A NIGHT OF HOPE
Every now and again, we can all use a “shot” of hope. Last night was a great one for me.
With all the stats that I keep seeing on addiction recovery, the exploits of people like Lindsay Lohan and the “name” athletes and celebs we are bombarded with and the tough times we are going through, it is easy to have feelings of “hope” dimmed.
Last night, I had the opportunity to drive down to Toronto and take part is a special evening, one that left me full of hope.
The apple does not fall far from the tree, and not only in my personal situation, but the words of many in attendance, I was reminded of that throughout the evening.
Last night I was asked and happily presented my son with a symbolic medallion to recognize he had completed on full year clean and sober. To be asked by him to this was a real honour, to see him achieve this milestone at a much younger age was terrific. Too bad his grandfather and great grandfather did not have the same experience.
While it was a great moment to be a part of this occasion for my son, my regeneration of hope came from far more than this. During the evening, 4 younger (than me) people were recognized for achieving clean time of one year or more, and each shared a story that showed a positive impact on the people, including spouses and children, who were close to them.
Several other people came forward to be recognized for milestones leading up to one year, and they were all beaming ear to ear!
It was not the recognition of individuals that filled me with hope. It was the fact and living proof that there are many people who are truly recovering from addictions on a daily basis and are transforming their lives; all of them with help on a spiritual basis. They are no longer alone spiritually!
Was I proud of my offspring? Sure was. Was I pleased to be a part of a “helping” community including volunteers and professionals? Yup.
But more than anything, I was thrilled to be a part of an evening where miracles in people’s lives gave hope. Pure and simple. It was a recharging of batteries that were in need of a recharge.
As a friend of mine who is a motivational speaker and trainer taught me long ago, Rule #1 we all should learn is, “life is tough”. There are no exceptions.
As I was reminded last night; while life is tough, there is HOPE for each and every one of us who choose to change. Great HOPE. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
A NIGHT OF HOPE
A NIGHT OF HOPE
A NIGHT OF HOPE
Every now and again, we can all use a “shot” of hope. Last night was a great one for me.
With all the stats that I keep seeing on addiction recovery, the exploits of people like Lindsay Lohan and the “name” athletes and celebs we are bombarded with and the tough times we are going through, it is easy to have feelings of “hope” dimmed.
Last night, I had the opportunity to drive down to Toronto and take part is a special evening, one that left me full of hope.
The apple does not fall far from the tree, and not only in my personal situation, but the words of many in attendance, I was reminded of that throughout the evening.
Last night I was asked and happily presented my son with a symbolic medallion to recognize he had completed on full year clean and sober. To be asked by him to this was a real honour, to see him achieve this milestone at a much younger age was terrific. Too bad his grandfather and great grandfather did not have the same experience.
While it was a great moment to be a part of this occasion for my son, my regeneration of hope came from far more than this. During the evening, 4 younger (than me) people were recognized for achieving clean time of one year or more, and each shared a story that showed a positive impact on the people, including spouses and children, who were close to them.
Several other people came forward to be recognized for milestones leading up to one year, and they were all beaming ear to ear!
It was not the recognition of individuals that filled me with hope. It was the fact and living proof that there are many people who are truly recovering from addictions on a daily basis and are transforming their lives; all of them with help on a spiritual basis. They are no longer alone spiritually!
Was I proud of my offspring? Sure was. Was I pleased to be a part of a “helping” community including volunteers and professionals? Yup.
But more than anything, I was thrilled to be a part of an evening where miracles in people’s lives gave hope. Pure and simple. It was a recharging of batteries that were in need of a recharge.
As a friend of mine who is a motivational speaker and trainer taught me long ago, Rule #1 we all should learn is, “life is tough”. There are no exceptions.
As I was reminded last night; while life is tough, there is HOPE for each and every one of us who choose to change. Great HOPE. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
A NIGHT OF HOPE
Every now and again, we can all use a “shot” of hope. Last night was a great one for me.
With all the stats that I keep seeing on addiction recovery, the exploits of people like Lindsay Lohan and the “name” athletes and celebs we are bombarded with and the tough times we are going through, it is easy to have feelings of “hope” dimmed.
Last night, I had the opportunity to drive down to Toronto and take part is a special evening, one that left me full of hope.
The apple does not fall far from the tree, and not only in my personal situation, but the words of many in attendance, I was reminded of that throughout the evening.
Last night I was asked and happily presented my son with a symbolic medallion to recognize he had completed on full year clean and sober. To be asked by him to this was a real honour, to see him achieve this milestone at a much younger age was terrific. Too bad his grandfather and great grandfather did not have the same experience.
While it was a great moment to be a part of this occasion for my son, my regeneration of hope came from far more than this. During the evening, 4 younger (than me) people were recognized for achieving clean time of one year or more, and each shared a story that showed a positive impact on the people, including spouses and children, who were close to them.
Several other people came forward to be recognized for milestones leading up to one year, and they were all beaming ear to ear!
It was not the recognition of individuals that filled me with hope. It was the fact and living proof that there are many people who are truly recovering from addictions on a daily basis and are transforming their lives; all of them with help on a spiritual basis. They are no longer alone spiritually!
Was I proud of my offspring? Sure was. Was I pleased to be a part of a “helping” community including volunteers and professionals? Yup.
But more than anything, I was thrilled to be a part of an evening where miracles in people’s lives gave hope. Pure and simple. It was a recharging of batteries that were in need of a recharge.
As a friend of mine who is a motivational speaker and trainer taught me long ago, Rule #1 we all should learn is, “life is tough”. There are no exceptions.
As I was reminded last night; while life is tough, there is HOPE for each and every one of us who choose to change. Great HOPE. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Monday, September 27, 2010
WHAT DOES IT TAKE TO MAKE IT?
WHAT DOES IT TAKE TO MAKE IT?
WHAT DOES IT TAKE TO MAKE IT?
Over many years, I have had the privilege of working in a mentoring or coaching role with hundreds. I’ve been in several roles, each of them different in approach, from boss to mentor to sponsor to coach to friend to “trusted confidant” to sponsor. I am hesitant to mention father because this is a very unique role.
The “issues” have varied from work and job related, through life crisis including depression and addiction through family and relationship issues.
There is, in my experience, no one size fits all solution, but there are a few simple things that those who have achieved their definition of success have in common.
“He who requires urging to do a noble act will never accomplish it.”--Kahlil Gibran
As the Gibran quote points out, if a person has to be pushed to do the right thing, it likely will not happen. If your not totally willing to make change and prepared to accept the reality of your situation, chances for achieving YOUR goals is minimal.
In many of the roles I have played, I have just been there for others because I try to be a good mentor, friend, boss, etc. While always hopeful, I will work with others out of a sense of personal duty.
I love my role as coach, I will not work with a person who, prior to agreeing to a coach/client relationship, cannot convince me, they are willing to try new things and accepting that they are at a personal bottom, a place that they want to move up from. They must accept that they had a role in reaching their bottom.
I will not work with clients who are not prepared to be open and honest about their past and present. If they cannot be honest with me as coach, there is a strong probability that they cannot be honest with themselves. In my practise, the mirror is an important client tool and who likes to look at a liar? I work with clients who want to “make it” (as defined by them) and I guarantee success, something unique in my business. Ah, the joys of coaching by choice!
Once I have been convinced a person is willing and has accepted, I ask them for a written commitment to do the work THEY are assigned.
Work you may ask?
Yes homework on a regular and sometimes daily basis. Without hard work and commitment coupled with making change a high priority in your daily life, success will not happen. This is called action.
So you want to make it? You are tired of the life you are living and the lack of joy you are getting? You want an abundant life?
You have your own issues and story. Because of your uniqueness, there is not a cookie cutter solution. HOWEVER, I have tried to share, in a straight forward fashion, things I had to do and are common elements I have witnessed in those who have successfully “made it”. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Are you really prepared to make it or are you kidding yourself?
WHAT DOES IT TAKE TO MAKE IT?
Over many years, I have had the privilege of working in a mentoring or coaching role with hundreds. I’ve been in several roles, each of them different in approach, from boss to mentor to sponsor to coach to friend to “trusted confidant” to sponsor. I am hesitant to mention father because this is a very unique role.
The “issues” have varied from work and job related, through life crisis including depression and addiction through family and relationship issues.
There is, in my experience, no one size fits all solution, but there are a few simple things that those who have achieved their definition of success have in common.
“He who requires urging to do a noble act will never accomplish it.”--Kahlil Gibran
As the Gibran quote points out, if a person has to be pushed to do the right thing, it likely will not happen. If your not totally willing to make change and prepared to accept the reality of your situation, chances for achieving YOUR goals is minimal.
In many of the roles I have played, I have just been there for others because I try to be a good mentor, friend, boss, etc. While always hopeful, I will work with others out of a sense of personal duty.
I love my role as coach, I will not work with a person who, prior to agreeing to a coach/client relationship, cannot convince me, they are willing to try new things and accepting that they are at a personal bottom, a place that they want to move up from. They must accept that they had a role in reaching their bottom.
I will not work with clients who are not prepared to be open and honest about their past and present. If they cannot be honest with me as coach, there is a strong probability that they cannot be honest with themselves. In my practise, the mirror is an important client tool and who likes to look at a liar? I work with clients who want to “make it” (as defined by them) and I guarantee success, something unique in my business. Ah, the joys of coaching by choice!
Once I have been convinced a person is willing and has accepted, I ask them for a written commitment to do the work THEY are assigned.
Work you may ask?
Yes homework on a regular and sometimes daily basis. Without hard work and commitment coupled with making change a high priority in your daily life, success will not happen. This is called action.
So you want to make it? You are tired of the life you are living and the lack of joy you are getting? You want an abundant life?
You have your own issues and story. Because of your uniqueness, there is not a cookie cutter solution. HOWEVER, I have tried to share, in a straight forward fashion, things I had to do and are common elements I have witnessed in those who have successfully “made it”. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Are you really prepared to make it or are you kidding yourself?
वहत दोएस आईटी टेक तो मके आईटी?
WHAT DOES IT TAKE TO MAKE IT?
Over many years, I have had the privilege of working in a mentoring or coaching role with hundreds. I’ve been in several roles, each of them different in approach, from boss to mentor to sponsor to coach to friend to “trusted confidant” to sponsor. I am hesitant to mention father because this is a very unique role.
The “issues” have varied from work and job related, through life crisis including depression and addiction through family and relationship issues.
There is, in my experience, no one size fits all solution, but there are a few simple things that those who have achieved their definition of success have in common.
“He who requires urging to do a noble act will never accomplish it.”--Kahlil Gibran
As the Gibran quote points out, if a person has to be pushed to do the right thing, it likely will not happen. If your not totally willing to make change and prepared to accept the reality of your situation, chances for achieving YOUR goals is minimal.
In many of the roles I have played, I have just been there for others because I try to be a good mentor, friend, boss, etc. While always hopeful, I will work with others out of a sense of personal duty.
I love my role as coach, I will not work with a person who, prior to agreeing to a coach/client relationship, cannot convince me, they are willing to try new things and accepting that they are at a personal bottom, a place that they want to move up from. They must accept that they had a role in reaching their bottom.
I will not work with clients who are not prepared to be open and honest about their past and present. If they cannot be honest with me as coach, there is a strong probability that they cannot be honest with themselves. In my practise, the mirror is an important client tool and who likes to look at a liar? I work with clients who want to “make it” (as defined by them) and I guarantee success, something unique in my business. Ah, the joys of coaching by choice!
Once I have been convinced a person is willing and has accepted, I ask them for a written commitment to do the work THEY are assigned.
Work you may ask?
Yes homework on a regular and sometimes daily basis. Without hard work and commitment coupled with making change a high priority in your daily life, success will not happen. This is called action.
So you want to make it? You are tired of the life you are living and the lack of joy you are getting? You want an abundant life?
You have your own issues and story. Because of your uniqueness, there is not a cookie cutter solution. HOWEVER, I have tried to share, in a straight forward fashion, things I had to do and are common elements I have witnessed in those who have successfully “made it”. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Are you really prepared to make it or are you kidding yourself?
Over many years, I have had the privilege of working in a mentoring or coaching role with hundreds. I’ve been in several roles, each of them different in approach, from boss to mentor to sponsor to coach to friend to “trusted confidant” to sponsor. I am hesitant to mention father because this is a very unique role.
The “issues” have varied from work and job related, through life crisis including depression and addiction through family and relationship issues.
There is, in my experience, no one size fits all solution, but there are a few simple things that those who have achieved their definition of success have in common.
“He who requires urging to do a noble act will never accomplish it.”--Kahlil Gibran
As the Gibran quote points out, if a person has to be pushed to do the right thing, it likely will not happen. If your not totally willing to make change and prepared to accept the reality of your situation, chances for achieving YOUR goals is minimal.
In many of the roles I have played, I have just been there for others because I try to be a good mentor, friend, boss, etc. While always hopeful, I will work with others out of a sense of personal duty.
I love my role as coach, I will not work with a person who, prior to agreeing to a coach/client relationship, cannot convince me, they are willing to try new things and accepting that they are at a personal bottom, a place that they want to move up from. They must accept that they had a role in reaching their bottom.
I will not work with clients who are not prepared to be open and honest about their past and present. If they cannot be honest with me as coach, there is a strong probability that they cannot be honest with themselves. In my practise, the mirror is an important client tool and who likes to look at a liar? I work with clients who want to “make it” (as defined by them) and I guarantee success, something unique in my business. Ah, the joys of coaching by choice!
Once I have been convinced a person is willing and has accepted, I ask them for a written commitment to do the work THEY are assigned.
Work you may ask?
Yes homework on a regular and sometimes daily basis. Without hard work and commitment coupled with making change a high priority in your daily life, success will not happen. This is called action.
So you want to make it? You are tired of the life you are living and the lack of joy you are getting? You want an abundant life?
You have your own issues and story. Because of your uniqueness, there is not a cookie cutter solution. HOWEVER, I have tried to share, in a straight forward fashion, things I had to do and are common elements I have witnessed in those who have successfully “made it”. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Are you really prepared to make it or are you kidding yourself?
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
सीर्चिंग फॉर यू?
SEARCHING FOR YOU?
Another thought provoking article from my coaching mentor, Dr. Randin Brons, in his Idea Engineer.
How many of us go through life trying to “find ourselves”?
As a coach, one of the things I work with clients on frequently is getting out of their own way. I am a great believer that we all must have a conscious spiritual (not religious) component alive in our lives. Sometimes we need help to find that we have it, all we have to do is be conscious! It’s not something that we have to work at; it already exists. The real you is a spiritual being.
"The anxious student asked the Zen master how long to enlightenment. The Zen Master answered a long time, at least 10 years. The student said, "Well I will work twice as hard." The Zen master said, "Then it will take 20 years." "No!" said the committed student, "I will work three times as hard." "Well then," said the Zen master, "it will take 30 years."
Do you need to work at being spiritual? No. You already are spiritual. Do you need to work at being human? No. That's just who you are.
The spiritual path doesn't require us to get anything. It's a process of opening to new dimensions of who we already are. It's a process of awakening to our own truth. It's a process of allowing ourselves to be authentic.”
"It is not by your actions that you will be saved, but by your being." -- Meister Eckhart
"People ask what must they become to be loving. The answer is 'nothing.' It is a process of letting go of what you thought you had become and allowing your true nature to float to the surface naturally." -- Stephen Levine
If there are things in here that make sense to you, and you want to delve into more deeply, let’s talk. Possibly we can help you get out of the way of you and discover your true self! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Another thought provoking article from my coaching mentor, Dr. Randin Brons, in his Idea Engineer.
How many of us go through life trying to “find ourselves”?
As a coach, one of the things I work with clients on frequently is getting out of their own way. I am a great believer that we all must have a conscious spiritual (not religious) component alive in our lives. Sometimes we need help to find that we have it, all we have to do is be conscious! It’s not something that we have to work at; it already exists. The real you is a spiritual being.
"The anxious student asked the Zen master how long to enlightenment. The Zen Master answered a long time, at least 10 years. The student said, "Well I will work twice as hard." The Zen master said, "Then it will take 20 years." "No!" said the committed student, "I will work three times as hard." "Well then," said the Zen master, "it will take 30 years."
Do you need to work at being spiritual? No. You already are spiritual. Do you need to work at being human? No. That's just who you are.
The spiritual path doesn't require us to get anything. It's a process of opening to new dimensions of who we already are. It's a process of awakening to our own truth. It's a process of allowing ourselves to be authentic.”
"It is not by your actions that you will be saved, but by your being." -- Meister Eckhart
"People ask what must they become to be loving. The answer is 'nothing.' It is a process of letting go of what you thought you had become and allowing your true nature to float to the surface naturally." -- Stephen Levine
If there are things in here that make sense to you, and you want to delve into more deeply, let’s talk. Possibly we can help you get out of the way of you and discover your true self! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
SEARCHING FOR YOU?
SEARCHING FOR YOU?
SEARCHING FOR YOU?
Another thought provoking article from my coaching mentor, Dr. Randin Brons, in his Idea Engineer.
How many of us go through life trying to “find ourselves”?
As a coach, one of the things I work with clients on frequently is getting out of their own way. I am a great believer that we all must have a conscious spiritual (not religious) component alive in our lives. Sometimes we need help to find that we have it, all we have to do is be conscious! It’s not something that we have to work at; it already exists. The real you is a spiritual being.
"The anxious student asked the Zen master how long to enlightenment. The Zen Master answered a long time, at least 10 years. The student said, "Well I will work twice as hard." The Zen master said, "Then it will take 20 years." "No!" said the committed student, "I will work three times as hard." "Well then," said the Zen master, "it will take 30 years."
Do you need to work at being spiritual? No. You already are spiritual. Do you need to work at being human? No. That's just who you are.
The spiritual path doesn't require us to get anything. It's a process of opening to new dimensions of who we already are. It's a process of awakening to our own truth. It's a process of allowing ourselves to be authentic.”
"It is not by your actions that you will be saved, but by your being." -- Meister Eckhart
"People ask what must they become to be loving. The answer is 'nothing.' It is a process of letting go of what you thought you had become and allowing your true nature to float to the surface naturally." -- Stephen Levine
If there are things in here that make sense to you, and you want to delve into more deeply, let’s talk. Possibly we can help you get out of the way of you and discover your true self! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
SEARCHING FOR YOU?
Another thought provoking article from my coaching mentor, Dr. Randin Brons, in his Idea Engineer.
How many of us go through life trying to “find ourselves”?
As a coach, one of the things I work with clients on frequently is getting out of their own way. I am a great believer that we all must have a conscious spiritual (not religious) component alive in our lives. Sometimes we need help to find that we have it, all we have to do is be conscious! It’s not something that we have to work at; it already exists. The real you is a spiritual being.
"The anxious student asked the Zen master how long to enlightenment. The Zen Master answered a long time, at least 10 years. The student said, "Well I will work twice as hard." The Zen master said, "Then it will take 20 years." "No!" said the committed student, "I will work three times as hard." "Well then," said the Zen master, "it will take 30 years."
Do you need to work at being spiritual? No. You already are spiritual. Do you need to work at being human? No. That's just who you are.
The spiritual path doesn't require us to get anything. It's a process of opening to new dimensions of who we already are. It's a process of awakening to our own truth. It's a process of allowing ourselves to be authentic.”
"It is not by your actions that you will be saved, but by your being." -- Meister Eckhart
"People ask what must they become to be loving. The answer is 'nothing.' It is a process of letting go of what you thought you had become and allowing your true nature to float to the surface naturally." -- Stephen Levine
If there are things in here that make sense to you, and you want to delve into more deeply, let’s talk. Possibly we can help you get out of the way of you and discover your true self! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Thursday, September 16, 2010
टॉप १० रेअसोंस इ USE
TOP TEN REASONS I USE
From my friend Patrick Meninga at “Spiritual River”, I want to share this article with you. If you see yourself in it, you need to talk with someone before you become a statistic!
The Top 10 Excuses that Addicts and Alcoholics Use to Justify Their Addiction – and Why it is All BS
Excuse #1: “I have to drink/use drugs in order to work or continue to be successful.”
Oh really? Is that why you….
Perhaps the real truth of the matter is….
…your career actually suffers due to your addiction, rather than being empowered by your drinking or drug use.
When I was still using drugs and alcohol, I tried to rationalize that drinking and drugging was beneficial to my work in different ways. After getting clean and sober, I have made huge leaps in my career and what I do for meaningful work in my life. The truth is that my drinking was severely limiting me, not empowering me.
Excuse #2: “I need to drink/use drugs in order to be social.”
Oh really? Is that why you….
Perhaps the real truth of the matter is….
…your drinking and drug use may have resulted in some occasional “fun times” in social environments, but over the long term it only serves to isolate you further. Not only that, but the true addict or alcoholic will eventually go overboard, use more than they planned on, and end up in embarrassing situations that they would have otherwise liked to avoid.
The truth is that we see ourselves as being “tragically hip and fatally cool” when we are intoxicated or high, but everyone else just thinks we are lame, or boring. Get over yourself.
Excuse #3: “I’m not hurting anyone else.”
Oh really? Is that why you….
PLEASE READ THE REST OF THIS ARTICLE AT www.hopeserenity.ca. Bet you find your excuse in here!
From my friend Patrick Meninga at “Spiritual River”, I want to share this article with you. If you see yourself in it, you need to talk with someone before you become a statistic!
The Top 10 Excuses that Addicts and Alcoholics Use to Justify Their Addiction – and Why it is All BS
Excuse #1: “I have to drink/use drugs in order to work or continue to be successful.”
Oh really? Is that why you….
Perhaps the real truth of the matter is….
…your career actually suffers due to your addiction, rather than being empowered by your drinking or drug use.
When I was still using drugs and alcohol, I tried to rationalize that drinking and drugging was beneficial to my work in different ways. After getting clean and sober, I have made huge leaps in my career and what I do for meaningful work in my life. The truth is that my drinking was severely limiting me, not empowering me.
Excuse #2: “I need to drink/use drugs in order to be social.”
Oh really? Is that why you….
Perhaps the real truth of the matter is….
…your drinking and drug use may have resulted in some occasional “fun times” in social environments, but over the long term it only serves to isolate you further. Not only that, but the true addict or alcoholic will eventually go overboard, use more than they planned on, and end up in embarrassing situations that they would have otherwise liked to avoid.
The truth is that we see ourselves as being “tragically hip and fatally cool” when we are intoxicated or high, but everyone else just thinks we are lame, or boring. Get over yourself.
Excuse #3: “I’m not hurting anyone else.”
Oh really? Is that why you….
PLEASE READ THE REST OF THIS ARTICLE AT www.hopeserenity.ca. Bet you find your excuse in here!
TOP TEN REASONS I USE
TOP TEN REASONS I USE
TOP TEN REASONS I USE
From my friend Patrick Meninga at “Spiritual River”, I want to share this article with you. If you see yourself in it, you need to talk with someone before you become a statistic!
The Top 10 Excuses that Addicts and Alcoholics Use to Justify Their Addiction – and Why it is All BS
Excuse #1: “I have to drink/use drugs in order to work or continue to be successful.”
Oh really? Is that why you….
Perhaps the real truth of the matter is….
…your career actually suffers due to your addiction, rather than being empowered by your drinking or drug use.
When I was still using drugs and alcohol, I tried to rationalize that drinking and drugging was beneficial to my work in different ways. After getting clean and sober, I have made huge leaps in my career and what I do for meaningful work in my life. The truth is that my drinking was severely limiting me, not empowering me.
Excuse #2: “I need to drink/use drugs in order to be social.”
Oh really? Is that why you….
Perhaps the real truth of the matter is….
…your drinking and drug use may have resulted in some occasional “fun times” in social environments, but over the long term it only serves to isolate you further. Not only that, but the true addict or alcoholic will eventually go overboard, use more than they planned on, and end up in embarrassing situations that they would have otherwise liked to avoid.
The truth is that we see ourselves as being “tragically hip and fatally cool” when we are intoxicated or high, but everyone else just thinks we are lame, or boring. Get over yourself.
Excuse #3: “I’m not hurting anyone else.”
Oh really? Is that why you….
PLEASE READ THE REST OF THIS ARTICLE AT www.hopeserenity.ca. Bet you find your excuse in here!
TOP TEN REASONS I USE
From my friend Patrick Meninga at “Spiritual River”, I want to share this article with you. If you see yourself in it, you need to talk with someone before you become a statistic!
The Top 10 Excuses that Addicts and Alcoholics Use to Justify Their Addiction – and Why it is All BS
Excuse #1: “I have to drink/use drugs in order to work or continue to be successful.”
Oh really? Is that why you….
Perhaps the real truth of the matter is….
…your career actually suffers due to your addiction, rather than being empowered by your drinking or drug use.
When I was still using drugs and alcohol, I tried to rationalize that drinking and drugging was beneficial to my work in different ways. After getting clean and sober, I have made huge leaps in my career and what I do for meaningful work in my life. The truth is that my drinking was severely limiting me, not empowering me.
Excuse #2: “I need to drink/use drugs in order to be social.”
Oh really? Is that why you….
Perhaps the real truth of the matter is….
…your drinking and drug use may have resulted in some occasional “fun times” in social environments, but over the long term it only serves to isolate you further. Not only that, but the true addict or alcoholic will eventually go overboard, use more than they planned on, and end up in embarrassing situations that they would have otherwise liked to avoid.
The truth is that we see ourselves as being “tragically hip and fatally cool” when we are intoxicated or high, but everyone else just thinks we are lame, or boring. Get over yourself.
Excuse #3: “I’m not hurting anyone else.”
Oh really? Is that why you….
PLEASE READ THE REST OF THIS ARTICLE AT www.hopeserenity.ca. Bet you find your excuse in here!
Monday, September 13, 2010
AUTHENTICALLY YOU!
AUTHENTICALLY YOU!
AUTHENTICALLY YOU!
"Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else." ~Judy Garland
Why do so many people live their lives to try and be someone else? You have to love the late Judy Garland’s quote because it is so true.
I know that for many years I lived a life trying to be who others wanted me to be. Today, I often see others trying to be like or look like someone else. Recently my grandson grew hair to look like Justin Bieber, and the look, in part because of the texture of his hair, did not suit him at all! And man, the money that is spent on cosmetic and other surgeries to try to be “just like”!
The question is “what is wrong with being you”?
Now there are some who read this who will say well there are people with serious deformities or defects who require corrective surgery, and off course, there are. This is not what I’m referring to.
If you are not happy with who you are today, why not get some help and take action yourself to be a first rate version of yourself. With few exceptions, we have all been given some great attributes and we have to become personally responsible to accentuate our strengths and humbly appreciate them and use them while recognizing our weaknesses and working actively to minimize there impact. I strive daily to be a first rate version of myself, and while I’m not everybody’s cup of tea, today I live comfortably in my own skin. I am happy being me and am a work in constant progress.
Be authentically you and not a person who is trying to be someone else!
Not happy with who you are? Rather than trying to be a second rate version of someone else, why not take the action needed to be a first rate version of yourself? To be authentically you! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
AUTHENTICALLY YOU!
"Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else." ~Judy Garland
Why do so many people live their lives to try and be someone else? You have to love the late Judy Garland’s quote because it is so true.
I know that for many years I lived a life trying to be who others wanted me to be. Today, I often see others trying to be like or look like someone else. Recently my grandson grew hair to look like Justin Bieber, and the look, in part because of the texture of his hair, did not suit him at all! And man, the money that is spent on cosmetic and other surgeries to try to be “just like”!
The question is “what is wrong with being you”?
Now there are some who read this who will say well there are people with serious deformities or defects who require corrective surgery, and off course, there are. This is not what I’m referring to.
If you are not happy with who you are today, why not get some help and take action yourself to be a first rate version of yourself. With few exceptions, we have all been given some great attributes and we have to become personally responsible to accentuate our strengths and humbly appreciate them and use them while recognizing our weaknesses and working actively to minimize there impact. I strive daily to be a first rate version of myself, and while I’m not everybody’s cup of tea, today I live comfortably in my own skin. I am happy being me and am a work in constant progress.
Be authentically you and not a person who is trying to be someone else!
Not happy with who you are? Rather than trying to be a second rate version of someone else, why not take the action needed to be a first rate version of yourself? To be authentically you! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
औठेन्तिकाल्ली यू!
AUTHENTICALLY YOU!
"Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else." ~Judy Garland
Why do so many people live their lives to try and be someone else? You have to love the late Judy Garland’s quote because it is so true.
I know that for many years I lived a life trying to be who others wanted me to be. Today, I often see others trying to be like or look like someone else. Recently my grandson grew hair to look like Justin Bieber, and the look, in part because of the texture of his hair, did not suit him at all! And man, the money that is spent on cosmetic and other surgeries to try to be “just like”!
The question is “what is wrong with being you”?
Now there are some who read this who will say well there are people with serious deformities or defects who require corrective surgery, and off course, there are. This is not what I’m referring to.
If you are not happy with who you are today, why not get some help and take action yourself to be a first rate version of yourself. With few exceptions, we have all been given some great attributes and we have to become personally responsible to accentuate our strengths and humbly appreciate them and use them while recognizing our weaknesses and working actively to minimize there impact. I strive daily to be a first rate version of myself, and while I’m not everybody’s cup of tea, today I live comfortably in my own skin. I am happy being me and am a work in constant progress.
Be authentically you and not a person who is trying to be someone else!
Not happy with who you are? Rather than trying to be a second rate version of someone else, why not take the action needed to be a first rate version of yourself? To be authentically you! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
"Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else." ~Judy Garland
Why do so many people live their lives to try and be someone else? You have to love the late Judy Garland’s quote because it is so true.
I know that for many years I lived a life trying to be who others wanted me to be. Today, I often see others trying to be like or look like someone else. Recently my grandson grew hair to look like Justin Bieber, and the look, in part because of the texture of his hair, did not suit him at all! And man, the money that is spent on cosmetic and other surgeries to try to be “just like”!
The question is “what is wrong with being you”?
Now there are some who read this who will say well there are people with serious deformities or defects who require corrective surgery, and off course, there are. This is not what I’m referring to.
If you are not happy with who you are today, why not get some help and take action yourself to be a first rate version of yourself. With few exceptions, we have all been given some great attributes and we have to become personally responsible to accentuate our strengths and humbly appreciate them and use them while recognizing our weaknesses and working actively to minimize there impact. I strive daily to be a first rate version of myself, and while I’m not everybody’s cup of tea, today I live comfortably in my own skin. I am happy being me and am a work in constant progress.
Be authentically you and not a person who is trying to be someone else!
Not happy with who you are? Rather than trying to be a second rate version of someone else, why not take the action needed to be a first rate version of yourself? To be authentically you! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Thursday, September 9, 2010
सुफ्फेरिंग तो गेट वेल-Paradox
Suffering to Get Well-Life Paradox
“There is no way to escape the terrible suffering of remorse and regret and shame and embarrassment which starts us on the road to getting well from our affliction.
There is no new way to shake out a hangover.It's painful. And for us, necessarily so. . . .
We suffer to get well.”
Ah, the paradoxes of life. For those who read this and are suffering real pain emotionally, some good news, it is true, we suffer to get well. Without suffering, we can remain at a “stuck point” where things are not well, but we have become numbed or accepting of things less than we deserve. Our emotions inside become suppressed, we don’t feel in the vibrant way we know we should.
A reality or wake up call happens; we listen to our small quiet voice and take action. In doing this, we suffer; but this suffering is a step in regaining our life and emotional health.
So to those who are suffering because of real cause- take positive action. Appreciate your suffering is a real step to getting well!
Need to kick start action? Get in touch. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
“There is no way to escape the terrible suffering of remorse and regret and shame and embarrassment which starts us on the road to getting well from our affliction.
There is no new way to shake out a hangover.It's painful. And for us, necessarily so. . . .
We suffer to get well.”
Ah, the paradoxes of life. For those who read this and are suffering real pain emotionally, some good news, it is true, we suffer to get well. Without suffering, we can remain at a “stuck point” where things are not well, but we have become numbed or accepting of things less than we deserve. Our emotions inside become suppressed, we don’t feel in the vibrant way we know we should.
A reality or wake up call happens; we listen to our small quiet voice and take action. In doing this, we suffer; but this suffering is a step in regaining our life and emotional health.
So to those who are suffering because of real cause- take positive action. Appreciate your suffering is a real step to getting well!
Need to kick start action? Get in touch. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
SUFFERING TO GET WELL-Paradox
SUFFERING TO GET WELL-Paradox
Suffering to Get Well-Life Paradox
“There is no way to escape the terrible suffering of remorse and regret and shame and embarrassment which starts us on the road to getting well from our affliction.
There is no new way to shake out a hangover.It's painful. And for us, necessarily so. . . .
We suffer to get well.”
Ah, the paradoxes of life. For those who read this and are suffering real pain emotionally, some good news, it is true, we suffer to get well. Without suffering, we can remain at a “stuck point” where things are not well, but we have become numbed or accepting of things less than we deserve. Our emotions inside become suppressed, we don’t feel in the vibrant way we know we should.
A reality or wake up call happens; we listen to our small quiet voice and take action. In doing this, we suffer; but this suffering is a step in regaining our life and emotional health.
So to those who are suffering because of real cause- take positive action. Appreciate your suffering is a real step to getting well!
Need to kick start action? Get in touch. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Suffering to Get Well-Life Paradox
“There is no way to escape the terrible suffering of remorse and regret and shame and embarrassment which starts us on the road to getting well from our affliction.
There is no new way to shake out a hangover.It's painful. And for us, necessarily so. . . .
We suffer to get well.”
Ah, the paradoxes of life. For those who read this and are suffering real pain emotionally, some good news, it is true, we suffer to get well. Without suffering, we can remain at a “stuck point” where things are not well, but we have become numbed or accepting of things less than we deserve. Our emotions inside become suppressed, we don’t feel in the vibrant way we know we should.
A reality or wake up call happens; we listen to our small quiet voice and take action. In doing this, we suffer; but this suffering is a step in regaining our life and emotional health.
So to those who are suffering because of real cause- take positive action. Appreciate your suffering is a real step to getting well!
Need to kick start action? Get in touch. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Tuesday, September 7, 2010
एवर वोंदेरेड-दो इ हवे अ प्रॉब्लम?
EVER WONDERED-“DO I HAVE A PROBLEM?”
If you’ve ever wondered if you have a problem with alcohol, sex, drugs, food, gambling or other such issues, the simple answer is “yes you do”.
Did it ever strike, people who don’t have a problem know they don’t. They don’t have to question. Those who ask themselves if they do, particularly when the question crosses their minds on more than one occasion; DO.
I know this from personal experience.
If you have a problem then there is a major next step. It’s called acceptance.
Once you accept you have a problem, you have tough choices; to ignore it and hope it goes away or that you can fix yourself OR to get help and deal with the problem head on.
If you are facing problems due to your own behaviours OR the behaviours of loved ones, and it is causing your life to be unmanageable, please feel free to get in touch. I have been working with others successfully for decades and may be able to put you on the right track with no obligation. (Keith Bray, www.hopeserenity.ca). Living and addiction help in Canada and globally.
If you’ve ever wondered if you have a problem with alcohol, sex, drugs, food, gambling or other such issues, the simple answer is “yes you do”.
Did it ever strike, people who don’t have a problem know they don’t. They don’t have to question. Those who ask themselves if they do, particularly when the question crosses their minds on more than one occasion; DO.
I know this from personal experience.
If you have a problem then there is a major next step. It’s called acceptance.
Once you accept you have a problem, you have tough choices; to ignore it and hope it goes away or that you can fix yourself OR to get help and deal with the problem head on.
If you are facing problems due to your own behaviours OR the behaviours of loved ones, and it is causing your life to be unmanageable, please feel free to get in touch. I have been working with others successfully for decades and may be able to put you on the right track with no obligation. (Keith Bray, www.hopeserenity.ca). Living and addiction help in Canada and globally.
Ever Wondered-DO I HAVE A PROBLEM?"
Ever Wondered-DO I HAVE A PROBLEM?"
EVER WONDERED-“DO I HAVE A PROBLEM?”
If you’ve ever wondered if you have a problem with alcohol, sex, drugs, food, gambling or other such issues, the simple answer is “yes you do”.
Did it ever strike, people who don’t have a problem know they don’t. They don’t have to question. Those who ask themselves if they do, particularly when the question crosses their minds on more than one occasion; DO.
I know this from personal experience.
If you have a problem then there is a major next step. It’s called acceptance.
Once you accept you have a problem, you have tough choices; to ignore it and hope it goes away or that you can fix yourself OR to get help and deal with the problem head on.
If you are facing problems due to your own behaviours OR the behaviours of loved ones, and it is causing your life to be unmanageable, please feel free to get in touch. I have been working with others successfully for decades and may be able to put you on the right track with no obligation. (Keith Bray, www.hopeserenity.ca). Living and addiction help in Canada and globally.
EVER WONDERED-“DO I HAVE A PROBLEM?”
If you’ve ever wondered if you have a problem with alcohol, sex, drugs, food, gambling or other such issues, the simple answer is “yes you do”.
Did it ever strike, people who don’t have a problem know they don’t. They don’t have to question. Those who ask themselves if they do, particularly when the question crosses their minds on more than one occasion; DO.
I know this from personal experience.
If you have a problem then there is a major next step. It’s called acceptance.
Once you accept you have a problem, you have tough choices; to ignore it and hope it goes away or that you can fix yourself OR to get help and deal with the problem head on.
If you are facing problems due to your own behaviours OR the behaviours of loved ones, and it is causing your life to be unmanageable, please feel free to get in touch. I have been working with others successfully for decades and may be able to put you on the right track with no obligation. (Keith Bray, www.hopeserenity.ca). Living and addiction help in Canada and globally.
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