WHAT DOES IT TAKE TO MAKE IT?

WHAT DOES IT TAKE TO MAKE IT?
WHAT DOES IT TAKE TO MAKE IT?
Over many years, I have had the privilege of working in a mentoring or coaching role with hundreds. I’ve been in several roles, each of them different in approach, from boss to mentor to sponsor to coach to friend to “trusted confidant” to sponsor. I am hesitant to mention father because this is a very unique role.
The “issues” have varied from work and job related, through life crisis including depression and addiction through family and relationship issues.
There is, in my experience, no one size fits all solution, but there are a few simple things that those who have achieved their definition of success have in common.
“He who requires urging to do a noble act will never accomplish it.”--Kahlil Gibran
As the Gibran quote points out, if a person has to be pushed to do the right thing, it likely will not happen. If your not totally willing to make change and prepared to accept the reality of your situation, chances for achieving YOUR goals is minimal.
In many of the roles I have played, I have just been there for others because I try to be a good mentor, friend, boss, etc. While always hopeful, I will work with others out of a sense of personal duty.
I love my role as coach, I will not work with a person who, prior to agreeing to a coach/client relationship, cannot convince me, they are willing to try new things and accepting that they are at a personal bottom, a place that they want to move up from. They must accept that they had a role in reaching their bottom.
I will not work with clients who are not prepared to be open and honest about their past and present. If they cannot be honest with me as coach, there is a strong probability that they cannot be honest with themselves. In my practise, the mirror is an important client tool and who likes to look at a liar? I work with clients who want to “make it” (as defined by them) and I guarantee success, something unique in my business. Ah, the joys of coaching by choice!
Once I have been convinced a person is willing and has accepted, I ask them for a written commitment to do the work THEY are assigned.
Work you may ask?
Yes homework on a regular and sometimes daily basis. Without hard work and commitment coupled with making change a high priority in your daily life, success will not happen. This is called action.
So you want to make it? You are tired of the life you are living and the lack of joy you are getting? You want an abundant life?
You have your own issues and story. Because of your uniqueness, there is not a cookie cutter solution. HOWEVER, I have tried to share, in a straight forward fashion, things I had to do and are common elements I have witnessed in those who have successfully “made it”. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Are you really prepared to make it or are you kidding yourself?