PERSONAL BOUNDARIES-IMPORTANT TO SET

PERSONAL BOUNDARIES-IMPORTANT TO SET
Personal Boundaries-Important To Set
I had no idea what personal boundaries were for a large part of my life. Understanding what they are and then setting them and staying strong to keep them in place has been a learned skill; and one that requires constant vigilance.
I allowed others to put me in situations over the years that instinctively made me feel uncomfortable. This was particularly true with those I cared about. I wanted to please them at the expensive of myself.
Today I set boundaries. Others may try to ignore them or cross them, but for the most part I maintain them.
When my boundaries are encroached on, I begin to feel uncomfortable inside. I now pay attention to these feelings. This has resulted in those around me, over time, changing the way they interact with me.
Is this an easy process? The answer in my own case was no.
Others did resist the change in me but I have learned I am not here to make others happy. I have a right to set the boundaries that are appropriate for me. Other people have learned to live, and live quite comfortably, with the new me.
Ah, to be comfortable in your own skin! To enjoy increasing periods of hope and serenity in daily living. To appreciate the value of self and to be able to give to others from a position of strength. A large part of this personal growth was a direct result of learning how to set personal boundaries that were correct for me and maintaining them on a consistent basis over an extended period of time.
There are many out there who struggle on a daily basis with boundary setting. They feel the discomfort yet don’t know how to assertively (not aggressively) make change. I’d love to hear your comments about personal boundaries. (www.hopeserenity.ca)