble mentality of the average adult." -- Sigmund Freud
Why is this so?
Young children possess what Zen calls 'beginner's mind.' They are awed and fascinated with the wonder of the world, open to discovering and experiencing new things. Anything is possible. Life is a great adventure.
For almost all of us, the systems that 'educate' us to be adults stifle our natural joy and curiosity. We lose touch with our innate appreciation of life. We forget how to dream.
The blessing is that with attention, patience and love, we can reawaken our sense of wonder. We can again dance with life.
"The mind WILL be free, or it will be dead." -- Grace Llewellyn
Thank you to my mentor Dr. Randin Brons and his Idea Engineer for this article. A very good reminder to me of one of the true gifts of a coach- we help people reawaken their curiosity and rediscover that radiant intelligence that is within each of us.(www.hopeserenity.ca)
Reawaken your curiosity
"What a distressing contrast there is between the radiant intelligence of the child and the feeble mentality of the average adult." -- Sigmund Freud
Why is this so?
Young children possess what Zen calls 'beginner's mind.' They are awed and fascinated with the wonder of the world, open to discovering and experiencing new things. Anything is possible. Life is a great adventure.
For almost all of us, the systems that 'educate' us to be adults stifle our natural joy and curiosity. We lose touch with our innate appreciation of life. We forget how to dream.
The blessing is that with attention, patience and love, we can reawaken our sense of wonder. We can again dance with life.
"The mind WILL be free, or it will be dead." -- Grace Llewellyn
Thank you to my mentor Dr. Randin Brons and his Idea Engineer for this article. A very good reminder to me of one of the true gifts of a coach- we help people reawaken their curiosity and rediscover that radiant intelligence that is within each of us.(www.hopeserenity.ca)
रेअवाकें यौर CURIOSITY
Reawaken your curiosity
"What a distressing contrast there is between the radiant intelligence of the child and the feeble mentality of the average adult." -- Sigmund Freud
Why is this so?
Young children possess what Zen calls 'beginner's mind.' They are awed and fascinated with the wonder of the world, open to discovering and experiencing new things. Anything is possible. Life is a great adventure.
For almost all of us, the systems that 'educate' us to be adults stifle our natural joy and curiosity. We lose touch with our innate appreciation of life. We forget how to dream.
The blessing is that with attention, patience and love, we can reawaken our sense of wonder. We can again dance with life.
"The mind WILL be free, or it will be dead." -- Grace Llewellyn
Thank you to my mentor Dr. Randin Brons and his Idea Engineer for this article. A very good reminder to me of one of the true gifts of a coach- we help people reawaken their curiosity and rediscover that radiant intelligence that is within each of us.(www.hopeserenity.ca)
"What a distressing contrast there is between the radiant intelligence of the child and the feeble mentality of the average adult." -- Sigmund Freud
Why is this so?
Young children possess what Zen calls 'beginner's mind.' They are awed and fascinated with the wonder of the world, open to discovering and experiencing new things. Anything is possible. Life is a great adventure.
For almost all of us, the systems that 'educate' us to be adults stifle our natural joy and curiosity. We lose touch with our innate appreciation of life. We forget how to dream.
The blessing is that with attention, patience and love, we can reawaken our sense of wonder. We can again dance with life.
"The mind WILL be free, or it will be dead." -- Grace Llewellyn
Thank you to my mentor Dr. Randin Brons and his Idea Engineer for this article. A very good reminder to me of one of the true gifts of a coach- we help people reawaken their curiosity and rediscover that radiant intelligence that is within each of us.(www.hopeserenity.ca)
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
प्राय तो गोद. रो तो शोरे!
PRAY to God. ROW to SHORE
I don’t know how many people I have talked to over the years who have claimed "I’ve prayed about it but nothing happened". Funny how it works.
I can relate to the title saying; for many years, when things got desperate, I would pray to a god I learned about in Sunday school. Prayer was in the form of a plea and oft times followed the pattern "If you get me out of this spot this time I’ll never do it again" or "Please give me/let me have…….". Strange, the results I got were not great.
The sign in the antique store showed a fisherman in a rowboat being tossed about in a storm. The message was clear: the fisherman may have great faith, but now was not the time to put away the oars and kneel in prayer - it was time to pray and row!
Sometimes we find ourselves in a storm of trouble, a sea of problems, and we want God to get us out. We may even pray, "God, get me out of this mess." But like the man in the rowboat, the way out is not just by praying to God. The way out is to pray, ask for help, and take action - do something to help ourselves.
For years I did not understand the simple message. I always believed that there was something greater than me in this world and I certainly believed this something was capable of miracles. What I forgot was that action was MY responsibility and God helps those who help themselves. In my case, helping me was fully admitting I has a problem, accepting it and taking the action I needed to not only get help, but to do the things I was taught I needed to do.
Today I ask simply each day for the knowledge of what my Higher Power’s will is and for the courage to carry it out. Then it is up to me to row to shore! (www.hopeserenity.ca).
I don’t know how many people I have talked to over the years who have claimed "I’ve prayed about it but nothing happened". Funny how it works.
I can relate to the title saying; for many years, when things got desperate, I would pray to a god I learned about in Sunday school. Prayer was in the form of a plea and oft times followed the pattern "If you get me out of this spot this time I’ll never do it again" or "Please give me/let me have…….". Strange, the results I got were not great.
The sign in the antique store showed a fisherman in a rowboat being tossed about in a storm. The message was clear: the fisherman may have great faith, but now was not the time to put away the oars and kneel in prayer - it was time to pray and row!
Sometimes we find ourselves in a storm of trouble, a sea of problems, and we want God to get us out. We may even pray, "God, get me out of this mess." But like the man in the rowboat, the way out is not just by praying to God. The way out is to pray, ask for help, and take action - do something to help ourselves.
For years I did not understand the simple message. I always believed that there was something greater than me in this world and I certainly believed this something was capable of miracles. What I forgot was that action was MY responsibility and God helps those who help themselves. In my case, helping me was fully admitting I has a problem, accepting it and taking the action I needed to not only get help, but to do the things I was taught I needed to do.
Today I ask simply each day for the knowledge of what my Higher Power’s will is and for the courage to carry it out. Then it is up to me to row to shore! (www.hopeserenity.ca).
PRAY to GOD. ROW to SHORE.
PRAY to GOD. ROW to SHORE.
PRAY to God. ROW to SHORE
I don’t know how many people I have talked to over the years who have claimed "I’ve prayed about it but nothing happened". Funny how it works.
I can relate to the title saying; for many years, when things got desperate, I would pray to a god I learned about in Sunday school. Prayer was in the form of a plea and oft times followed the pattern "If you get me out of this spot this time I’ll never do it again" or "Please give me/let me have…….". Strange, the results I got were not great.
The sign in the antique store showed a fisherman in a rowboat being tossed about in a storm. The message was clear: the fisherman may have great faith, but now was not the time to put away the oars and kneel in prayer - it was time to pray and row!
Sometimes we find ourselves in a storm of trouble, a sea of problems, and we want God to get us out. We may even pray, "God, get me out of this mess." But like the man in the rowboat, the way out is not just by praying to God. The way out is to pray, ask for help, and take action - do something to help ourselves.
For years I did not understand the simple message. I always believed that there was something greater than me in this world and I certainly believed this something was capable of miracles. What I forgot was that action was MY responsibility and God helps those who help themselves. In my case, helping me was fully admitting I has a problem, accepting it and taking the action I needed to not only get help, but to do the things I was taught I needed to do.
Today I ask simply each day for the knowledge of what my Higher Power’s will is and for the courage to carry it out. Then it is up to me to row to shore! (www.hopeserenity.ca).
PRAY to God. ROW to SHORE
I don’t know how many people I have talked to over the years who have claimed "I’ve prayed about it but nothing happened". Funny how it works.
I can relate to the title saying; for many years, when things got desperate, I would pray to a god I learned about in Sunday school. Prayer was in the form of a plea and oft times followed the pattern "If you get me out of this spot this time I’ll never do it again" or "Please give me/let me have…….". Strange, the results I got were not great.
The sign in the antique store showed a fisherman in a rowboat being tossed about in a storm. The message was clear: the fisherman may have great faith, but now was not the time to put away the oars and kneel in prayer - it was time to pray and row!
Sometimes we find ourselves in a storm of trouble, a sea of problems, and we want God to get us out. We may even pray, "God, get me out of this mess." But like the man in the rowboat, the way out is not just by praying to God. The way out is to pray, ask for help, and take action - do something to help ourselves.
For years I did not understand the simple message. I always believed that there was something greater than me in this world and I certainly believed this something was capable of miracles. What I forgot was that action was MY responsibility and God helps those who help themselves. In my case, helping me was fully admitting I has a problem, accepting it and taking the action I needed to not only get help, but to do the things I was taught I needed to do.
Today I ask simply each day for the knowledge of what my Higher Power’s will is and for the courage to carry it out. Then it is up to me to row to shore! (www.hopeserenity.ca).
Monday, October 25, 2010
I DON'T GET IT (OR I CAN FIX MYSELF)
I DON'T GET IT (OR I CAN FIX MYSELF)
I DON’T GET IT!
(Or I CAN FIX IT MYSELF)
In my line of work and in my own “life of service” there seems to be periods of time where I can’t believe what my ears are hearing.
The blessing, in hearing what I hear, is that I am grateful for the life that I have learned to live, and the basic move way from insane behaviour because of what I have been taught. Daily I thank that power greater than me that I am now conscious of and which, when I pay attention, gives me a life free of large doses of fear and shame.
Today’s most recent saga, an old acquaintance has called a lawyer client of mine for a get together. The reason, he has lost (for the second or third time in 2 months) his passport, and wants to attend a hockey tournament in the USA this weekend to watch his son; this after a five day detox stint following 9 weeks of nearly killing himself. The lawyer was recently told, during an emergency trip to hospital, that if he continues his life style, he will die.
I must admit that this sounds like the blind leading the blind; or, insanity in a form that I have personally experienced.
Throw on top of this a conversation with a potential client who suffers from chronic lateness (is getting chronic on this habit insane?) and it’s been an interesting 24 hour period.
With all concerned, they claim that they just don’t understand why these things happen to them, and at least with “frick and frack”, deep down they think they can fix it themselves. Unfortunately, unless things change, I foresee a couple of more needless and senseless funerals that I will be attending. Chronic lateness, I don’t think this kills but it certainly puts unneeded limitations on your life and certainly does nothing for self worth!
The people I have been interfacing with are basically decent, intelligent hard working people but people who have the deadly combination of false pride and low self esteem/respect. Deadly if not treated. Funny, they don’t understand why they do the things they do and with the lawyer and my other long term acquaintance, really believe that they can fix themselves through sheer abstinence.
Life reminds me of where I found my major problem. I found it in a mirror. After having found the problem, I swallowed my pride and reached out for help. Some fortunate ones seem to get all the help they need from a 12 step fellowship. While I certainly got (and get) help from group meetings, I needed far more help than meetings could provide. I needed the help of professionals to help me learn not only the tools I needed to live the life I was capable of, but to help me understand how I got so far off track and to address the root causes. I was fortunate to “get it” and learn the hard way that I could not fix myself.
The past 24 hours has once again reminded me, “the road to hell (and I’ve been there) is paved with good intentions.” To get off it requires action and change.
I love to see people get the life they want and am blessed that I have been a part of many success stories. As noted above, I continue to be reminded that I cannot “fix” others, particularly those who believe they can fix themselves. I have empathy for those who “just don’t get it” for they cannot be honest in front of that great tool we all own, the mirror. All I can do is be present when I can be of service! And keep on learning to be of greater service. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
I DON’T GET IT!
(Or I CAN FIX IT MYSELF)
In my line of work and in my own “life of service” there seems to be periods of time where I can’t believe what my ears are hearing.
The blessing, in hearing what I hear, is that I am grateful for the life that I have learned to live, and the basic move way from insane behaviour because of what I have been taught. Daily I thank that power greater than me that I am now conscious of and which, when I pay attention, gives me a life free of large doses of fear and shame.
Today’s most recent saga, an old acquaintance has called a lawyer client of mine for a get together. The reason, he has lost (for the second or third time in 2 months) his passport, and wants to attend a hockey tournament in the USA this weekend to watch his son; this after a five day detox stint following 9 weeks of nearly killing himself. The lawyer was recently told, during an emergency trip to hospital, that if he continues his life style, he will die.
I must admit that this sounds like the blind leading the blind; or, insanity in a form that I have personally experienced.
Throw on top of this a conversation with a potential client who suffers from chronic lateness (is getting chronic on this habit insane?) and it’s been an interesting 24 hour period.
With all concerned, they claim that they just don’t understand why these things happen to them, and at least with “frick and frack”, deep down they think they can fix it themselves. Unfortunately, unless things change, I foresee a couple of more needless and senseless funerals that I will be attending. Chronic lateness, I don’t think this kills but it certainly puts unneeded limitations on your life and certainly does nothing for self worth!
The people I have been interfacing with are basically decent, intelligent hard working people but people who have the deadly combination of false pride and low self esteem/respect. Deadly if not treated. Funny, they don’t understand why they do the things they do and with the lawyer and my other long term acquaintance, really believe that they can fix themselves through sheer abstinence.
Life reminds me of where I found my major problem. I found it in a mirror. After having found the problem, I swallowed my pride and reached out for help. Some fortunate ones seem to get all the help they need from a 12 step fellowship. While I certainly got (and get) help from group meetings, I needed far more help than meetings could provide. I needed the help of professionals to help me learn not only the tools I needed to live the life I was capable of, but to help me understand how I got so far off track and to address the root causes. I was fortunate to “get it” and learn the hard way that I could not fix myself.
The past 24 hours has once again reminded me, “the road to hell (and I’ve been there) is paved with good intentions.” To get off it requires action and change.
I love to see people get the life they want and am blessed that I have been a part of many success stories. As noted above, I continue to be reminded that I cannot “fix” others, particularly those who believe they can fix themselves. I have empathy for those who “just don’t get it” for they cannot be honest in front of that great tool we all own, the mirror. All I can do is be present when I can be of service! And keep on learning to be of greater service. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
इ दोन'टी गेट आईटी!
I DON’T GET IT!
(Or I CAN FIX IT MYSELF)
In my line of work and in my own “life of service” there seems to be periods of time where I can’t believe what my ears are hearing.
The blessing, in hearing what I hear, is that I am grateful for the life that I have learned to live, and the basic move way from insane behaviour because of what I have been taught. Daily I thank that power greater than me that I am now conscious of and which, when I pay attention, gives me a life free of large doses of fear and shame.
Today’s most recent saga, an old acquaintance has called a lawyer client of mine for a get together. The reason, he has lost (for the second or third time in 2 months) his passport, and wants to attend a hockey tournament in the USA this weekend to watch his son; this after a five day detox stint following 9 weeks of nearly killing himself. The lawyer was recently told, during an emergency trip to hospital, that if he continues his life style, he will die.
I must admit that this sounds like the blind leading the blind; or, insanity in a form that I have personally experienced.
Throw on top of this a conversation with a potential client who suffers from chronic lateness (is getting chronic on this habit insane?) and it’s been an interesting 24 hour period.
With all concerned, they claim that they just don’t understand why these things happen to them, and at least with “frick and frack”, deep down they think they can fix it themselves. Unfortunately, unless things change, I foresee a couple of more needless and senseless funerals that I will be attending. Chronic lateness, I don’t think this kills but it certainly puts unneeded limitations on your life and certainly does nothing for self worth!
The people I have been interfacing with are basically decent, intelligent hard working people but people who have the deadly combination of false pride and low self esteem/respect. Deadly if not treated. Funny, they don’t understand why they do the things they do and with the lawyer and my other long term acquaintance, really believe that they can fix themselves through sheer abstinence.
Life reminds me of where I found my major problem. I found it in a mirror. After having found the problem, I swallowed my pride and reached out for help. Some fortunate ones seem to get all the help they need from a 12 step fellowship. While I certainly got (and get) help from group meetings, I needed far more help than meetings could provide. I needed the help of professionals to help me learn not only the tools I needed to live the life I was capable of, but to help me understand how I got so far off track and to address the root causes. I was fortunate to “get it” and learn the hard way that I could not fix myself.
The past 24 hours has once again reminded me, “the road to hell (and I’ve been there) is paved with good intentions.” To get off it requires action and change.
I love to see people get the life they want and am blessed that I have been a part of many success stories. As noted above, I continue to be reminded that I cannot “fix” others, particularly those who believe they can fix themselves. I have empathy for those who “just don’t get it” for they cannot be honest in front of that great tool we all own, the mirror. All I can do is be present when I can be of service! And keep on learning to be of greater service. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
(Or I CAN FIX IT MYSELF)
In my line of work and in my own “life of service” there seems to be periods of time where I can’t believe what my ears are hearing.
The blessing, in hearing what I hear, is that I am grateful for the life that I have learned to live, and the basic move way from insane behaviour because of what I have been taught. Daily I thank that power greater than me that I am now conscious of and which, when I pay attention, gives me a life free of large doses of fear and shame.
Today’s most recent saga, an old acquaintance has called a lawyer client of mine for a get together. The reason, he has lost (for the second or third time in 2 months) his passport, and wants to attend a hockey tournament in the USA this weekend to watch his son; this after a five day detox stint following 9 weeks of nearly killing himself. The lawyer was recently told, during an emergency trip to hospital, that if he continues his life style, he will die.
I must admit that this sounds like the blind leading the blind; or, insanity in a form that I have personally experienced.
Throw on top of this a conversation with a potential client who suffers from chronic lateness (is getting chronic on this habit insane?) and it’s been an interesting 24 hour period.
With all concerned, they claim that they just don’t understand why these things happen to them, and at least with “frick and frack”, deep down they think they can fix it themselves. Unfortunately, unless things change, I foresee a couple of more needless and senseless funerals that I will be attending. Chronic lateness, I don’t think this kills but it certainly puts unneeded limitations on your life and certainly does nothing for self worth!
The people I have been interfacing with are basically decent, intelligent hard working people but people who have the deadly combination of false pride and low self esteem/respect. Deadly if not treated. Funny, they don’t understand why they do the things they do and with the lawyer and my other long term acquaintance, really believe that they can fix themselves through sheer abstinence.
Life reminds me of where I found my major problem. I found it in a mirror. After having found the problem, I swallowed my pride and reached out for help. Some fortunate ones seem to get all the help they need from a 12 step fellowship. While I certainly got (and get) help from group meetings, I needed far more help than meetings could provide. I needed the help of professionals to help me learn not only the tools I needed to live the life I was capable of, but to help me understand how I got so far off track and to address the root causes. I was fortunate to “get it” and learn the hard way that I could not fix myself.
The past 24 hours has once again reminded me, “the road to hell (and I’ve been there) is paved with good intentions.” To get off it requires action and change.
I love to see people get the life they want and am blessed that I have been a part of many success stories. As noted above, I continue to be reminded that I cannot “fix” others, particularly those who believe they can fix themselves. I have empathy for those who “just don’t get it” for they cannot be honest in front of that great tool we all own, the mirror. All I can do is be present when I can be of service! And keep on learning to be of greater service. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
मोरे ओं ANGER
MORE ON ANGER
Today, I had the pleasure of reading an exert from a book called “In God’s Care” by Karen Casey. What a great reminder about the power of anger.
How many people do you run into in your own life that give off vibes that make you feel like there is a volcano present and just about ready to explode? Ever feel that way yourself?
Anger was made a part of us for a reason. Dealing with it, for many, is an acquired skill.
“Anger dwells only in the bosom of fools.
--Albert Einstein
Anger can be a healthy emotion, provided we don't wallow in it or attack other people. When we express anger honestly and without reservation, we can prevent walls of resentment from building up and blocking us off from the intimacy that we strive for in our relationships.
When we allow anger to fester in our heart, we surrender our peace of mind and lose our sense of purpose and self-worth. When we harbour anger rather than openly and respectfully expressing it, we no longer hear our inner spirit. Thus we are cut off from our innate wisdom to guide us in our actions.
We're often drawn to people who express their feelings honestly. This style of communicating serves as an invitation to build a relationship with them based on trust. From this trust we learn to open ourselves to God's love for us as we are.
Today I will feel my anger, express it when necessary, and then let it go so that I can deepen my trust of other people and of God.”
The beauty of life today is that I have a choice on how I deal with anger on a daily basis. I chose to express honestly and without reservation and do carry it with me as baggage. I openly admit; this is a skill I acquired through coaching and a skill that makes my days brighter! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Today, I had the pleasure of reading an exert from a book called “In God’s Care” by Karen Casey. What a great reminder about the power of anger.
How many people do you run into in your own life that give off vibes that make you feel like there is a volcano present and just about ready to explode? Ever feel that way yourself?
Anger was made a part of us for a reason. Dealing with it, for many, is an acquired skill.
“Anger dwells only in the bosom of fools.
--Albert Einstein
Anger can be a healthy emotion, provided we don't wallow in it or attack other people. When we express anger honestly and without reservation, we can prevent walls of resentment from building up and blocking us off from the intimacy that we strive for in our relationships.
When we allow anger to fester in our heart, we surrender our peace of mind and lose our sense of purpose and self-worth. When we harbour anger rather than openly and respectfully expressing it, we no longer hear our inner spirit. Thus we are cut off from our innate wisdom to guide us in our actions.
We're often drawn to people who express their feelings honestly. This style of communicating serves as an invitation to build a relationship with them based on trust. From this trust we learn to open ourselves to God's love for us as we are.
Today I will feel my anger, express it when necessary, and then let it go so that I can deepen my trust of other people and of God.”
The beauty of life today is that I have a choice on how I deal with anger on a daily basis. I chose to express honestly and without reservation and do carry it with me as baggage. I openly admit; this is a skill I acquired through coaching and a skill that makes my days brighter! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
MORE ON ANGER
MORE ON ANGER
MORE ON ANGER
Today, I had the pleasure of reading an exert from a book called “In God’s Care” by Karen Casey. What a great reminder about the power of anger.
How many people do you run into in your own life that give off vibes that make you feel like there is a volcano present and just about ready to explode? Ever feel that way yourself?
Anger was made a part of us for a reason. Dealing with it, for many, is an acquired skill.
“Anger dwells only in the bosom of fools.
--Albert Einstein
Anger can be a healthy emotion, provided we don't wallow in it or attack other people. When we express anger honestly and without reservation, we can prevent walls of resentment from building up and blocking us off from the intimacy that we strive for in our relationships.
When we allow anger to fester in our heart, we surrender our peace of mind and lose our sense of purpose and self-worth. When we harbour anger rather than openly and respectfully expressing it, we no longer hear our inner spirit. Thus we are cut off from our innate wisdom to guide us in our actions.
We're often drawn to people who express their feelings honestly. This style of communicating serves as an invitation to build a relationship with them based on trust. From this trust we learn to open ourselves to God's love for us as we are.
Today I will feel my anger, express it when necessary, and then let it go so that I can deepen my trust of other people and of God.”
The beauty of life today is that I have a choice on how I deal with anger on a daily basis. I chose to express honestly and without reservation and do carry it with me as baggage. I openly admit; this is a skill I acquired through coaching and a skill that makes my days brighter! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
MORE ON ANGER
Today, I had the pleasure of reading an exert from a book called “In God’s Care” by Karen Casey. What a great reminder about the power of anger.
How many people do you run into in your own life that give off vibes that make you feel like there is a volcano present and just about ready to explode? Ever feel that way yourself?
Anger was made a part of us for a reason. Dealing with it, for many, is an acquired skill.
“Anger dwells only in the bosom of fools.
--Albert Einstein
Anger can be a healthy emotion, provided we don't wallow in it or attack other people. When we express anger honestly and without reservation, we can prevent walls of resentment from building up and blocking us off from the intimacy that we strive for in our relationships.
When we allow anger to fester in our heart, we surrender our peace of mind and lose our sense of purpose and self-worth. When we harbour anger rather than openly and respectfully expressing it, we no longer hear our inner spirit. Thus we are cut off from our innate wisdom to guide us in our actions.
We're often drawn to people who express their feelings honestly. This style of communicating serves as an invitation to build a relationship with them based on trust. From this trust we learn to open ourselves to God's love for us as we are.
Today I will feel my anger, express it when necessary, and then let it go so that I can deepen my trust of other people and of God.”
The beauty of life today is that I have a choice on how I deal with anger on a daily basis. I chose to express honestly and without reservation and do carry it with me as baggage. I openly admit; this is a skill I acquired through coaching and a skill that makes my days brighter! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Friday, October 15, 2010
MOVING TOWARDS SUPERCONSCIOUNESS
MOVING TOWARDS SUPERCONSCIOUNESS
MOVING TOWARDS SUPERCONSCIOUNESS
Each week I receive, with interest, a thought provoking “Idea Engineer” from my mentor, Dr. Randin Brons.
I have been fascinate for years by the concept of duality, the two (at least) personalities that exist in each of us. Which one is at the forefront is driven by our level of consciousness.
In getting a life more in tune with what my Higher Power had intended me to have, I had to learn to move from (as defined by Dr. Brons) too much time in the subconscious to a majority of time in the conscious and even at times, the superconscious.
Getting to this life change was a learned skill, and great coaching was instrumental in my achieving change. I invite you to read and reflect on Dr. Bron’s article from this past weekend.
Levels of consciousness
"The greatest discovery of my generation is that man can alter his life simply by altering his attitude of mind." -- William James
Here is one perspective on levels of consciousness and some descriptive words to help us identify the differences:
Not conscious - instinctual, follower
Subconscious - habitual, robotic, reactive
Conscious - aware, intelligent, conceptual, reflective
Superconscious - intuitive, guiding, truthful, loving, universal
Reflect on how you typically move through your day. As we use our minds more consciously, we open up to the superconsciousness.
"Utilizing your conscious mind to direct the subconscious mind to enter into communication and harmony with the universal mind is the secret of personal power." -- Delfin Knowledge System
MOVING TOWARDS SUPERCONSCIOUNESS
Each week I receive, with interest, a thought provoking “Idea Engineer” from my mentor, Dr. Randin Brons.
I have been fascinate for years by the concept of duality, the two (at least) personalities that exist in each of us. Which one is at the forefront is driven by our level of consciousness.
In getting a life more in tune with what my Higher Power had intended me to have, I had to learn to move from (as defined by Dr. Brons) too much time in the subconscious to a majority of time in the conscious and even at times, the superconscious.
Getting to this life change was a learned skill, and great coaching was instrumental in my achieving change. I invite you to read and reflect on Dr. Bron’s article from this past weekend.
Levels of consciousness
"The greatest discovery of my generation is that man can alter his life simply by altering his attitude of mind." -- William James
Here is one perspective on levels of consciousness and some descriptive words to help us identify the differences:
Not conscious - instinctual, follower
Subconscious - habitual, robotic, reactive
Conscious - aware, intelligent, conceptual, reflective
Superconscious - intuitive, guiding, truthful, loving, universal
Reflect on how you typically move through your day. As we use our minds more consciously, we open up to the superconsciousness.
"Utilizing your conscious mind to direct the subconscious mind to enter into communication and harmony with the universal mind is the secret of personal power." -- Delfin Knowledge System
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
अ निघत ऑफ़ HOPE
A NIGHT OF HOPE
Every now and again, we can all use a “shot” of hope. Last night was a great one for me.
With all the stats that I keep seeing on addiction recovery, the exploits of people like Lindsay Lohan and the “name” athletes and celebs we are bombarded with and the tough times we are going through, it is easy to have feelings of “hope” dimmed.
Last night, I had the opportunity to drive down to Toronto and take part is a special evening, one that left me full of hope.
The apple does not fall far from the tree, and not only in my personal situation, but the words of many in attendance, I was reminded of that throughout the evening.
Last night I was asked and happily presented my son with a symbolic medallion to recognize he had completed on full year clean and sober. To be asked by him to this was a real honour, to see him achieve this milestone at a much younger age was terrific. Too bad his grandfather and great grandfather did not have the same experience.
While it was a great moment to be a part of this occasion for my son, my regeneration of hope came from far more than this. During the evening, 4 younger (than me) people were recognized for achieving clean time of one year or more, and each shared a story that showed a positive impact on the people, including spouses and children, who were close to them.
Several other people came forward to be recognized for milestones leading up to one year, and they were all beaming ear to ear!
It was not the recognition of individuals that filled me with hope. It was the fact and living proof that there are many people who are truly recovering from addictions on a daily basis and are transforming their lives; all of them with help on a spiritual basis. They are no longer alone spiritually!
Was I proud of my offspring? Sure was. Was I pleased to be a part of a “helping” community including volunteers and professionals? Yup.
But more than anything, I was thrilled to be a part of an evening where miracles in people’s lives gave hope. Pure and simple. It was a recharging of batteries that were in need of a recharge.
As a friend of mine who is a motivational speaker and trainer taught me long ago, Rule #1 we all should learn is, “life is tough”. There are no exceptions.
As I was reminded last night; while life is tough, there is HOPE for each and every one of us who choose to change. Great HOPE. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Every now and again, we can all use a “shot” of hope. Last night was a great one for me.
With all the stats that I keep seeing on addiction recovery, the exploits of people like Lindsay Lohan and the “name” athletes and celebs we are bombarded with and the tough times we are going through, it is easy to have feelings of “hope” dimmed.
Last night, I had the opportunity to drive down to Toronto and take part is a special evening, one that left me full of hope.
The apple does not fall far from the tree, and not only in my personal situation, but the words of many in attendance, I was reminded of that throughout the evening.
Last night I was asked and happily presented my son with a symbolic medallion to recognize he had completed on full year clean and sober. To be asked by him to this was a real honour, to see him achieve this milestone at a much younger age was terrific. Too bad his grandfather and great grandfather did not have the same experience.
While it was a great moment to be a part of this occasion for my son, my regeneration of hope came from far more than this. During the evening, 4 younger (than me) people were recognized for achieving clean time of one year or more, and each shared a story that showed a positive impact on the people, including spouses and children, who were close to them.
Several other people came forward to be recognized for milestones leading up to one year, and they were all beaming ear to ear!
It was not the recognition of individuals that filled me with hope. It was the fact and living proof that there are many people who are truly recovering from addictions on a daily basis and are transforming their lives; all of them with help on a spiritual basis. They are no longer alone spiritually!
Was I proud of my offspring? Sure was. Was I pleased to be a part of a “helping” community including volunteers and professionals? Yup.
But more than anything, I was thrilled to be a part of an evening where miracles in people’s lives gave hope. Pure and simple. It was a recharging of batteries that were in need of a recharge.
As a friend of mine who is a motivational speaker and trainer taught me long ago, Rule #1 we all should learn is, “life is tough”. There are no exceptions.
As I was reminded last night; while life is tough, there is HOPE for each and every one of us who choose to change. Great HOPE. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
A NIGHT OF HOPE
A NIGHT OF HOPE
A NIGHT OF HOPE
Every now and again, we can all use a “shot” of hope. Last night was a great one for me.
With all the stats that I keep seeing on addiction recovery, the exploits of people like Lindsay Lohan and the “name” athletes and celebs we are bombarded with and the tough times we are going through, it is easy to have feelings of “hope” dimmed.
Last night, I had the opportunity to drive down to Toronto and take part is a special evening, one that left me full of hope.
The apple does not fall far from the tree, and not only in my personal situation, but the words of many in attendance, I was reminded of that throughout the evening.
Last night I was asked and happily presented my son with a symbolic medallion to recognize he had completed on full year clean and sober. To be asked by him to this was a real honour, to see him achieve this milestone at a much younger age was terrific. Too bad his grandfather and great grandfather did not have the same experience.
While it was a great moment to be a part of this occasion for my son, my regeneration of hope came from far more than this. During the evening, 4 younger (than me) people were recognized for achieving clean time of one year or more, and each shared a story that showed a positive impact on the people, including spouses and children, who were close to them.
Several other people came forward to be recognized for milestones leading up to one year, and they were all beaming ear to ear!
It was not the recognition of individuals that filled me with hope. It was the fact and living proof that there are many people who are truly recovering from addictions on a daily basis and are transforming their lives; all of them with help on a spiritual basis. They are no longer alone spiritually!
Was I proud of my offspring? Sure was. Was I pleased to be a part of a “helping” community including volunteers and professionals? Yup.
But more than anything, I was thrilled to be a part of an evening where miracles in people’s lives gave hope. Pure and simple. It was a recharging of batteries that were in need of a recharge.
As a friend of mine who is a motivational speaker and trainer taught me long ago, Rule #1 we all should learn is, “life is tough”. There are no exceptions.
As I was reminded last night; while life is tough, there is HOPE for each and every one of us who choose to change. Great HOPE. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
A NIGHT OF HOPE
Every now and again, we can all use a “shot” of hope. Last night was a great one for me.
With all the stats that I keep seeing on addiction recovery, the exploits of people like Lindsay Lohan and the “name” athletes and celebs we are bombarded with and the tough times we are going through, it is easy to have feelings of “hope” dimmed.
Last night, I had the opportunity to drive down to Toronto and take part is a special evening, one that left me full of hope.
The apple does not fall far from the tree, and not only in my personal situation, but the words of many in attendance, I was reminded of that throughout the evening.
Last night I was asked and happily presented my son with a symbolic medallion to recognize he had completed on full year clean and sober. To be asked by him to this was a real honour, to see him achieve this milestone at a much younger age was terrific. Too bad his grandfather and great grandfather did not have the same experience.
While it was a great moment to be a part of this occasion for my son, my regeneration of hope came from far more than this. During the evening, 4 younger (than me) people were recognized for achieving clean time of one year or more, and each shared a story that showed a positive impact on the people, including spouses and children, who were close to them.
Several other people came forward to be recognized for milestones leading up to one year, and they were all beaming ear to ear!
It was not the recognition of individuals that filled me with hope. It was the fact and living proof that there are many people who are truly recovering from addictions on a daily basis and are transforming their lives; all of them with help on a spiritual basis. They are no longer alone spiritually!
Was I proud of my offspring? Sure was. Was I pleased to be a part of a “helping” community including volunteers and professionals? Yup.
But more than anything, I was thrilled to be a part of an evening where miracles in people’s lives gave hope. Pure and simple. It was a recharging of batteries that were in need of a recharge.
As a friend of mine who is a motivational speaker and trainer taught me long ago, Rule #1 we all should learn is, “life is tough”. There are no exceptions.
As I was reminded last night; while life is tough, there is HOPE for each and every one of us who choose to change. Great HOPE. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Monday, September 27, 2010
WHAT DOES IT TAKE TO MAKE IT?
WHAT DOES IT TAKE TO MAKE IT?
WHAT DOES IT TAKE TO MAKE IT?
Over many years, I have had the privilege of working in a mentoring or coaching role with hundreds. I’ve been in several roles, each of them different in approach, from boss to mentor to sponsor to coach to friend to “trusted confidant” to sponsor. I am hesitant to mention father because this is a very unique role.
The “issues” have varied from work and job related, through life crisis including depression and addiction through family and relationship issues.
There is, in my experience, no one size fits all solution, but there are a few simple things that those who have achieved their definition of success have in common.
“He who requires urging to do a noble act will never accomplish it.”--Kahlil Gibran
As the Gibran quote points out, if a person has to be pushed to do the right thing, it likely will not happen. If your not totally willing to make change and prepared to accept the reality of your situation, chances for achieving YOUR goals is minimal.
In many of the roles I have played, I have just been there for others because I try to be a good mentor, friend, boss, etc. While always hopeful, I will work with others out of a sense of personal duty.
I love my role as coach, I will not work with a person who, prior to agreeing to a coach/client relationship, cannot convince me, they are willing to try new things and accepting that they are at a personal bottom, a place that they want to move up from. They must accept that they had a role in reaching their bottom.
I will not work with clients who are not prepared to be open and honest about their past and present. If they cannot be honest with me as coach, there is a strong probability that they cannot be honest with themselves. In my practise, the mirror is an important client tool and who likes to look at a liar? I work with clients who want to “make it” (as defined by them) and I guarantee success, something unique in my business. Ah, the joys of coaching by choice!
Once I have been convinced a person is willing and has accepted, I ask them for a written commitment to do the work THEY are assigned.
Work you may ask?
Yes homework on a regular and sometimes daily basis. Without hard work and commitment coupled with making change a high priority in your daily life, success will not happen. This is called action.
So you want to make it? You are tired of the life you are living and the lack of joy you are getting? You want an abundant life?
You have your own issues and story. Because of your uniqueness, there is not a cookie cutter solution. HOWEVER, I have tried to share, in a straight forward fashion, things I had to do and are common elements I have witnessed in those who have successfully “made it”. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Are you really prepared to make it or are you kidding yourself?
WHAT DOES IT TAKE TO MAKE IT?
Over many years, I have had the privilege of working in a mentoring or coaching role with hundreds. I’ve been in several roles, each of them different in approach, from boss to mentor to sponsor to coach to friend to “trusted confidant” to sponsor. I am hesitant to mention father because this is a very unique role.
The “issues” have varied from work and job related, through life crisis including depression and addiction through family and relationship issues.
There is, in my experience, no one size fits all solution, but there are a few simple things that those who have achieved their definition of success have in common.
“He who requires urging to do a noble act will never accomplish it.”--Kahlil Gibran
As the Gibran quote points out, if a person has to be pushed to do the right thing, it likely will not happen. If your not totally willing to make change and prepared to accept the reality of your situation, chances for achieving YOUR goals is minimal.
In many of the roles I have played, I have just been there for others because I try to be a good mentor, friend, boss, etc. While always hopeful, I will work with others out of a sense of personal duty.
I love my role as coach, I will not work with a person who, prior to agreeing to a coach/client relationship, cannot convince me, they are willing to try new things and accepting that they are at a personal bottom, a place that they want to move up from. They must accept that they had a role in reaching their bottom.
I will not work with clients who are not prepared to be open and honest about their past and present. If they cannot be honest with me as coach, there is a strong probability that they cannot be honest with themselves. In my practise, the mirror is an important client tool and who likes to look at a liar? I work with clients who want to “make it” (as defined by them) and I guarantee success, something unique in my business. Ah, the joys of coaching by choice!
Once I have been convinced a person is willing and has accepted, I ask them for a written commitment to do the work THEY are assigned.
Work you may ask?
Yes homework on a regular and sometimes daily basis. Without hard work and commitment coupled with making change a high priority in your daily life, success will not happen. This is called action.
So you want to make it? You are tired of the life you are living and the lack of joy you are getting? You want an abundant life?
You have your own issues and story. Because of your uniqueness, there is not a cookie cutter solution. HOWEVER, I have tried to share, in a straight forward fashion, things I had to do and are common elements I have witnessed in those who have successfully “made it”. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Are you really prepared to make it or are you kidding yourself?
वहत दोएस आईटी टेक तो मके आईटी?
WHAT DOES IT TAKE TO MAKE IT?
Over many years, I have had the privilege of working in a mentoring or coaching role with hundreds. I’ve been in several roles, each of them different in approach, from boss to mentor to sponsor to coach to friend to “trusted confidant” to sponsor. I am hesitant to mention father because this is a very unique role.
The “issues” have varied from work and job related, through life crisis including depression and addiction through family and relationship issues.
There is, in my experience, no one size fits all solution, but there are a few simple things that those who have achieved their definition of success have in common.
“He who requires urging to do a noble act will never accomplish it.”--Kahlil Gibran
As the Gibran quote points out, if a person has to be pushed to do the right thing, it likely will not happen. If your not totally willing to make change and prepared to accept the reality of your situation, chances for achieving YOUR goals is minimal.
In many of the roles I have played, I have just been there for others because I try to be a good mentor, friend, boss, etc. While always hopeful, I will work with others out of a sense of personal duty.
I love my role as coach, I will not work with a person who, prior to agreeing to a coach/client relationship, cannot convince me, they are willing to try new things and accepting that they are at a personal bottom, a place that they want to move up from. They must accept that they had a role in reaching their bottom.
I will not work with clients who are not prepared to be open and honest about their past and present. If they cannot be honest with me as coach, there is a strong probability that they cannot be honest with themselves. In my practise, the mirror is an important client tool and who likes to look at a liar? I work with clients who want to “make it” (as defined by them) and I guarantee success, something unique in my business. Ah, the joys of coaching by choice!
Once I have been convinced a person is willing and has accepted, I ask them for a written commitment to do the work THEY are assigned.
Work you may ask?
Yes homework on a regular and sometimes daily basis. Without hard work and commitment coupled with making change a high priority in your daily life, success will not happen. This is called action.
So you want to make it? You are tired of the life you are living and the lack of joy you are getting? You want an abundant life?
You have your own issues and story. Because of your uniqueness, there is not a cookie cutter solution. HOWEVER, I have tried to share, in a straight forward fashion, things I had to do and are common elements I have witnessed in those who have successfully “made it”. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Are you really prepared to make it or are you kidding yourself?
Over many years, I have had the privilege of working in a mentoring or coaching role with hundreds. I’ve been in several roles, each of them different in approach, from boss to mentor to sponsor to coach to friend to “trusted confidant” to sponsor. I am hesitant to mention father because this is a very unique role.
The “issues” have varied from work and job related, through life crisis including depression and addiction through family and relationship issues.
There is, in my experience, no one size fits all solution, but there are a few simple things that those who have achieved their definition of success have in common.
“He who requires urging to do a noble act will never accomplish it.”--Kahlil Gibran
As the Gibran quote points out, if a person has to be pushed to do the right thing, it likely will not happen. If your not totally willing to make change and prepared to accept the reality of your situation, chances for achieving YOUR goals is minimal.
In many of the roles I have played, I have just been there for others because I try to be a good mentor, friend, boss, etc. While always hopeful, I will work with others out of a sense of personal duty.
I love my role as coach, I will not work with a person who, prior to agreeing to a coach/client relationship, cannot convince me, they are willing to try new things and accepting that they are at a personal bottom, a place that they want to move up from. They must accept that they had a role in reaching their bottom.
I will not work with clients who are not prepared to be open and honest about their past and present. If they cannot be honest with me as coach, there is a strong probability that they cannot be honest with themselves. In my practise, the mirror is an important client tool and who likes to look at a liar? I work with clients who want to “make it” (as defined by them) and I guarantee success, something unique in my business. Ah, the joys of coaching by choice!
Once I have been convinced a person is willing and has accepted, I ask them for a written commitment to do the work THEY are assigned.
Work you may ask?
Yes homework on a regular and sometimes daily basis. Without hard work and commitment coupled with making change a high priority in your daily life, success will not happen. This is called action.
So you want to make it? You are tired of the life you are living and the lack of joy you are getting? You want an abundant life?
You have your own issues and story. Because of your uniqueness, there is not a cookie cutter solution. HOWEVER, I have tried to share, in a straight forward fashion, things I had to do and are common elements I have witnessed in those who have successfully “made it”. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Are you really prepared to make it or are you kidding yourself?
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
सीर्चिंग फॉर यू?
SEARCHING FOR YOU?
Another thought provoking article from my coaching mentor, Dr. Randin Brons, in his Idea Engineer.
How many of us go through life trying to “find ourselves”?
As a coach, one of the things I work with clients on frequently is getting out of their own way. I am a great believer that we all must have a conscious spiritual (not religious) component alive in our lives. Sometimes we need help to find that we have it, all we have to do is be conscious! It’s not something that we have to work at; it already exists. The real you is a spiritual being.
"The anxious student asked the Zen master how long to enlightenment. The Zen Master answered a long time, at least 10 years. The student said, "Well I will work twice as hard." The Zen master said, "Then it will take 20 years." "No!" said the committed student, "I will work three times as hard." "Well then," said the Zen master, "it will take 30 years."
Do you need to work at being spiritual? No. You already are spiritual. Do you need to work at being human? No. That's just who you are.
The spiritual path doesn't require us to get anything. It's a process of opening to new dimensions of who we already are. It's a process of awakening to our own truth. It's a process of allowing ourselves to be authentic.”
"It is not by your actions that you will be saved, but by your being." -- Meister Eckhart
"People ask what must they become to be loving. The answer is 'nothing.' It is a process of letting go of what you thought you had become and allowing your true nature to float to the surface naturally." -- Stephen Levine
If there are things in here that make sense to you, and you want to delve into more deeply, let’s talk. Possibly we can help you get out of the way of you and discover your true self! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Another thought provoking article from my coaching mentor, Dr. Randin Brons, in his Idea Engineer.
How many of us go through life trying to “find ourselves”?
As a coach, one of the things I work with clients on frequently is getting out of their own way. I am a great believer that we all must have a conscious spiritual (not religious) component alive in our lives. Sometimes we need help to find that we have it, all we have to do is be conscious! It’s not something that we have to work at; it already exists. The real you is a spiritual being.
"The anxious student asked the Zen master how long to enlightenment. The Zen Master answered a long time, at least 10 years. The student said, "Well I will work twice as hard." The Zen master said, "Then it will take 20 years." "No!" said the committed student, "I will work three times as hard." "Well then," said the Zen master, "it will take 30 years."
Do you need to work at being spiritual? No. You already are spiritual. Do you need to work at being human? No. That's just who you are.
The spiritual path doesn't require us to get anything. It's a process of opening to new dimensions of who we already are. It's a process of awakening to our own truth. It's a process of allowing ourselves to be authentic.”
"It is not by your actions that you will be saved, but by your being." -- Meister Eckhart
"People ask what must they become to be loving. The answer is 'nothing.' It is a process of letting go of what you thought you had become and allowing your true nature to float to the surface naturally." -- Stephen Levine
If there are things in here that make sense to you, and you want to delve into more deeply, let’s talk. Possibly we can help you get out of the way of you and discover your true self! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
SEARCHING FOR YOU?
SEARCHING FOR YOU?
SEARCHING FOR YOU?
Another thought provoking article from my coaching mentor, Dr. Randin Brons, in his Idea Engineer.
How many of us go through life trying to “find ourselves”?
As a coach, one of the things I work with clients on frequently is getting out of their own way. I am a great believer that we all must have a conscious spiritual (not religious) component alive in our lives. Sometimes we need help to find that we have it, all we have to do is be conscious! It’s not something that we have to work at; it already exists. The real you is a spiritual being.
"The anxious student asked the Zen master how long to enlightenment. The Zen Master answered a long time, at least 10 years. The student said, "Well I will work twice as hard." The Zen master said, "Then it will take 20 years." "No!" said the committed student, "I will work three times as hard." "Well then," said the Zen master, "it will take 30 years."
Do you need to work at being spiritual? No. You already are spiritual. Do you need to work at being human? No. That's just who you are.
The spiritual path doesn't require us to get anything. It's a process of opening to new dimensions of who we already are. It's a process of awakening to our own truth. It's a process of allowing ourselves to be authentic.”
"It is not by your actions that you will be saved, but by your being." -- Meister Eckhart
"People ask what must they become to be loving. The answer is 'nothing.' It is a process of letting go of what you thought you had become and allowing your true nature to float to the surface naturally." -- Stephen Levine
If there are things in here that make sense to you, and you want to delve into more deeply, let’s talk. Possibly we can help you get out of the way of you and discover your true self! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
SEARCHING FOR YOU?
Another thought provoking article from my coaching mentor, Dr. Randin Brons, in his Idea Engineer.
How many of us go through life trying to “find ourselves”?
As a coach, one of the things I work with clients on frequently is getting out of their own way. I am a great believer that we all must have a conscious spiritual (not religious) component alive in our lives. Sometimes we need help to find that we have it, all we have to do is be conscious! It’s not something that we have to work at; it already exists. The real you is a spiritual being.
"The anxious student asked the Zen master how long to enlightenment. The Zen Master answered a long time, at least 10 years. The student said, "Well I will work twice as hard." The Zen master said, "Then it will take 20 years." "No!" said the committed student, "I will work three times as hard." "Well then," said the Zen master, "it will take 30 years."
Do you need to work at being spiritual? No. You already are spiritual. Do you need to work at being human? No. That's just who you are.
The spiritual path doesn't require us to get anything. It's a process of opening to new dimensions of who we already are. It's a process of awakening to our own truth. It's a process of allowing ourselves to be authentic.”
"It is not by your actions that you will be saved, but by your being." -- Meister Eckhart
"People ask what must they become to be loving. The answer is 'nothing.' It is a process of letting go of what you thought you had become and allowing your true nature to float to the surface naturally." -- Stephen Levine
If there are things in here that make sense to you, and you want to delve into more deeply, let’s talk. Possibly we can help you get out of the way of you and discover your true self! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Thursday, September 16, 2010
टॉप १० रेअसोंस इ USE
TOP TEN REASONS I USE
From my friend Patrick Meninga at “Spiritual River”, I want to share this article with you. If you see yourself in it, you need to talk with someone before you become a statistic!
The Top 10 Excuses that Addicts and Alcoholics Use to Justify Their Addiction – and Why it is All BS
Excuse #1: “I have to drink/use drugs in order to work or continue to be successful.”
Oh really? Is that why you….
Perhaps the real truth of the matter is….
…your career actually suffers due to your addiction, rather than being empowered by your drinking or drug use.
When I was still using drugs and alcohol, I tried to rationalize that drinking and drugging was beneficial to my work in different ways. After getting clean and sober, I have made huge leaps in my career and what I do for meaningful work in my life. The truth is that my drinking was severely limiting me, not empowering me.
Excuse #2: “I need to drink/use drugs in order to be social.”
Oh really? Is that why you….
Perhaps the real truth of the matter is….
…your drinking and drug use may have resulted in some occasional “fun times” in social environments, but over the long term it only serves to isolate you further. Not only that, but the true addict or alcoholic will eventually go overboard, use more than they planned on, and end up in embarrassing situations that they would have otherwise liked to avoid.
The truth is that we see ourselves as being “tragically hip and fatally cool” when we are intoxicated or high, but everyone else just thinks we are lame, or boring. Get over yourself.
Excuse #3: “I’m not hurting anyone else.”
Oh really? Is that why you….
PLEASE READ THE REST OF THIS ARTICLE AT www.hopeserenity.ca. Bet you find your excuse in here!
From my friend Patrick Meninga at “Spiritual River”, I want to share this article with you. If you see yourself in it, you need to talk with someone before you become a statistic!
The Top 10 Excuses that Addicts and Alcoholics Use to Justify Their Addiction – and Why it is All BS
Excuse #1: “I have to drink/use drugs in order to work or continue to be successful.”
Oh really? Is that why you….
Perhaps the real truth of the matter is….
…your career actually suffers due to your addiction, rather than being empowered by your drinking or drug use.
When I was still using drugs and alcohol, I tried to rationalize that drinking and drugging was beneficial to my work in different ways. After getting clean and sober, I have made huge leaps in my career and what I do for meaningful work in my life. The truth is that my drinking was severely limiting me, not empowering me.
Excuse #2: “I need to drink/use drugs in order to be social.”
Oh really? Is that why you….
Perhaps the real truth of the matter is….
…your drinking and drug use may have resulted in some occasional “fun times” in social environments, but over the long term it only serves to isolate you further. Not only that, but the true addict or alcoholic will eventually go overboard, use more than they planned on, and end up in embarrassing situations that they would have otherwise liked to avoid.
The truth is that we see ourselves as being “tragically hip and fatally cool” when we are intoxicated or high, but everyone else just thinks we are lame, or boring. Get over yourself.
Excuse #3: “I’m not hurting anyone else.”
Oh really? Is that why you….
PLEASE READ THE REST OF THIS ARTICLE AT www.hopeserenity.ca. Bet you find your excuse in here!
TOP TEN REASONS I USE
TOP TEN REASONS I USE
TOP TEN REASONS I USE
From my friend Patrick Meninga at “Spiritual River”, I want to share this article with you. If you see yourself in it, you need to talk with someone before you become a statistic!
The Top 10 Excuses that Addicts and Alcoholics Use to Justify Their Addiction – and Why it is All BS
Excuse #1: “I have to drink/use drugs in order to work or continue to be successful.”
Oh really? Is that why you….
Perhaps the real truth of the matter is….
…your career actually suffers due to your addiction, rather than being empowered by your drinking or drug use.
When I was still using drugs and alcohol, I tried to rationalize that drinking and drugging was beneficial to my work in different ways. After getting clean and sober, I have made huge leaps in my career and what I do for meaningful work in my life. The truth is that my drinking was severely limiting me, not empowering me.
Excuse #2: “I need to drink/use drugs in order to be social.”
Oh really? Is that why you….
Perhaps the real truth of the matter is….
…your drinking and drug use may have resulted in some occasional “fun times” in social environments, but over the long term it only serves to isolate you further. Not only that, but the true addict or alcoholic will eventually go overboard, use more than they planned on, and end up in embarrassing situations that they would have otherwise liked to avoid.
The truth is that we see ourselves as being “tragically hip and fatally cool” when we are intoxicated or high, but everyone else just thinks we are lame, or boring. Get over yourself.
Excuse #3: “I’m not hurting anyone else.”
Oh really? Is that why you….
PLEASE READ THE REST OF THIS ARTICLE AT www.hopeserenity.ca. Bet you find your excuse in here!
TOP TEN REASONS I USE
From my friend Patrick Meninga at “Spiritual River”, I want to share this article with you. If you see yourself in it, you need to talk with someone before you become a statistic!
The Top 10 Excuses that Addicts and Alcoholics Use to Justify Their Addiction – and Why it is All BS
Excuse #1: “I have to drink/use drugs in order to work or continue to be successful.”
Oh really? Is that why you….
Perhaps the real truth of the matter is….
…your career actually suffers due to your addiction, rather than being empowered by your drinking or drug use.
When I was still using drugs and alcohol, I tried to rationalize that drinking and drugging was beneficial to my work in different ways. After getting clean and sober, I have made huge leaps in my career and what I do for meaningful work in my life. The truth is that my drinking was severely limiting me, not empowering me.
Excuse #2: “I need to drink/use drugs in order to be social.”
Oh really? Is that why you….
Perhaps the real truth of the matter is….
…your drinking and drug use may have resulted in some occasional “fun times” in social environments, but over the long term it only serves to isolate you further. Not only that, but the true addict or alcoholic will eventually go overboard, use more than they planned on, and end up in embarrassing situations that they would have otherwise liked to avoid.
The truth is that we see ourselves as being “tragically hip and fatally cool” when we are intoxicated or high, but everyone else just thinks we are lame, or boring. Get over yourself.
Excuse #3: “I’m not hurting anyone else.”
Oh really? Is that why you….
PLEASE READ THE REST OF THIS ARTICLE AT www.hopeserenity.ca. Bet you find your excuse in here!
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