I've Heard It (Said It) Before
I’ve Heard It (Said It) Before
I was out last week for a meeting not related to my work but for a “community organization”. During the course of the conversation I was asked what I do for a living.
When I told the person, his eyes opened wide, he stated this has happened for a reason, and called another family member in. Funny, they have a family member who has a problem and appears to be in denial about it.
This happens frequently with people I meet; its’ usually never them, but they know someone. Funny, at a point going back in my life I would have said I knew someone who had a problem (my wife would have said the same thing) but I would never have said it was they guy in the mirror. My wife would have pointed me out!
Funny how that works!!
Most addicted people, or people with living issues for that matter, are in denial. While many on the outside may admit they have some issues, most are not being honest. People who care about them want to believe but the funny things, with 10%+ of the population having an addiction (or major living) issue, the truth is the addicted LIE to themselves and to others.
Question is- how do you know when they are lying?
A good friend of mind, Patrick Meninga who writes “Spiritual River” has just done a great article on this. I have posted it in full on my web site, www.hopeserenity.ca. If this article is ringing true with you, I invite you to go over to my site, and read Patrick’s article in full. It certainly hit home with a couple of addicted friends and family in my life!
Thursday, November 4, 2010
Tuesday, November 2, 2010
बे त्रुए तो सेल्फ!
BE TRUE TO SELF!
And this above all, to thine own self be true. And it must follow as night the day, thou canst not be false to any man.
--Shakespeare
"To thine own self be true." "Live the life you were meant to live." "Be the person you were meant to be." These statements convey a wonderful truth. They form the basic philosophies coaches have about clients - that when we go inside and trust our intuition, life opens before us. When we ignore our inner leanings, however, trouble arises.
Many love their families or have a true passion for a hobby. They get so involved and overdo other things-work, sports, addictions, gaming, etc. One day they face a real scare- illness, death- and realize they have missed those things that are truly important to them.
I have learned the hard way, I must be true to the things that are really important before the opportunity is lost. I cannot live as I think others may want me to live.
Why not start off with the right fit? Acknowledge your unique gifts and talents, as well as your wants and needs. Then seek out situations and circumstances that will allow them their full expression. This route may take time, but the results are worth it - a life of peace and fulfillment that comes from being true to you.
I remain constantly grateful that I finally heard the message BEFORE it was too late, and heeded the advice that the small quiet voice inside was telling me.
I got help and did the things I needed to do to make change. I started to become true to my true values and started to live the life I was meant to live. Less materially maybe, but a life richer in hope, serenity and internal peace. I truly have all I need, not necessarily everything I want, and I am true to my real self! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
We are better than we know. If we can be made to see it, perhaps for the rest of our lives, we will be unwilling to settle for less.
-- Anonymous
And this above all, to thine own self be true. And it must follow as night the day, thou canst not be false to any man.
--Shakespeare
"To thine own self be true." "Live the life you were meant to live." "Be the person you were meant to be." These statements convey a wonderful truth. They form the basic philosophies coaches have about clients - that when we go inside and trust our intuition, life opens before us. When we ignore our inner leanings, however, trouble arises.
Many love their families or have a true passion for a hobby. They get so involved and overdo other things-work, sports, addictions, gaming, etc. One day they face a real scare- illness, death- and realize they have missed those things that are truly important to them.
I have learned the hard way, I must be true to the things that are really important before the opportunity is lost. I cannot live as I think others may want me to live.
Why not start off with the right fit? Acknowledge your unique gifts and talents, as well as your wants and needs. Then seek out situations and circumstances that will allow them their full expression. This route may take time, but the results are worth it - a life of peace and fulfillment that comes from being true to you.
I remain constantly grateful that I finally heard the message BEFORE it was too late, and heeded the advice that the small quiet voice inside was telling me.
I got help and did the things I needed to do to make change. I started to become true to my true values and started to live the life I was meant to live. Less materially maybe, but a life richer in hope, serenity and internal peace. I truly have all I need, not necessarily everything I want, and I am true to my real self! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
We are better than we know. If we can be made to see it, perhaps for the rest of our lives, we will be unwilling to settle for less.
-- Anonymous
BE TRUE TO SELF!
BE TRUE TO SELF!
BE TRUE TO SELF!
And this above all, to thine own self be true. And it must follow as night the day, thou canst not be false to any man.
--Shakespeare
"To thine own self be true." "Live the life you were meant to live." "Be the person you were meant to be." These statements convey a wonderful truth. They form the basic philosophies coaches have about clients - that when we go inside and trust our intuition, life opens before us. When we ignore our inner leanings, however, trouble arises.
Many love their families or have a true passion for a hobby. They get so involved and overdo other things-work, sports, addictions, gaming, etc. One day they face a real scare- illness, death- and realize they have missed those things that are truly important to them.
I have learned the hard way, I must be true to the things that are really important before the opportunity is lost. I cannot live as I think others may want me to live.
Why not start off with the right fit? Acknowledge your unique gifts and talents, as well as your wants and needs. Then seek out situations and circumstances that will allow them their full expression. This route may take time, but the results are worth it - a life of peace and fulfillment that comes from being true to you.
I remain constantly grateful that I finally heard the message BEFORE it was too late, and heeded the advice that the small quiet voice inside was telling me.
I got help and did the things I needed to do to make change. I started to become true to my true values and started to live the life I was meant to live. Less materially maybe, but a life richer in hope, serenity and internal peace. I truly have all I need, not necessarily everything I want, and I am true to my real self! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
We are better than we know. If we can be made to see it, perhaps for the rest of our lives, we will be unwilling to settle for less.
-- Anonymous
BE TRUE TO SELF!
And this above all, to thine own self be true. And it must follow as night the day, thou canst not be false to any man.
--Shakespeare
"To thine own self be true." "Live the life you were meant to live." "Be the person you were meant to be." These statements convey a wonderful truth. They form the basic philosophies coaches have about clients - that when we go inside and trust our intuition, life opens before us. When we ignore our inner leanings, however, trouble arises.
Many love their families or have a true passion for a hobby. They get so involved and overdo other things-work, sports, addictions, gaming, etc. One day they face a real scare- illness, death- and realize they have missed those things that are truly important to them.
I have learned the hard way, I must be true to the things that are really important before the opportunity is lost. I cannot live as I think others may want me to live.
Why not start off with the right fit? Acknowledge your unique gifts and talents, as well as your wants and needs. Then seek out situations and circumstances that will allow them their full expression. This route may take time, but the results are worth it - a life of peace and fulfillment that comes from being true to you.
I remain constantly grateful that I finally heard the message BEFORE it was too late, and heeded the advice that the small quiet voice inside was telling me.
I got help and did the things I needed to do to make change. I started to become true to my true values and started to live the life I was meant to live. Less materially maybe, but a life richer in hope, serenity and internal peace. I truly have all I need, not necessarily everything I want, and I am true to my real self! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
We are better than we know. If we can be made to see it, perhaps for the rest of our lives, we will be unwilling to settle for less.
-- Anonymous
Friday, October 29, 2010
REAWAKEN YOUR CURIOUSITY
REAWAKEN YOUR CURIOUSITY
Reawaken your curiosity
"What a distressing contrast there is between the radiant intelligence of the child and the feeble mentality of the average adult." -- Sigmund Freud
Why is this so?
Young children possess what Zen calls 'beginner's mind.' They are awed and fascinated with the wonder of the world, open to discovering and experiencing new things. Anything is possible. Life is a great adventure.
For almost all of us, the systems that 'educate' us to be adults stifle our natural joy and curiosity. We lose touch with our innate appreciation of life. We forget how to dream.
The blessing is that with attention, patience and love, we can reawaken our sense of wonder. We can again dance with life.
"The mind WILL be free, or it will be dead." -- Grace Llewellyn
Thank you to my mentor Dr. Randin Brons and his Idea Engineer for this article. A very good reminder to me of one of the true gifts of a coach- we help people reawaken their curiosity and rediscover that radiant intelligence that is within each of us.(www.hopeserenity.ca)
Reawaken your curiosity
"What a distressing contrast there is between the radiant intelligence of the child and the feeble mentality of the average adult." -- Sigmund Freud
Why is this so?
Young children possess what Zen calls 'beginner's mind.' They are awed and fascinated with the wonder of the world, open to discovering and experiencing new things. Anything is possible. Life is a great adventure.
For almost all of us, the systems that 'educate' us to be adults stifle our natural joy and curiosity. We lose touch with our innate appreciation of life. We forget how to dream.
The blessing is that with attention, patience and love, we can reawaken our sense of wonder. We can again dance with life.
"The mind WILL be free, or it will be dead." -- Grace Llewellyn
Thank you to my mentor Dr. Randin Brons and his Idea Engineer for this article. A very good reminder to me of one of the true gifts of a coach- we help people reawaken their curiosity and rediscover that radiant intelligence that is within each of us.(www.hopeserenity.ca)
रेअवाकें यौर CURIOSITY
Reawaken your curiosity
"What a distressing contrast there is between the radiant intelligence of the child and the feeble mentality of the average adult." -- Sigmund Freud
Why is this so?
Young children possess what Zen calls 'beginner's mind.' They are awed and fascinated with the wonder of the world, open to discovering and experiencing new things. Anything is possible. Life is a great adventure.
For almost all of us, the systems that 'educate' us to be adults stifle our natural joy and curiosity. We lose touch with our innate appreciation of life. We forget how to dream.
The blessing is that with attention, patience and love, we can reawaken our sense of wonder. We can again dance with life.
"The mind WILL be free, or it will be dead." -- Grace Llewellyn
Thank you to my mentor Dr. Randin Brons and his Idea Engineer for this article. A very good reminder to me of one of the true gifts of a coach- we help people reawaken their curiosity and rediscover that radiant intelligence that is within each of us.(www.hopeserenity.ca)
"What a distressing contrast there is between the radiant intelligence of the child and the feeble mentality of the average adult." -- Sigmund Freud
Why is this so?
Young children possess what Zen calls 'beginner's mind.' They are awed and fascinated with the wonder of the world, open to discovering and experiencing new things. Anything is possible. Life is a great adventure.
For almost all of us, the systems that 'educate' us to be adults stifle our natural joy and curiosity. We lose touch with our innate appreciation of life. We forget how to dream.
The blessing is that with attention, patience and love, we can reawaken our sense of wonder. We can again dance with life.
"The mind WILL be free, or it will be dead." -- Grace Llewellyn
Thank you to my mentor Dr. Randin Brons and his Idea Engineer for this article. A very good reminder to me of one of the true gifts of a coach- we help people reawaken their curiosity and rediscover that radiant intelligence that is within each of us.(www.hopeserenity.ca)
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
प्राय तो गोद. रो तो शोरे!
PRAY to God. ROW to SHORE
I don’t know how many people I have talked to over the years who have claimed "I’ve prayed about it but nothing happened". Funny how it works.
I can relate to the title saying; for many years, when things got desperate, I would pray to a god I learned about in Sunday school. Prayer was in the form of a plea and oft times followed the pattern "If you get me out of this spot this time I’ll never do it again" or "Please give me/let me have…….". Strange, the results I got were not great.
The sign in the antique store showed a fisherman in a rowboat being tossed about in a storm. The message was clear: the fisherman may have great faith, but now was not the time to put away the oars and kneel in prayer - it was time to pray and row!
Sometimes we find ourselves in a storm of trouble, a sea of problems, and we want God to get us out. We may even pray, "God, get me out of this mess." But like the man in the rowboat, the way out is not just by praying to God. The way out is to pray, ask for help, and take action - do something to help ourselves.
For years I did not understand the simple message. I always believed that there was something greater than me in this world and I certainly believed this something was capable of miracles. What I forgot was that action was MY responsibility and God helps those who help themselves. In my case, helping me was fully admitting I has a problem, accepting it and taking the action I needed to not only get help, but to do the things I was taught I needed to do.
Today I ask simply each day for the knowledge of what my Higher Power’s will is and for the courage to carry it out. Then it is up to me to row to shore! (www.hopeserenity.ca).
I don’t know how many people I have talked to over the years who have claimed "I’ve prayed about it but nothing happened". Funny how it works.
I can relate to the title saying; for many years, when things got desperate, I would pray to a god I learned about in Sunday school. Prayer was in the form of a plea and oft times followed the pattern "If you get me out of this spot this time I’ll never do it again" or "Please give me/let me have…….". Strange, the results I got were not great.
The sign in the antique store showed a fisherman in a rowboat being tossed about in a storm. The message was clear: the fisherman may have great faith, but now was not the time to put away the oars and kneel in prayer - it was time to pray and row!
Sometimes we find ourselves in a storm of trouble, a sea of problems, and we want God to get us out. We may even pray, "God, get me out of this mess." But like the man in the rowboat, the way out is not just by praying to God. The way out is to pray, ask for help, and take action - do something to help ourselves.
For years I did not understand the simple message. I always believed that there was something greater than me in this world and I certainly believed this something was capable of miracles. What I forgot was that action was MY responsibility and God helps those who help themselves. In my case, helping me was fully admitting I has a problem, accepting it and taking the action I needed to not only get help, but to do the things I was taught I needed to do.
Today I ask simply each day for the knowledge of what my Higher Power’s will is and for the courage to carry it out. Then it is up to me to row to shore! (www.hopeserenity.ca).
PRAY to GOD. ROW to SHORE.
PRAY to GOD. ROW to SHORE.
PRAY to God. ROW to SHORE
I don’t know how many people I have talked to over the years who have claimed "I’ve prayed about it but nothing happened". Funny how it works.
I can relate to the title saying; for many years, when things got desperate, I would pray to a god I learned about in Sunday school. Prayer was in the form of a plea and oft times followed the pattern "If you get me out of this spot this time I’ll never do it again" or "Please give me/let me have…….". Strange, the results I got were not great.
The sign in the antique store showed a fisherman in a rowboat being tossed about in a storm. The message was clear: the fisherman may have great faith, but now was not the time to put away the oars and kneel in prayer - it was time to pray and row!
Sometimes we find ourselves in a storm of trouble, a sea of problems, and we want God to get us out. We may even pray, "God, get me out of this mess." But like the man in the rowboat, the way out is not just by praying to God. The way out is to pray, ask for help, and take action - do something to help ourselves.
For years I did not understand the simple message. I always believed that there was something greater than me in this world and I certainly believed this something was capable of miracles. What I forgot was that action was MY responsibility and God helps those who help themselves. In my case, helping me was fully admitting I has a problem, accepting it and taking the action I needed to not only get help, but to do the things I was taught I needed to do.
Today I ask simply each day for the knowledge of what my Higher Power’s will is and for the courage to carry it out. Then it is up to me to row to shore! (www.hopeserenity.ca).
PRAY to God. ROW to SHORE
I don’t know how many people I have talked to over the years who have claimed "I’ve prayed about it but nothing happened". Funny how it works.
I can relate to the title saying; for many years, when things got desperate, I would pray to a god I learned about in Sunday school. Prayer was in the form of a plea and oft times followed the pattern "If you get me out of this spot this time I’ll never do it again" or "Please give me/let me have…….". Strange, the results I got were not great.
The sign in the antique store showed a fisherman in a rowboat being tossed about in a storm. The message was clear: the fisherman may have great faith, but now was not the time to put away the oars and kneel in prayer - it was time to pray and row!
Sometimes we find ourselves in a storm of trouble, a sea of problems, and we want God to get us out. We may even pray, "God, get me out of this mess." But like the man in the rowboat, the way out is not just by praying to God. The way out is to pray, ask for help, and take action - do something to help ourselves.
For years I did not understand the simple message. I always believed that there was something greater than me in this world and I certainly believed this something was capable of miracles. What I forgot was that action was MY responsibility and God helps those who help themselves. In my case, helping me was fully admitting I has a problem, accepting it and taking the action I needed to not only get help, but to do the things I was taught I needed to do.
Today I ask simply each day for the knowledge of what my Higher Power’s will is and for the courage to carry it out. Then it is up to me to row to shore! (www.hopeserenity.ca).
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