Friday, February 26, 2010
HUMILITY:Tough Concept
HUMILITY:Tough Concept
HUMILITY: TOUGH CONCEPT
Every time I get a good reading focused around humility, it causes me to reflect back.
I can remember back to the time when I was sure humility had something to do with humiliation, and gosh knows that my life style had caused enough of that. I was not openly boastful and naturally thought I was a humble man. But give me a compliment, even the most sincerest of compliments and watch how I fumbled. It seemed like the simple response "Thank You" never crossed my mind; I always had a self-defacing response.
A good reminder from a good book:
Humility
Perpetual quietness of heart. It is to have no trouble.
It is never to be fretted or vexed, irritable or sore;
It is to be at rest when nobody praises me, and when I am blamed or despised,
to wonder at nothing that is done against me. it is to have a blessed home in myself where I can go and shut the door and kneel to my Father in secret and be at peace, as in a deep sea of calmness, when all around and about is seeming trouble.
- Dr. Bob and the Good Oldtimers, p. 222
Thought to Ponder . .
Humility is not a station we arrive at; it's a way of traveling.
I marvel constantly at the changes that have occurred within me during the journey of recovery and I know there are more to come. It is a wonderful thing that I have been taught, to have a blessed home in myself where I can be at peace.
With that being said, I'm grateful to have the opportunity to be heading for Dothan Alabama for a week or so of golf and fellowship! My HP is going with me, and I will be away from my office until about March 9. We all need a break to help maintain balance.
HUMILITY: TOUGH CONCEPT
Every time I get a good reading focused around humility, it causes me to reflect back.
I can remember back to the time when I was sure humility had something to do with humiliation, and gosh knows that my life style had caused enough of that. I was not openly boastful and naturally thought I was a humble man. But give me a compliment, even the most sincerest of compliments and watch how I fumbled. It seemed like the simple response "Thank You" never crossed my mind; I always had a self-defacing response.
A good reminder from a good book:
Humility
Perpetual quietness of heart. It is to have no trouble.
It is never to be fretted or vexed, irritable or sore;
It is to be at rest when nobody praises me, and when I am blamed or despised,
to wonder at nothing that is done against me. it is to have a blessed home in myself where I can go and shut the door and kneel to my Father in secret and be at peace, as in a deep sea of calmness, when all around and about is seeming trouble.
- Dr. Bob and the Good Oldtimers, p. 222
Thought to Ponder . .
Humility is not a station we arrive at; it's a way of traveling.
I marvel constantly at the changes that have occurred within me during the journey of recovery and I know there are more to come. It is a wonderful thing that I have been taught, to have a blessed home in myself where I can be at peace.
With that being said, I'm grateful to have the opportunity to be heading for Dothan Alabama for a week or so of golf and fellowship! My HP is going with me, and I will be away from my office until about March 9. We all need a break to help maintain balance.
हुमिलिटी:अ तौघ CONCEPT
HUMILITY: TOUGH CONCEPT
Every time I get a good reading focused around humility, it causes me to reflect back.
I can remember back to the time when I was sure humility had something to do with humiliation, and gosh knows that my life style had caused enough of that. I was not openly boastful and naturally thought I was a humble man. But give me a compliment, even the most sincerest of compliments and watch how I fumbled. It seemed like the simple response "Thank You" never crossed my mind; I always had a self-defacing response.
A good reminder from a good book:
Humility
Perpetual quietness of heart. It is to have no trouble.
It is never to be fretted or vexed, irritable or sore;
It is to be at rest when nobody praises me, and when I am blamed or despised,
to wonder at nothing that is done against me. it is to have a blessed home in myself where I can go and shut the door and kneel to my Father in secret and be at peace, as in a deep sea of calmness, when all around and about is seeming trouble.
- Dr. Bob and the Good Oldtimers, p. 222
Thought to Ponder . .
Humility is not a station we arrive at; it's a way of traveling.
I marvel constantly at the changes that have occurred within me during the journey of recovery and I know there are more to come. It is a wonderful thing that I have been taught, to have a blessed home in myself where I can be at peace.
With that being said, I'm grateful to have the opportunity to be heading for Dothan Alabama for a week or so of golf and fellowship! My HP is going with me, and I will be away from my office until about March 9. We all need a break to help maintain balance.
Every time I get a good reading focused around humility, it causes me to reflect back.
I can remember back to the time when I was sure humility had something to do with humiliation, and gosh knows that my life style had caused enough of that. I was not openly boastful and naturally thought I was a humble man. But give me a compliment, even the most sincerest of compliments and watch how I fumbled. It seemed like the simple response "Thank You" never crossed my mind; I always had a self-defacing response.
A good reminder from a good book:
Humility
Perpetual quietness of heart. It is to have no trouble.
It is never to be fretted or vexed, irritable or sore;
It is to be at rest when nobody praises me, and when I am blamed or despised,
to wonder at nothing that is done against me. it is to have a blessed home in myself where I can go and shut the door and kneel to my Father in secret and be at peace, as in a deep sea of calmness, when all around and about is seeming trouble.
- Dr. Bob and the Good Oldtimers, p. 222
Thought to Ponder . .
Humility is not a station we arrive at; it's a way of traveling.
I marvel constantly at the changes that have occurred within me during the journey of recovery and I know there are more to come. It is a wonderful thing that I have been taught, to have a blessed home in myself where I can be at peace.
With that being said, I'm grateful to have the opportunity to be heading for Dothan Alabama for a week or so of golf and fellowship! My HP is going with me, and I will be away from my office until about March 9. We all need a break to help maintain balance.
अ सिम्प्ले शेयर ओं WHY
SIMPLE SHARE on WHY
Why did I feel it necessary to get "help" and get a coach?
My simple story.
In 1994 I hit a wall. I was "sick and tired of being sick and tired" emotionally. While my self-employment was earning me a good living, many things around me were going unglued and I was turning far more frequently to mood altering substances and behaviours to "escape". I did not really like who I saw in the mirror and felt a soul pain inside. I had learned to shut down or drown out the small quiet voice of good inside.
My life was not in balance and my marriage was at the brink of failure.
I had truly thought I could fix or control things myself, and was in conscious denial to myself on how bad things really were. My ego was large, my self-esteem low and this caused a huge conflict. Ever felt that way?
In my early life, I had been a decent athlete and "coaches" had helped me to perform at higher levels and showed me how to push myself. They listened and supported at a time when I needed to be heard and supported. Thanks to great coaches I stayed in school and gained a measure of self-confidence. I knew coaching worked in the sports arena and today appreciate the huge impact coaches had on my life in total.
When I hit the wall in 1994, I turned to "professional" coaches in specialized areas to help me deal with specific issues. Among them were professionals in marriage and relationships, substance abuse and a psychologist. Later in my recovery I have used a "Life Coach", Career Coach and a Psychiatrist as well as my family doctor. All this done by a person most of the world thought was reasonably well adjusted. Thank god for the help I got.
I got more professional help through a well known treatment centre and this included spiritual help, certainly not religious. Over and above, I have received "free" help through a 12 step fellowship and "friends", including a sponsor, from within this fellowship.
The result.
At 46 I was able to dramatically transform my life. Not to a "perfect" or trouble free life, but to a life where I respect myself, love others honestly, set goals and achieve them through action, give back to others and my community and generally enjoy life. I have been blessed to be a participant in continuous learning and in 2008 was able to go back to school and gain professional qualifications as a coach. This, combined with my genuine love of people, has allowed me to qualify as a professional coach and to help others achieve what they determine to be success. The last 16 years have been the largest period of growth and personal achievement in my life and I owe it to getting outstanding coaching.
So the answer to the original question.
Once I parked my ego, I got coaching to help me identify the skills I had, set goals and use the skills and tools acquired. I wanted a "real life" and could not do it on my own.
This is my personal experience and the reason I am so privileged to share and work with others. Want to talk? I am a trained listener and am here to offer you support
Why did I feel it necessary to get "help" and get a coach?
My simple story.
In 1994 I hit a wall. I was "sick and tired of being sick and tired" emotionally. While my self-employment was earning me a good living, many things around me were going unglued and I was turning far more frequently to mood altering substances and behaviours to "escape". I did not really like who I saw in the mirror and felt a soul pain inside. I had learned to shut down or drown out the small quiet voice of good inside.
My life was not in balance and my marriage was at the brink of failure.
I had truly thought I could fix or control things myself, and was in conscious denial to myself on how bad things really were. My ego was large, my self-esteem low and this caused a huge conflict. Ever felt that way?
In my early life, I had been a decent athlete and "coaches" had helped me to perform at higher levels and showed me how to push myself. They listened and supported at a time when I needed to be heard and supported. Thanks to great coaches I stayed in school and gained a measure of self-confidence. I knew coaching worked in the sports arena and today appreciate the huge impact coaches had on my life in total.
When I hit the wall in 1994, I turned to "professional" coaches in specialized areas to help me deal with specific issues. Among them were professionals in marriage and relationships, substance abuse and a psychologist. Later in my recovery I have used a "Life Coach", Career Coach and a Psychiatrist as well as my family doctor. All this done by a person most of the world thought was reasonably well adjusted. Thank god for the help I got.
I got more professional help through a well known treatment centre and this included spiritual help, certainly not religious. Over and above, I have received "free" help through a 12 step fellowship and "friends", including a sponsor, from within this fellowship.
The result.
At 46 I was able to dramatically transform my life. Not to a "perfect" or trouble free life, but to a life where I respect myself, love others honestly, set goals and achieve them through action, give back to others and my community and generally enjoy life. I have been blessed to be a participant in continuous learning and in 2008 was able to go back to school and gain professional qualifications as a coach. This, combined with my genuine love of people, has allowed me to qualify as a professional coach and to help others achieve what they determine to be success. The last 16 years have been the largest period of growth and personal achievement in my life and I owe it to getting outstanding coaching.
So the answer to the original question.
Once I parked my ego, I got coaching to help me identify the skills I had, set goals and use the skills and tools acquired. I wanted a "real life" and could not do it on my own.
This is my personal experience and the reason I am so privileged to share and work with others. Want to talk? I am a trained listener and am here to offer you support
Wednesday, February 24, 2010
स्पिरितुअलिटी-यौर थौघ्ट्स?
Spirituality
So what does the word “spirituality” mean to you?
There are so many that I interface with that immediately put the concepts of spirituality and religion together, almost as if they are the same thing. For many, words like spirituality and God cause recoil and set up major road blocks to life improvement and gaining new freedoms. As my friend Dennis would say “’Tis a shame”.
I must admit, when I was first made aware of the 12 steps and saw the word God and was told it was a spiritual program, I moved away like the hand from a hot burner.
There is so much wisdom contained in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, good for alcoholics, but also good for most human beings. We have all faced struggles. I often use quotes from the BB and think this one is very good.
“The idea that religion and spirituality were not one and the same was a new notion . . .Reluctantly, I opened my mind to the fact that maybe, just maybe, there was something to this spiritual lifestyle.
Slowly, but surely, I realized there was indeed a Power greater than myself, and I soon found myself with a full-time God in my life. . . “
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 287
Thought to Ponder . . .A spiritual awakening is our greatest gift.
I am glad that there came a time when my mind opened and I became teachable. I began to appreciate that I could live a spiritual life without becoming part of a religion. For many, the spiritual way does involve a strong religious component, and that is OK for those who find strength there; to date I have not had the need to join a religion but continue on a path of spiritual growth and discovery.
The BB, in the 12th step, refers to a spiritual awakening that will occur as a result of work done in completing the 12 steps. It wasn’t what I initially thought it would be.
I have experienced a spiritual awakening in my life and it manifests itself in a major change in attitude. I do know there is a power greater than me at work and that power gives me life a new Good Orderly Direction. I guess I’m safe in calling it a full-time God.
Many proclaim to be spiritual, many still deny a need. What does “spirituality” mean to you? Share, if you will, here or at www.hope-serenity.com.
So what does the word “spirituality” mean to you?
There are so many that I interface with that immediately put the concepts of spirituality and religion together, almost as if they are the same thing. For many, words like spirituality and God cause recoil and set up major road blocks to life improvement and gaining new freedoms. As my friend Dennis would say “’Tis a shame”.
I must admit, when I was first made aware of the 12 steps and saw the word God and was told it was a spiritual program, I moved away like the hand from a hot burner.
There is so much wisdom contained in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, good for alcoholics, but also good for most human beings. We have all faced struggles. I often use quotes from the BB and think this one is very good.
“The idea that religion and spirituality were not one and the same was a new notion . . .Reluctantly, I opened my mind to the fact that maybe, just maybe, there was something to this spiritual lifestyle.
Slowly, but surely, I realized there was indeed a Power greater than myself, and I soon found myself with a full-time God in my life. . . “
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 287
Thought to Ponder . . .A spiritual awakening is our greatest gift.
I am glad that there came a time when my mind opened and I became teachable. I began to appreciate that I could live a spiritual life without becoming part of a religion. For many, the spiritual way does involve a strong religious component, and that is OK for those who find strength there; to date I have not had the need to join a religion but continue on a path of spiritual growth and discovery.
The BB, in the 12th step, refers to a spiritual awakening that will occur as a result of work done in completing the 12 steps. It wasn’t what I initially thought it would be.
I have experienced a spiritual awakening in my life and it manifests itself in a major change in attitude. I do know there is a power greater than me at work and that power gives me life a new Good Orderly Direction. I guess I’m safe in calling it a full-time God.
Many proclaim to be spiritual, many still deny a need. What does “spirituality” mean to you? Share, if you will, here or at www.hope-serenity.com.
SPIRITUALITY-MEANING TO YOU?
SPIRITUALITY-MEANING TO YOU?
Spirituality
So what does the word “spirituality” mean to you?
There are so many that I interface with that immediately put the concepts of spirituality and religion together, almost as if they are the same thing. For many, words like spirituality and God cause recoil and set up major road blocks to life improvement and gaining new freedoms. As my friend Dennis would say “’Tis a shame”.
I must admit, when I was first made aware of the 12 steps and saw the word God and was told it was a spiritual program, I moved away like the hand from a hot burner.
There is so much wisdom contained in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, good for alcoholics, but also good for most human beings. We have all faced struggles. I often use quotes from the BB and think this one is very good.
“The idea that religion and spirituality were not one and the same was a new notion . . .Reluctantly, I opened my mind to the fact that maybe, just maybe, there was something to this spiritual lifestyle.
Slowly, but surely, I realized there was indeed a Power greater than myself, and I soon found myself with a full-time God in my life. . . “
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 287
Thought to Ponder . . .A spiritual awakening is our greatest gift.
I am glad that there came a time when my mind opened and I became teachable. I began to appreciate that I could live a spiritual life without becoming part of a religion. For many, the spiritual way does involve a strong religious component, and that is OK for those who find strength there; to date I have not had the need to join a religion but continue on a path of spiritual growth and discovery.
The BB, in the 12th step, refers to a spiritual awakening that will occur as a result of work done in completing the 12 steps. It wasn’t what I initially thought it would be.
I have experienced a spiritual awakening in my life and it manifests itself in a major change in attitude. I do know there is a power greater than me at work and that power gives me life a new Good Orderly Direction. I guess I’m safe in calling it a full-time God.
Many proclaim to be spiritual, many still deny a need. What does “spirituality” mean to you? Share, if you will, here or at www.hope-serenity.com.
Spirituality
So what does the word “spirituality” mean to you?
There are so many that I interface with that immediately put the concepts of spirituality and religion together, almost as if they are the same thing. For many, words like spirituality and God cause recoil and set up major road blocks to life improvement and gaining new freedoms. As my friend Dennis would say “’Tis a shame”.
I must admit, when I was first made aware of the 12 steps and saw the word God and was told it was a spiritual program, I moved away like the hand from a hot burner.
There is so much wisdom contained in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, good for alcoholics, but also good for most human beings. We have all faced struggles. I often use quotes from the BB and think this one is very good.
“The idea that religion and spirituality were not one and the same was a new notion . . .Reluctantly, I opened my mind to the fact that maybe, just maybe, there was something to this spiritual lifestyle.
Slowly, but surely, I realized there was indeed a Power greater than myself, and I soon found myself with a full-time God in my life. . . “
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 287
Thought to Ponder . . .A spiritual awakening is our greatest gift.
I am glad that there came a time when my mind opened and I became teachable. I began to appreciate that I could live a spiritual life without becoming part of a religion. For many, the spiritual way does involve a strong religious component, and that is OK for those who find strength there; to date I have not had the need to join a religion but continue on a path of spiritual growth and discovery.
The BB, in the 12th step, refers to a spiritual awakening that will occur as a result of work done in completing the 12 steps. It wasn’t what I initially thought it would be.
I have experienced a spiritual awakening in my life and it manifests itself in a major change in attitude. I do know there is a power greater than me at work and that power gives me life a new Good Orderly Direction. I guess I’m safe in calling it a full-time God.
Many proclaim to be spiritual, many still deny a need. What does “spirituality” mean to you? Share, if you will, here or at www.hope-serenity.com.
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
MAKE EACH DAY EASIER
MAKE EACH DAY EASIER
MAKE EACH DAY EASIER
Each week I look forward to my “Idea Engineer” from my coaching mentor Dr. Randin Brons. On a regular basis, it delivers to me a reminder of some practical thinking, and usually is a thought that I need to be reminded of.
While I’m not sure that I “dance” through days, I do know that since embarking on a process of life recovery, I have been able to see solutions on a far more regular basis.
Dance through your day
"Only one thing has to change for us to know happiness in our lives: where we focus our attention." -- Greg Anderson
What do you usually focus on: problems or solutions?
When our mind dwells on a problem, we stay stuck. Woe is me! But when we can shift to ask how we might achieve a solution to our problem, our subconscious mind, thinking and creativity move into gear. New possibilities open up.
Get in the habit of asking for solutions!
"Every choice moves us closer to or farther away from something. Where are your choices taking your life? What do your behaviors demonstrate that you are saying yes or no to in life?" -- Eric Allenbaugh
Today I can easily accept that there are problems I face in life. Looking for solutions, for me, has been a learned skill. There was a time I could stay stuck on a problem and at times, see no way out. Today I have the skills to acknowledge a problem and seek solutions, and funny enough, by taking action, solutions are found!
This learned skill certainly allows me to face each day in a far more positive way.
MAKE EACH DAY EASIER
Each week I look forward to my “Idea Engineer” from my coaching mentor Dr. Randin Brons. On a regular basis, it delivers to me a reminder of some practical thinking, and usually is a thought that I need to be reminded of.
While I’m not sure that I “dance” through days, I do know that since embarking on a process of life recovery, I have been able to see solutions on a far more regular basis.
Dance through your day
"Only one thing has to change for us to know happiness in our lives: where we focus our attention." -- Greg Anderson
What do you usually focus on: problems or solutions?
When our mind dwells on a problem, we stay stuck. Woe is me! But when we can shift to ask how we might achieve a solution to our problem, our subconscious mind, thinking and creativity move into gear. New possibilities open up.
Get in the habit of asking for solutions!
"Every choice moves us closer to or farther away from something. Where are your choices taking your life? What do your behaviors demonstrate that you are saying yes or no to in life?" -- Eric Allenbaugh
Today I can easily accept that there are problems I face in life. Looking for solutions, for me, has been a learned skill. There was a time I could stay stuck on a problem and at times, see no way out. Today I have the skills to acknowledge a problem and seek solutions, and funny enough, by taking action, solutions are found!
This learned skill certainly allows me to face each day in a far more positive way.
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