LIFE IS HARD-GOT RESILIENCE?
There's a vital living asset that almost never gets talked about, because it's so hard to define. You could call it reserves, staying power, bandwidth - or resilience. Examples of resilience might be:
When your computer crashes, you know who to call to help you recover.
When your projects don’ materialize even though you worked hard to promote them, you focus on the lessons that will help you succeed at the next one.
When something just isn't working, you get twice as interested in how to make it work.
When you go it alone to achieve major life change and do not succeed, you know when and where to reach out for help.
Whether you can define it or not, you can cultivate resilience. And you'll be glad you did.
The Importance of Being Resilient!
Almost everyone alive will get pushed to their limits, not once but many times. Face it; “Life Is Tough” (Rule 1 in living) is hard.
If it was easy, everyone living their dreams and have full self-love.
To a large extent, the ones who succeed will be the ones who are the most resilient - the ones who can go to their limit and find that they still have something more in reserve. The one's that put their resistance in "check" and move forward through it until they become free of it and experience the fruits of their labour.
Life's not fair and some people have been given a stronger constitution than others. But as always, the more interesting part is the part that is in your control. What are you doing to build
your resilience today?
Building resilience requires practice. The best time to do it is daily. You're the best judge of what works for you, but here are three steps that help:
Have great resources at your fingertips: Follow the GPS to your personal strengths and grow your self confidence one-methodical step and a time! The tools can be learned – you need to produce the follow-through. How badly do you want a life you love living?
Get good sleep, good nutrition, and good exercise.
Count your blessings: Notice how, after a setback, you keep going. End each day by acknowledging what you got out of it, whether that is the main story or the "silver lining". Gratitude is the foundation of prosperity thinking.
Do you have a favourite way to cultivate resilience? Or another quality that is as crucial in your life? Use all the resources you have to make your dream come true. It's all up you. (www.hopeserenity.ca acknowledges The Art and Science of Coaching)
Tuesday, August 31, 2010
LIFE IS HARD-GOT RESILIENCE?
LIFE IS HARD-GOT RESILIENCE?
LIFE IS HARD-GOT RESILIENCE?
There's a vital living asset that almost never gets talked about, because it's so hard to define. You could call it reserves, staying power, bandwidth - or resilience. Examples of resilience might be:
When your computer crashes, you know who to call to help you recover.
When your projects don’ materialize even though you worked hard to promote them, you focus on the lessons that will help you succeed at the next one.
When something just isn't working, you get twice as interested in how to make it work.
When you go it alone to achieve major life change and do not succeed, you know when and where to reach out for help.
Whether you can define it or not, you can cultivate resilience. And you'll be glad you did.
The Importance of Being Resilient!
Almost everyone alive will get pushed to their limits, not once but many times. Face it; “Life Is Tough” (Rule 1 in living) is hard.
If it was easy, everyone living their dreams and have full self-love.
To a large extent, the ones who succeed will be the ones who are the most resilient - the ones who can go to their limit and find that they still have something more in reserve. The one's that put their resistance in "check" and move forward through it until they become free of it and experience the fruits of their labour.
Life's not fair and some people have been given a stronger constitution than others. But as always, the more interesting part is the part that is in your control. What are you doing to build
your resilience today?
Building resilience requires practice. The best time to do it is daily. You're the best judge of what works for you, but here are three steps that help:
Have great resources at your fingertips: Follow the GPS to your personal strengths and grow your self confidence one-methodical step and a time! The tools can be learned – you need to produce the follow-through. How badly do you want a life you love living?
Get good sleep, good nutrition, and good exercise.
Count your blessings: Notice how, after a setback, you keep going. End each day by acknowledging what you got out of it, whether that is the main story or the "silver lining". Gratitude is the foundation of prosperity thinking.
Do you have a favourite way to cultivate resilience? Or another quality that is as crucial in your life? Use all the resources you have to make your dream come true. It's all up you. (www.hopeserenity.ca acknowledges The Art and Science of Coaching)
LIFE IS HARD-GOT RESILIENCE?
There's a vital living asset that almost never gets talked about, because it's so hard to define. You could call it reserves, staying power, bandwidth - or resilience. Examples of resilience might be:
When your computer crashes, you know who to call to help you recover.
When your projects don’ materialize even though you worked hard to promote them, you focus on the lessons that will help you succeed at the next one.
When something just isn't working, you get twice as interested in how to make it work.
When you go it alone to achieve major life change and do not succeed, you know when and where to reach out for help.
Whether you can define it or not, you can cultivate resilience. And you'll be glad you did.
The Importance of Being Resilient!
Almost everyone alive will get pushed to their limits, not once but many times. Face it; “Life Is Tough” (Rule 1 in living) is hard.
If it was easy, everyone living their dreams and have full self-love.
To a large extent, the ones who succeed will be the ones who are the most resilient - the ones who can go to their limit and find that they still have something more in reserve. The one's that put their resistance in "check" and move forward through it until they become free of it and experience the fruits of their labour.
Life's not fair and some people have been given a stronger constitution than others. But as always, the more interesting part is the part that is in your control. What are you doing to build
your resilience today?
Building resilience requires practice. The best time to do it is daily. You're the best judge of what works for you, but here are three steps that help:
Have great resources at your fingertips: Follow the GPS to your personal strengths and grow your self confidence one-methodical step and a time! The tools can be learned – you need to produce the follow-through. How badly do you want a life you love living?
Get good sleep, good nutrition, and good exercise.
Count your blessings: Notice how, after a setback, you keep going. End each day by acknowledging what you got out of it, whether that is the main story or the "silver lining". Gratitude is the foundation of prosperity thinking.
Do you have a favourite way to cultivate resilience? Or another quality that is as crucial in your life? Use all the resources you have to make your dream come true. It's all up you. (www.hopeserenity.ca acknowledges The Art and Science of Coaching)
Monday, August 30, 2010
THE TWO YOU'S-DUALITY
THE TWO YOU'S-DUALITY
THE TWO YOU’S-DUALITY
Understand dualities
"Life is the coexistence of all opposite values. Joy and sorrow, pleasure and pain, up and down, hot and cold, here and there, light and darkness, birth and death. All experience is by contrast, and one would be meaningless without the other." -- Deepak Chopra
Life is full of dualities, opposites. Despite their apparent opposition, each extreme in a duality is necessary to fully actualize the other. Each depends on the existence of the other. For example, we cannot know honesty if we don't know deception.
The key is to not resist or suppress the negative. We need to acknowledge its existence, though we may choose not to express it. When we embrace wholeness, we move to a higher perspective.
"The light which man has discovered within himself makes him more aware of the dark; through the good which attracts him, he sees the evil which is the line of least resistance; the activity leading to pain simultaneously permits him to visualize the contrasting pleasure, and thus he experiences something of both hell and heaven." -- Aart Jurriaanse
I love the concept of duality, and became very aware of it in doing an in depth study of Eckhart Tolle’s best seller-“A New Earth”. I know there is duality within me- what am I saying when I make a statement like “I’m angry with myself for doing that.” Who is mad at whom? Something to really think about.
The process of transforming my life and going through co-creative life recover hinged on accepting the “duality within”. As my mentor Dr. Randin Bron states in his above quoted Idea Engineer, “we may choose not to express it”. In my own case, the negatives had taken over from the positives and I was truly unhappy.
The positive, the “good within” remains there although it can be suppressed deeply over time. The statement “I am angry with myself” is just one small example of how the “good” that is me continues to question things.
The biggest part of my journey has been to appreciate the negative exists, but to listen to the good that is within me and act, on an ever increasing basis, to this part of me.
I have discovered, through the help of trained others, “the light man has discovered within himself”. I had become well aware of the dark and lived in a world dominated by negatives.
If this article makes you curious and caused thought, I’d love to hear your thoughts. (www.hopeserenity.ca Keith Bray)
THE TWO YOU’S-DUALITY
Understand dualities
"Life is the coexistence of all opposite values. Joy and sorrow, pleasure and pain, up and down, hot and cold, here and there, light and darkness, birth and death. All experience is by contrast, and one would be meaningless without the other." -- Deepak Chopra
Life is full of dualities, opposites. Despite their apparent opposition, each extreme in a duality is necessary to fully actualize the other. Each depends on the existence of the other. For example, we cannot know honesty if we don't know deception.
The key is to not resist or suppress the negative. We need to acknowledge its existence, though we may choose not to express it. When we embrace wholeness, we move to a higher perspective.
"The light which man has discovered within himself makes him more aware of the dark; through the good which attracts him, he sees the evil which is the line of least resistance; the activity leading to pain simultaneously permits him to visualize the contrasting pleasure, and thus he experiences something of both hell and heaven." -- Aart Jurriaanse
I love the concept of duality, and became very aware of it in doing an in depth study of Eckhart Tolle’s best seller-“A New Earth”. I know there is duality within me- what am I saying when I make a statement like “I’m angry with myself for doing that.” Who is mad at whom? Something to really think about.
The process of transforming my life and going through co-creative life recover hinged on accepting the “duality within”. As my mentor Dr. Randin Bron states in his above quoted Idea Engineer, “we may choose not to express it”. In my own case, the negatives had taken over from the positives and I was truly unhappy.
The positive, the “good within” remains there although it can be suppressed deeply over time. The statement “I am angry with myself” is just one small example of how the “good” that is me continues to question things.
The biggest part of my journey has been to appreciate the negative exists, but to listen to the good that is within me and act, on an ever increasing basis, to this part of me.
I have discovered, through the help of trained others, “the light man has discovered within himself”. I had become well aware of the dark and lived in a world dominated by negatives.
If this article makes you curious and caused thought, I’d love to hear your thoughts. (www.hopeserenity.ca Keith Bray)
थे तवो यू'S
THE TWO YOU’S-DUALITY
Understand dualities
"Life is the coexistence of all opposite values. Joy and sorrow, pleasure and pain, up and down, hot and cold, here and there, light and darkness, birth and death. All experience is by contrast, and one would be meaningless without the other." -- Deepak Chopra
Life is full of dualities, opposites. Despite their apparent opposition, each extreme in a duality is necessary to fully actualize the other. Each depends on the existence of the other. For example, we cannot know honesty if we don't know deception.
The key is to not resist or suppress the negative. We need to acknowledge its existence, though we may choose not to express it. When we embrace wholeness, we move to a higher perspective.
"The light which man has discovered within himself makes him more aware of the dark; through the good which attracts him, he sees the evil which is the line of least resistance; the activity leading to pain simultaneously permits him to visualize the contrasting pleasure, and thus he experiences something of both hell and heaven." -- Aart Jurriaanse
I love the concept of duality, and became very aware of it in doing an in depth study of Eckhart Tolle’s best seller-“A New Earth”. I know there is duality within me- what am I saying when I make a statement like “I’m angry with myself for doing that.” Who is mad at whom? Something to really think about.
The process of transforming my life and going through co-creative life recover hinged on accepting the “duality within”. As my mentor Dr. Randin Bron states in his above quoted Idea Engineer, “we may choose not to express it”. In my own case, the negatives had taken over from the positives and I was truly unhappy.
The positive, the “good within” remains there although it can be suppressed deeply over time. The statement “I am angry with myself” is just one small example of how the “good” that is me continues to question things.
The biggest part of my journey has been to appreciate the negative exists, but to listen to the good that is within me and act, on an ever increasing basis, to this part of me.
I have discovered, through the help of trained others, “the light man has discovered within himself”. I had become well aware of the dark and lived in a world dominated by negatives.
If this article makes you curious and caused thought, I’d love to hear your thoughts. (www.hopeserenity.ca Keith Bray)
Understand dualities
"Life is the coexistence of all opposite values. Joy and sorrow, pleasure and pain, up and down, hot and cold, here and there, light and darkness, birth and death. All experience is by contrast, and one would be meaningless without the other." -- Deepak Chopra
Life is full of dualities, opposites. Despite their apparent opposition, each extreme in a duality is necessary to fully actualize the other. Each depends on the existence of the other. For example, we cannot know honesty if we don't know deception.
The key is to not resist or suppress the negative. We need to acknowledge its existence, though we may choose not to express it. When we embrace wholeness, we move to a higher perspective.
"The light which man has discovered within himself makes him more aware of the dark; through the good which attracts him, he sees the evil which is the line of least resistance; the activity leading to pain simultaneously permits him to visualize the contrasting pleasure, and thus he experiences something of both hell and heaven." -- Aart Jurriaanse
I love the concept of duality, and became very aware of it in doing an in depth study of Eckhart Tolle’s best seller-“A New Earth”. I know there is duality within me- what am I saying when I make a statement like “I’m angry with myself for doing that.” Who is mad at whom? Something to really think about.
The process of transforming my life and going through co-creative life recover hinged on accepting the “duality within”. As my mentor Dr. Randin Bron states in his above quoted Idea Engineer, “we may choose not to express it”. In my own case, the negatives had taken over from the positives and I was truly unhappy.
The positive, the “good within” remains there although it can be suppressed deeply over time. The statement “I am angry with myself” is just one small example of how the “good” that is me continues to question things.
The biggest part of my journey has been to appreciate the negative exists, but to listen to the good that is within me and act, on an ever increasing basis, to this part of me.
I have discovered, through the help of trained others, “the light man has discovered within himself”. I had become well aware of the dark and lived in a world dominated by negatives.
If this article makes you curious and caused thought, I’d love to hear your thoughts. (www.hopeserenity.ca Keith Bray)
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
थे स्माल ऊईट VOICE
THE SMALL QUIET VOICE
I know today that there is a small quiet voice inside of me. I have learned to listen to it. Have you?
I love listening to and studying Eckhart Tolle. In his works, he puts into words things that I had come to understand as I made major changes in my life. Within each of us there are two forces at play. One is at the forefront, things we have learned through living and are programmed into our day to day life. For some, this programming is healthy. For others like me, the programming became unhealthy through the environment I lived in. Tolle really dwells at length on this duality with each of us.
The “small quiet voice” has existed in me since birth. As life unfolded, I learned how to suppress it and make those uncomfortable feeling of right and wrong- of conscience- remain buried deep inside. I acted on selfish desires that met my desires and helped me to present a “self” I thought the world wanted to see.
As this trend continued, my feelings of true self-love, serenity, hope for the future and more gradually declined. While I may have appeared happy on the outside, I did not like the life that was going on within my own skin.
I hit a bottom that was low enough to move me to change. I got the help I needed to show me a path to change, and made “directed” discoveries that allowed me to make change and move forward.
For the past 16 years, my contact with this small quiet voice inside-call it consciousness, higher power or heart- has constantly increased. No surprise, I am told by those closest to me that I have made major changes in how I face life and today I am comfortable in my own skin. I know hope and I know serenity on a daily basis. I appreciate I am not perfect, but have learned to love the man I am.
My coaching mentor, Dr. Randin Brons, published a “quote only” Idea Engineer recently. I invite you to read it.
Listen to your heart
"To know how to choose a path with heart is to learn how to follow intuitive feeling. Logic can tell you superficially where a path might lead to, but it cannot judge whether your heart will be in it." -- Jean Shinoda Bolen
"When you have compassion and surrender to your own heart, you are surrendering to the hidden power in your heart, God. You are surrendering to love, because God is Love, the cohesive force of the universe that connects us all. Surrender is not just a religious concept; it's a power tool for listening to the voice of your spirit and following its directions. When you surrender your head to your heart, you allow your heart to give you a wider, higher intelligence perspective. Remember the phrase, 'The real teacher is within you.' Very simply, that teacher is to be found in the common sense of your own heart." -- Sara Paddison
"Surrender is faith that the power of love can accomplish anything... even when you can not foresee the outcome." -- Deepak Chopra
Watch for our next blog:Understanding Your Duality
I know today that there is a small quiet voice inside of me. I have learned to listen to it. Have you?
I love listening to and studying Eckhart Tolle. In his works, he puts into words things that I had come to understand as I made major changes in my life. Within each of us there are two forces at play. One is at the forefront, things we have learned through living and are programmed into our day to day life. For some, this programming is healthy. For others like me, the programming became unhealthy through the environment I lived in. Tolle really dwells at length on this duality with each of us.
The “small quiet voice” has existed in me since birth. As life unfolded, I learned how to suppress it and make those uncomfortable feeling of right and wrong- of conscience- remain buried deep inside. I acted on selfish desires that met my desires and helped me to present a “self” I thought the world wanted to see.
As this trend continued, my feelings of true self-love, serenity, hope for the future and more gradually declined. While I may have appeared happy on the outside, I did not like the life that was going on within my own skin.
I hit a bottom that was low enough to move me to change. I got the help I needed to show me a path to change, and made “directed” discoveries that allowed me to make change and move forward.
For the past 16 years, my contact with this small quiet voice inside-call it consciousness, higher power or heart- has constantly increased. No surprise, I am told by those closest to me that I have made major changes in how I face life and today I am comfortable in my own skin. I know hope and I know serenity on a daily basis. I appreciate I am not perfect, but have learned to love the man I am.
My coaching mentor, Dr. Randin Brons, published a “quote only” Idea Engineer recently. I invite you to read it.
Listen to your heart
"To know how to choose a path with heart is to learn how to follow intuitive feeling. Logic can tell you superficially where a path might lead to, but it cannot judge whether your heart will be in it." -- Jean Shinoda Bolen
"When you have compassion and surrender to your own heart, you are surrendering to the hidden power in your heart, God. You are surrendering to love, because God is Love, the cohesive force of the universe that connects us all. Surrender is not just a religious concept; it's a power tool for listening to the voice of your spirit and following its directions. When you surrender your head to your heart, you allow your heart to give you a wider, higher intelligence perspective. Remember the phrase, 'The real teacher is within you.' Very simply, that teacher is to be found in the common sense of your own heart." -- Sara Paddison
"Surrender is faith that the power of love can accomplish anything... even when you can not foresee the outcome." -- Deepak Chopra
Watch for our next blog:Understanding Your Duality
Monday, August 23, 2010
THE SMALL QUIET VOICE
THE SMALL QUIET VOICE
THE SMALL QUIET VOICE
I know today that there is a small quiet voice inside of me. I have learned to listen to it. Have you?
I love listening to and studying Eckhart Tolle. In his works, he puts into words things that I had come to understand as I made major changes in my life. Within each of us there are two forces at play. One is at the forefront, things we have learned through living and are programmed into our day to day life. For some, this programming is healthy. For others like me, the programming became unhealthy through the environment I lived in. Tolle really dwells at length on this duality with each of us.
The “small quiet voice” has existed in me since birth. As life unfolded, I learned how to suppress it and make those uncomfortable feeling of right and wrong- of conscience- remain buried deep inside. I acted on selfish desires that met my desires and helped me to present a “self” I thought the world wanted to see.
As this trend continued, my feelings of true self-love, serenity, hope for the future and more gradually declined. While I may have appeared happy on the outside, I did not like the life that was going on within my own skin.
I hit a bottom that was low enough to move me to change. I got the help I needed to show me a path to change, and made “directed” discoveries that allowed me to make change and move forward.
For the past 16 years, my contact with this small quiet voice inside-call it consciousness, higher power or heart- has constantly increased. No surprise, I am told by those closest to me that I have made major changes in how I face life and today I am comfortable in my own skin. I know hope and I know serenity on a daily basis. I appreciate I am not perfect, but have learned to love the man I am.
My coaching mentor, Dr. Randin Brons, published a “quote only” Idea Engineer recently. I invite you to read it.
Listen to your heart
"To know how to choose a path with heart is to learn how to follow intuitive feeling. Logic can tell you superficially where a path might lead to, but it cannot judge whether your heart will be in it." -- Jean Shinoda Bolen
"When you have compassion and surrender to your own heart, you are surrendering to the hidden power in your heart, God. You are surrendering to love, because God is Love, the cohesive force of the universe that connects us all. Surrender is not just a religious concept; it's a power tool for listening to the voice of your spirit and following its directions. When you surrender your head to your heart, you allow your heart to give you a wider, higher intelligence perspective. Remember the phrase, 'The real teacher is within you.' Very simply, that teacher is to be found in the common sense of your own heart." -- Sara Paddison
"Surrender is faith that the power of love can accomplish anything... even when you can not foresee the outcome." -- Deepak Chopra
THE SMALL QUIET VOICE
I know today that there is a small quiet voice inside of me. I have learned to listen to it. Have you?
I love listening to and studying Eckhart Tolle. In his works, he puts into words things that I had come to understand as I made major changes in my life. Within each of us there are two forces at play. One is at the forefront, things we have learned through living and are programmed into our day to day life. For some, this programming is healthy. For others like me, the programming became unhealthy through the environment I lived in. Tolle really dwells at length on this duality with each of us.
The “small quiet voice” has existed in me since birth. As life unfolded, I learned how to suppress it and make those uncomfortable feeling of right and wrong- of conscience- remain buried deep inside. I acted on selfish desires that met my desires and helped me to present a “self” I thought the world wanted to see.
As this trend continued, my feelings of true self-love, serenity, hope for the future and more gradually declined. While I may have appeared happy on the outside, I did not like the life that was going on within my own skin.
I hit a bottom that was low enough to move me to change. I got the help I needed to show me a path to change, and made “directed” discoveries that allowed me to make change and move forward.
For the past 16 years, my contact with this small quiet voice inside-call it consciousness, higher power or heart- has constantly increased. No surprise, I am told by those closest to me that I have made major changes in how I face life and today I am comfortable in my own skin. I know hope and I know serenity on a daily basis. I appreciate I am not perfect, but have learned to love the man I am.
My coaching mentor, Dr. Randin Brons, published a “quote only” Idea Engineer recently. I invite you to read it.
Listen to your heart
"To know how to choose a path with heart is to learn how to follow intuitive feeling. Logic can tell you superficially where a path might lead to, but it cannot judge whether your heart will be in it." -- Jean Shinoda Bolen
"When you have compassion and surrender to your own heart, you are surrendering to the hidden power in your heart, God. You are surrendering to love, because God is Love, the cohesive force of the universe that connects us all. Surrender is not just a religious concept; it's a power tool for listening to the voice of your spirit and following its directions. When you surrender your head to your heart, you allow your heart to give you a wider, higher intelligence perspective. Remember the phrase, 'The real teacher is within you.' Very simply, that teacher is to be found in the common sense of your own heart." -- Sara Paddison
"Surrender is faith that the power of love can accomplish anything... even when you can not foresee the outcome." -- Deepak Chopra
Friday, August 20, 2010
इ ऍम RESPONSIBLE
I AM RESPONSIBLE
I am responsible for me and my actions because I have freedom of choice! A hard lesson to accept and learn.
“I am responsible for myself, my recovery, my well-being, my happiness. All these things are, ultimately, my own responsibility.”
--Anonymous
Our creator and/or our basic make-up gave each of us free will; an ability to make choices. We can choose not to be responsible and make ourselves more miserable by going to new levels of despair and depression. Or we can seize every opportunity for a better life. We are responsible.
When we make a decision to choose a more mentally healthy way of life, we are generally very confused. We welcome support. Many of us are fed up with our lives and would freely turn them in for a different model. We have to learn to put into action what we will learn. We are responsible.
Taking responsibility for ourselves is a new way of thinking for many. It does not come naturally; it is taught and then put into practise through personal actions. I believe in this life there is a power greater than myself (spiritual) and call it what you want. One of the joys in being me is that I have the freedom to make choices. Through learning new skills and putting them into action as best I can, I can now take full responsibility for me.
It is up to me to insure that my spiritual life is healthy and that I stay in tune with this power greater than me. I follow no religion but do pray to better understand the direction of this higher power and meditate, listen to others and listen to that small quiet voice that dwells within to get direction. That is one of my responsibilities.
Each day I must remember that I have free will and I am responsible for my choices. I historically went too often against what the small quiet voice inside told me until I almost suppressed it from my conscious awareness. Today I listen more attentively and try to use my freedom of choice responsibly. Want to move toward that direction and be more responsible? (www.coached-to-success.com)
I am responsible for me and my actions because I have freedom of choice! A hard lesson to accept and learn.
“I am responsible for myself, my recovery, my well-being, my happiness. All these things are, ultimately, my own responsibility.”
--Anonymous
Our creator and/or our basic make-up gave each of us free will; an ability to make choices. We can choose not to be responsible and make ourselves more miserable by going to new levels of despair and depression. Or we can seize every opportunity for a better life. We are responsible.
When we make a decision to choose a more mentally healthy way of life, we are generally very confused. We welcome support. Many of us are fed up with our lives and would freely turn them in for a different model. We have to learn to put into action what we will learn. We are responsible.
Taking responsibility for ourselves is a new way of thinking for many. It does not come naturally; it is taught and then put into practise through personal actions. I believe in this life there is a power greater than myself (spiritual) and call it what you want. One of the joys in being me is that I have the freedom to make choices. Through learning new skills and putting them into action as best I can, I can now take full responsibility for me.
It is up to me to insure that my spiritual life is healthy and that I stay in tune with this power greater than me. I follow no religion but do pray to better understand the direction of this higher power and meditate, listen to others and listen to that small quiet voice that dwells within to get direction. That is one of my responsibilities.
Each day I must remember that I have free will and I am responsible for my choices. I historically went too often against what the small quiet voice inside told me until I almost suppressed it from my conscious awareness. Today I listen more attentively and try to use my freedom of choice responsibly. Want to move toward that direction and be more responsible? (www.coached-to-success.com)
I AM RERSPONSIBLE
I AM RERSPONSIBLE
I AM RESPONSIBLE
I am responsible for me and my actions because I have freedom of choice! A hard lesson to accept and learn.
“I am responsible for myself, my recovery, my well-being, my happiness. All these things are, ultimately, my own responsibility.”
--Anonymous
Our creator and/or our basic make-up gave each of us free will; an ability to make choices. We can choose not to be responsible and make ourselves more miserable by going to new levels of despair and depression. Or we can seize every opportunity for a better life. We are responsible.
When we make a decision to choose a more mentally healthy way of life, we are generally very confused. We welcome support. Many of us are fed up with our lives and would freely turn them in for a different model. We have to learn to put into action what we will learn. We are responsible.
Taking responsibility for ourselves is a new way of thinking for many. It does not come naturally; it is taught and then put into practise through personal actions. I believe in this life there is a power greater than myself (spiritual) and call it what you want. One of the joys in being me is that I have the freedom to make choices. Through learning new skills and putting them into action as best I can, I can now take full responsibility for me.
It is up to me to insure that my spiritual life is healthy and that I stay in tune with this power greater than me. I follow no religion but do pray to better understand the direction of this higher power and meditate, listen to others and listen to that small quiet voice that dwells within to get direction. That is one of my responsibilities.
Each day I must remember that I have free will and I am responsible for my choices. I historically went too often against what the small quiet voice inside told me until I almost suppressed it from my conscious awareness. Today I listen more attentively and try to use my freedom of choice responsibly. Want to move toward that direction and be more responsible? (www.coached-to-success.com)
I AM RESPONSIBLE
I am responsible for me and my actions because I have freedom of choice! A hard lesson to accept and learn.
“I am responsible for myself, my recovery, my well-being, my happiness. All these things are, ultimately, my own responsibility.”
--Anonymous
Our creator and/or our basic make-up gave each of us free will; an ability to make choices. We can choose not to be responsible and make ourselves more miserable by going to new levels of despair and depression. Or we can seize every opportunity for a better life. We are responsible.
When we make a decision to choose a more mentally healthy way of life, we are generally very confused. We welcome support. Many of us are fed up with our lives and would freely turn them in for a different model. We have to learn to put into action what we will learn. We are responsible.
Taking responsibility for ourselves is a new way of thinking for many. It does not come naturally; it is taught and then put into practise through personal actions. I believe in this life there is a power greater than myself (spiritual) and call it what you want. One of the joys in being me is that I have the freedom to make choices. Through learning new skills and putting them into action as best I can, I can now take full responsibility for me.
It is up to me to insure that my spiritual life is healthy and that I stay in tune with this power greater than me. I follow no religion but do pray to better understand the direction of this higher power and meditate, listen to others and listen to that small quiet voice that dwells within to get direction. That is one of my responsibilities.
Each day I must remember that I have free will and I am responsible for my choices. I historically went too often against what the small quiet voice inside told me until I almost suppressed it from my conscious awareness. Today I listen more attentively and try to use my freedom of choice responsibly. Want to move toward that direction and be more responsible? (www.coached-to-success.com)
Thursday, August 19, 2010
REFUSE TO BE A VICTIM
REFUSE TO BE A VICTIM
Refuse To Be a Victim
"We focus on the negatives, losing ourselves in the 'problem.' We point to our unhappy circumstances to rationalize our negative feelings. This is the easy way out. It takes, after all, very little effort to feel victimized." -- Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
Nothing and no one can make us a victim. We do it to ourselves when we allow external circumstances to hold power over us.
Although we have no control over what happens to us, we ALWAYS have a choice in how we respond. We hold our power when we accept complete responsibility for our thoughts, feelings and actions.
"A man may fall many times but he won't be a failure until he says someone pushed him." -- Elmer G. Letterman
"The most potent weapon in the hands of the oppressor is the mind of the oppressed." -- Steven Biko
What a great piece from my Coaching Mentor Dr. Randin Brons in his Idea Engineer. I am blessed to have been mentored by this man!
On a very frequent basis I talk with people blessed with “if only” syndrome. I have seen too many literally die from terminal uniqueness. A hard cold fact.
As the Kubler-Ross quote makes very clear, to not be a “victim” is not the easy choice, but is a choice we have and can learn to make on a regular basis.
I can relate to being a “victim”, because for many years I felt “circumstances” caused negative things to happen. Through hard work directed by good “coaches” I was able to escape the victim mentality. The difference was in my mind, soul and attitude.
Need a little help; go get yourself some great “coaching”! It will work if YOU work it! (www.coached-to-success.com).
Refuse To Be a Victim
"We focus on the negatives, losing ourselves in the 'problem.' We point to our unhappy circumstances to rationalize our negative feelings. This is the easy way out. It takes, after all, very little effort to feel victimized." -- Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
Nothing and no one can make us a victim. We do it to ourselves when we allow external circumstances to hold power over us.
Although we have no control over what happens to us, we ALWAYS have a choice in how we respond. We hold our power when we accept complete responsibility for our thoughts, feelings and actions.
"A man may fall many times but he won't be a failure until he says someone pushed him." -- Elmer G. Letterman
"The most potent weapon in the hands of the oppressor is the mind of the oppressed." -- Steven Biko
What a great piece from my Coaching Mentor Dr. Randin Brons in his Idea Engineer. I am blessed to have been mentored by this man!
On a very frequent basis I talk with people blessed with “if only” syndrome. I have seen too many literally die from terminal uniqueness. A hard cold fact.
As the Kubler-Ross quote makes very clear, to not be a “victim” is not the easy choice, but is a choice we have and can learn to make on a regular basis.
I can relate to being a “victim”, because for many years I felt “circumstances” caused negative things to happen. Through hard work directed by good “coaches” I was able to escape the victim mentality. The difference was in my mind, soul and attitude.
Need a little help; go get yourself some great “coaching”! It will work if YOU work it! (www.coached-to-success.com).
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
GRATITUDE
FRIDAY THE 13th-Gratitude
Just a little rambling today! It's been a tough week at the old ranch and with the most important human in my life. Tough through circumstances, not my actions.
Today is a great day (as is every day) to feel gratitude!
We have had a minor crisis occur. In my life long past and pre life recovery, I likely would have gone nuts and vented overtly at people who were just doing their job. My beloved crashed, I was glad to be able to stay in the moment, let things happen and calmly take action. This included just supporting, not trying to control or vent at "the boss".
I am truly grateful for the tools that I have learned along the road of life recovery and importantly, for concious contact with a power greater than me that always has, and still reside, within. I am grateful that I found this power through a major change in attitude. Friday the 13th has been a good day and that will continue based on my making good choices!
Each day I have to focus on gratitude for things that DO happen each day. There is far too much negativity in this world and in the environments I occupy space in. A wise Newfie (a Canadian thing) once shared a saying with me (a good story-contact me and I'll share) - he said, "Boy, laugh or cry; the price is the same". Positive or negative, grateful or depressed-daily choices we all have to make.
As you read this Friday the 13th note, see if you can relate. If you can, and want to be coached to an attitude adjustment, drop me a line! The start is free! (www.hopeserenity.ca). Take the time to be conciously grateful for something today!
Just a little rambling today! It's been a tough week at the old ranch and with the most important human in my life. Tough through circumstances, not my actions.
Today is a great day (as is every day) to feel gratitude!
We have had a minor crisis occur. In my life long past and pre life recovery, I likely would have gone nuts and vented overtly at people who were just doing their job. My beloved crashed, I was glad to be able to stay in the moment, let things happen and calmly take action. This included just supporting, not trying to control or vent at "the boss".
I am truly grateful for the tools that I have learned along the road of life recovery and importantly, for concious contact with a power greater than me that always has, and still reside, within. I am grateful that I found this power through a major change in attitude. Friday the 13th has been a good day and that will continue based on my making good choices!
Each day I have to focus on gratitude for things that DO happen each day. There is far too much negativity in this world and in the environments I occupy space in. A wise Newfie (a Canadian thing) once shared a saying with me (a good story-contact me and I'll share) - he said, "Boy, laugh or cry; the price is the same". Positive or negative, grateful or depressed-daily choices we all have to make.
As you read this Friday the 13th note, see if you can relate. If you can, and want to be coached to an attitude adjustment, drop me a line! The start is free! (www.hopeserenity.ca). Take the time to be conciously grateful for something today!
Friday 13th-Gratitude
Friday 13th-Gratitude
FRIDAY THE 13th-Gratitude
Just a little rambling today! It's been a tough week at the old ranch and with the most important human in my life. Tough through circumstances, not my actions.
Today is a great day (as is every day) to feel gratitude!
We have had a minor crisis occur. In my life long past and pre life recovery, I likely would have gone nuts and vented overtly at people who were just doing their job. My beloved crashed, I was glad to be able to stay in the moment, let things happen and calmly take action. This included just supporting, not trying to control or vent at "the boss".
I am truly grateful for the tools that I have learned along the road of life recovery and importantly, for concious contact with a power greater than me that always has, and still reside, within. I am grateful that I found this power through a major change in attitude. Friday the 13th has been a good day and that will continue based on my making good choices!
Each day I have to focus on gratitude for things that DO happen each day. There is far too much negativity in this world and in the environments I occupy space in. A wise Newfie (a Canadian thing) once shared a saying with me (a good story-contact me and I'll share) - he said, "Boy, laugh or cry; the price is the same". Positive or negative, grateful or depressed-daily choices we all have to make.
As you read this Friday the 13th note, see if you can relate. If you can, and want to be coached to an attitude adjustment, drop me a line! The start is free! (www.hopeserenity.ca). Take the time to be conciously grateful for something today!
FRIDAY THE 13th-Gratitude
Just a little rambling today! It's been a tough week at the old ranch and with the most important human in my life. Tough through circumstances, not my actions.
Today is a great day (as is every day) to feel gratitude!
We have had a minor crisis occur. In my life long past and pre life recovery, I likely would have gone nuts and vented overtly at people who were just doing their job. My beloved crashed, I was glad to be able to stay in the moment, let things happen and calmly take action. This included just supporting, not trying to control or vent at "the boss".
I am truly grateful for the tools that I have learned along the road of life recovery and importantly, for concious contact with a power greater than me that always has, and still reside, within. I am grateful that I found this power through a major change in attitude. Friday the 13th has been a good day and that will continue based on my making good choices!
Each day I have to focus on gratitude for things that DO happen each day. There is far too much negativity in this world and in the environments I occupy space in. A wise Newfie (a Canadian thing) once shared a saying with me (a good story-contact me and I'll share) - he said, "Boy, laugh or cry; the price is the same". Positive or negative, grateful or depressed-daily choices we all have to make.
As you read this Friday the 13th note, see if you can relate. If you can, and want to be coached to an attitude adjustment, drop me a line! The start is free! (www.hopeserenity.ca). Take the time to be conciously grateful for something today!
Friday, August 13, 2010
ARE YOU IN DENIAL?
ARE YOU IN DENIAL?
ARE YOU IN DENIAL? (or Swimming in the NILE)
Ahh, that old line, denial is not a river in Egypt! Ever think about what you’re in denial about?
I spent many years denying some major issues. I drank and drugged too much, I used mood altering behaviours (with other people) to escape reality and likely several other things! My family and those close to me were in denial; denial about the life they lived as a direct result of my behaviour and a false belief that how we lived was normal. Our family had many secrets.
My actions not only hurt me, but hurt those I cared the most about, and denying this caused a huge problem for many!
Statistics tell us that at least 10% of the population suffers from addiction. The average household still sits at about 4 people. Funny then, about 1/3 of the population or more are directly impacted by addiction, yet how many admit it and take action to do something about it?
My own family and I are living proof of what happens when a cycle is not broken.
Professionally I work with others. Working with addicted people is the tip of the iceberg in the coaching niche I work in. It is pretty obvious when people have an addiction. It makes it easier for them to escape denial when things get bad enough.
Recently, I have been working with more and more people who are members of the group who have been adversely affected by addiction and abuse. Most of these people are good people leading a decent life and who truly believe themselves to be helpers. To a certain extent they are “victims”. It’s amazing to see how people who have lived with addicted and/or dysfunctional families are attracted to similar people. (Again, I look at my own situation). The tragic thing is that most of these people live in deep denial; after all, they don’t have an obvious problem; just a great deal of unhappiness. They lose themselves in the world they live, particularly those who are prone to put others overtly and consciously ahead of themselves and who want things to look normal and/or perfect.
For this group, overcoming denial is difficult!
I invite you, the reader, to look deeply into my favourite tool; a mirror. Do you see a happy and content person in the mirror OR is there something you are in denial about? You don’t have to be an addict or abuser to be made unhappy.
We all have choices available to us. Overcoming denial and seeking help is a BIG first step to getting the life you deserve. This is followed by taking major action.
Look at your life. Are you in denial or is “De Nile” truly a river in Egypt? (www.hopeserenity.ca)
ARE YOU IN DENIAL? (or Swimming in the NILE)
Ahh, that old line, denial is not a river in Egypt! Ever think about what you’re in denial about?
I spent many years denying some major issues. I drank and drugged too much, I used mood altering behaviours (with other people) to escape reality and likely several other things! My family and those close to me were in denial; denial about the life they lived as a direct result of my behaviour and a false belief that how we lived was normal. Our family had many secrets.
My actions not only hurt me, but hurt those I cared the most about, and denying this caused a huge problem for many!
Statistics tell us that at least 10% of the population suffers from addiction. The average household still sits at about 4 people. Funny then, about 1/3 of the population or more are directly impacted by addiction, yet how many admit it and take action to do something about it?
My own family and I are living proof of what happens when a cycle is not broken.
Professionally I work with others. Working with addicted people is the tip of the iceberg in the coaching niche I work in. It is pretty obvious when people have an addiction. It makes it easier for them to escape denial when things get bad enough.
Recently, I have been working with more and more people who are members of the group who have been adversely affected by addiction and abuse. Most of these people are good people leading a decent life and who truly believe themselves to be helpers. To a certain extent they are “victims”. It’s amazing to see how people who have lived with addicted and/or dysfunctional families are attracted to similar people. (Again, I look at my own situation). The tragic thing is that most of these people live in deep denial; after all, they don’t have an obvious problem; just a great deal of unhappiness. They lose themselves in the world they live, particularly those who are prone to put others overtly and consciously ahead of themselves and who want things to look normal and/or perfect.
For this group, overcoming denial is difficult!
I invite you, the reader, to look deeply into my favourite tool; a mirror. Do you see a happy and content person in the mirror OR is there something you are in denial about? You don’t have to be an addict or abuser to be made unhappy.
We all have choices available to us. Overcoming denial and seeking help is a BIG first step to getting the life you deserve. This is followed by taking major action.
Look at your life. Are you in denial or is “De Nile” truly a river in Egypt? (www.hopeserenity.ca)
अरे यू इन डेनिअल?
ARE YOU IN DENIAL? (or Swimming in the NILE)
Ahh, that old line, denial is not a river in Egypt! Ever think about what you’re in denial about?
I spent many years denying some major issues. I drank and drugged too much, I used mood altering behaviours (with other people) to escape reality and likely several other things! My family and those close to me were in denial; denial about the life they lived as a direct result of my behaviour and a false belief that how we lived was normal. Our family had many secrets.
My actions not only hurt me, but hurt those I cared the most about, and denying this caused a huge problem for many!
Statistics tell us that at least 10% of the population suffers from addiction. The average household still sits at about 4 people. Funny then, about 1/3 of the population or more are directly impacted by addiction, yet how many admit it and take action to do something about it?
My own family and I are living proof of what happens when a cycle is not broken.
Professionally I work with others. Working with addicted people is the tip of the iceberg in the coaching niche I work in. It is pretty obvious when people have an addiction. It makes it easier for them to escape denial when things get bad enough.
Recently, I have been working with more and more people who are members of the group who have been adversely affected by addiction and abuse. Most of these people are good people leading a decent life and who truly believe themselves to be helpers. To a certain extent they are “victims”. It’s amazing to see how people who have lived with addicted and/or dysfunctional families are attracted to similar people. (Again, I look at my own situation). The tragic thing is that most of these people live in deep denial; after all, they don’t have an obvious problem; just a great deal of unhappiness. They lose themselves in the world they live, particularly those who are prone to put others overtly and consciously ahead of themselves and who want things to look normal and/or perfect.
For this group, overcoming denial is difficult!
I invite you, the reader, to look deeply into my favourite tool; a mirror. Do you see a happy and content person in the mirror OR is there something you are in denial about? You don’t have to be an addict or abuser to be made unhappy.
We all have choices available to us. Overcoming denial and seeking help is a BIG first step to getting the life you deserve. This is followed by taking major action.
Look at your life. Are you in denial or is “De Nile” truly a river in Egypt? (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Ahh, that old line, denial is not a river in Egypt! Ever think about what you’re in denial about?
I spent many years denying some major issues. I drank and drugged too much, I used mood altering behaviours (with other people) to escape reality and likely several other things! My family and those close to me were in denial; denial about the life they lived as a direct result of my behaviour and a false belief that how we lived was normal. Our family had many secrets.
My actions not only hurt me, but hurt those I cared the most about, and denying this caused a huge problem for many!
Statistics tell us that at least 10% of the population suffers from addiction. The average household still sits at about 4 people. Funny then, about 1/3 of the population or more are directly impacted by addiction, yet how many admit it and take action to do something about it?
My own family and I are living proof of what happens when a cycle is not broken.
Professionally I work with others. Working with addicted people is the tip of the iceberg in the coaching niche I work in. It is pretty obvious when people have an addiction. It makes it easier for them to escape denial when things get bad enough.
Recently, I have been working with more and more people who are members of the group who have been adversely affected by addiction and abuse. Most of these people are good people leading a decent life and who truly believe themselves to be helpers. To a certain extent they are “victims”. It’s amazing to see how people who have lived with addicted and/or dysfunctional families are attracted to similar people. (Again, I look at my own situation). The tragic thing is that most of these people live in deep denial; after all, they don’t have an obvious problem; just a great deal of unhappiness. They lose themselves in the world they live, particularly those who are prone to put others overtly and consciously ahead of themselves and who want things to look normal and/or perfect.
For this group, overcoming denial is difficult!
I invite you, the reader, to look deeply into my favourite tool; a mirror. Do you see a happy and content person in the mirror OR is there something you are in denial about? You don’t have to be an addict or abuser to be made unhappy.
We all have choices available to us. Overcoming denial and seeking help is a BIG first step to getting the life you deserve. This is followed by taking major action.
Look at your life. Are you in denial or is “De Nile” truly a river in Egypt? (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Tuesday, August 10, 2010
OPEN ABOUT PROBLEMS? (Denial)
OPEN ABOUT PROBLEMS? (Denial)
OPEN ABOUT PROBLEMS?
Many of us lived in situations where it wasn't okay to identify, have, or talk about problems. Denial became a way of life - our way of dealing with problems.
When working with others in recovering a life you want and transforming to a new way of life, many still fear problems. We continue to react or deny problems; we do not delve in to the cause! To be able to admit and deal with problems on a daily basis is truly a gift; and a skill that can be learned.
The process of co-creative life recovery focuses on learning how to clearly identify and deal with problems. A first step is to make sure the problem is ours; that it does not belong to someone else. If it belongs to them, we set a boundary and place the problem where it belongs; if it is ours we may set a goal, ask for help, gather information, take action or just let go of the problem.
In going through life recovery, we learn to not worry about problems that may happen. When problems to come up and they will, we will have the tools and resources necessary to deal with them!
Life recovery in my belief has a spiritual (not religious) component. In understanding and fully engaging in the process, you will be able to deal with situations intuitively that used to baffle you! You will deal with life on life’s terms free of denial.
OPEN ABOUT PROBLEMS?
Many of us lived in situations where it wasn't okay to identify, have, or talk about problems. Denial became a way of life - our way of dealing with problems.
When working with others in recovering a life you want and transforming to a new way of life, many still fear problems. We continue to react or deny problems; we do not delve in to the cause! To be able to admit and deal with problems on a daily basis is truly a gift; and a skill that can be learned.
The process of co-creative life recovery focuses on learning how to clearly identify and deal with problems. A first step is to make sure the problem is ours; that it does not belong to someone else. If it belongs to them, we set a boundary and place the problem where it belongs; if it is ours we may set a goal, ask for help, gather information, take action or just let go of the problem.
In going through life recovery, we learn to not worry about problems that may happen. When problems to come up and they will, we will have the tools and resources necessary to deal with them!
Life recovery in my belief has a spiritual (not religious) component. In understanding and fully engaging in the process, you will be able to deal with situations intuitively that used to baffle you! You will deal with life on life’s terms free of denial.
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