Friday, October 29, 2010

REAWAKEN YOUR CURIOUSITY

REAWAKEN YOUR CURIOUSITY
Reawaken your curiosity
"What a distressing contrast there is between the radiant intelligence of the child and the feeble mentality of the average adult." -- Sigmund Freud

Why is this so?
Young children possess what Zen calls 'beginner's mind.' They are awed and fascinated with the wonder of the world, open to discovering and experiencing new things. Anything is possible. Life is a great adventure.
For almost all of us, the systems that 'educate' us to be adults stifle our natural joy and curiosity. We lose touch with our innate appreciation of life. We forget how to dream.
The blessing is that with attention, patience and love, we can reawaken our sense of wonder. We can again dance with life.
"The mind WILL be free, or it will be dead." -- Grace Llewellyn
Thank you to my mentor Dr. Randin Brons and his Idea Engineer for this article. A very good reminder to me of one of the true gifts of a coach- we help people reawaken their curiosity and rediscover that radiant intelligence that is within each of us.(www.hopeserenity.ca)

रेअवाकें यौर CURIOSITY

Reawaken your curiosity
"What a distressing contrast there is between the radiant intelligence of the child and the feeble mentality of the average adult." -- Sigmund Freud

Why is this so?
Young children possess what Zen calls 'beginner's mind.' They are awed and fascinated with the wonder of the world, open to discovering and experiencing new things. Anything is possible. Life is a great adventure.
For almost all of us, the systems that 'educate' us to be adults stifle our natural joy and curiosity. We lose touch with our innate appreciation of life. We forget how to dream.
The blessing is that with attention, patience and love, we can reawaken our sense of wonder. We can again dance with life.
"The mind WILL be free, or it will be dead." -- Grace Llewellyn
Thank you to my mentor Dr. Randin Brons and his Idea Engineer for this article. A very good reminder to me of one of the true gifts of a coach- we help people reawaken their curiosity and rediscover that radiant intelligence that is within each of us.(www.hopeserenity.ca)

Wednesday, October 27, 2010

प्राय तो गोद. रो तो शोरे!

PRAY to God. ROW to SHORE

 

I don’t know how many people I have talked to over the years who have claimed "I’ve prayed about it but nothing happened". Funny how it works.

I can relate to the title saying; for many years, when things got desperate, I would pray to a god I learned about in Sunday school. Prayer was in the form of a plea and oft times followed the pattern "If you get me out of this spot this time I’ll never do it again" or "Please give me/let me have…….". Strange, the results I got were not great.

The sign in the antique store showed a fisherman in a rowboat being tossed about in a storm. The message was clear: the fisherman may have great faith, but now was not the time to put away the oars and kneel in prayer - it was time to pray and row!
Sometimes we find ourselves in a storm of trouble, a sea of problems, and we want God to get us out. We may even pray, "God, get me out of this mess." But like the man in the rowboat, the way out is not just by praying to God. The way out is to pray, ask for help, and take action - do something to help ourselves.

For years I did not understand the simple message. I always believed that there was something greater than me in this world and I certainly believed this something was capable of miracles. What I forgot was that action was MY responsibility and God helps those who help themselves. In my case, helping me was fully admitting I has a problem, accepting it and taking the action I needed to not only get help, but to do the things I was taught I needed to do.

Today I ask simply each day for the knowledge of what my Higher Power’s will is and for the courage to carry it out. Then it is up to me to row to shore! (www.hopeserenity.ca).

PRAY to GOD. ROW to SHORE.

PRAY to GOD. ROW to SHORE.

PRAY to God. ROW to SHORE

 

I don’t know how many people I have talked to over the years who have claimed "I’ve prayed about it but nothing happened". Funny how it works.

I can relate to the title saying; for many years, when things got desperate, I would pray to a god I learned about in Sunday school. Prayer was in the form of a plea and oft times followed the pattern "If you get me out of this spot this time I’ll never do it again" or "Please give me/let me have…….". Strange, the results I got were not great.

The sign in the antique store showed a fisherman in a rowboat being tossed about in a storm. The message was clear: the fisherman may have great faith, but now was not the time to put away the oars and kneel in prayer - it was time to pray and row!
Sometimes we find ourselves in a storm of trouble, a sea of problems, and we want God to get us out. We may even pray, "God, get me out of this mess." But like the man in the rowboat, the way out is not just by praying to God. The way out is to pray, ask for help, and take action - do something to help ourselves.

For years I did not understand the simple message. I always believed that there was something greater than me in this world and I certainly believed this something was capable of miracles. What I forgot was that action was MY responsibility and God helps those who help themselves. In my case, helping me was fully admitting I has a problem, accepting it and taking the action I needed to not only get help, but to do the things I was taught I needed to do.

Today I ask simply each day for the knowledge of what my Higher Power’s will is and for the courage to carry it out. Then it is up to me to row to shore! (www.hopeserenity.ca).

Monday, October 25, 2010

I DON'T GET IT (OR I CAN FIX MYSELF)

I DON'T GET IT (OR I CAN FIX MYSELF)
I DON’T GET IT!
(Or I CAN FIX IT MYSELF)
In my line of work and in my own “life of service” there seems to be periods of time where I can’t believe what my ears are hearing.
The blessing, in hearing what I hear, is that I am grateful for the life that I have learned to live, and the basic move way from insane behaviour because of what I have been taught. Daily I thank that power greater than me that I am now conscious of and which, when I pay attention, gives me a life free of large doses of fear and shame.
Today’s most recent saga, an old acquaintance has called a lawyer client of mine for a get together. The reason, he has lost (for the second or third time in 2 months) his passport, and wants to attend a hockey tournament in the USA this weekend to watch his son; this after a five day detox stint following 9 weeks of nearly killing himself. The lawyer was recently told, during an emergency trip to hospital, that if he continues his life style, he will die.
I must admit that this sounds like the blind leading the blind; or, insanity in a form that I have personally experienced.
Throw on top of this a conversation with a potential client who suffers from chronic lateness (is getting chronic on this habit insane?) and it’s been an interesting 24 hour period.
With all concerned, they claim that they just don’t understand why these things happen to them, and at least with “frick and frack”, deep down they think they can fix it themselves. Unfortunately, unless things change, I foresee a couple of more needless and senseless funerals that I will be attending. Chronic lateness, I don’t think this kills but it certainly puts unneeded limitations on your life and certainly does nothing for self worth!
The people I have been interfacing with are basically decent, intelligent hard working people but people who have the deadly combination of false pride and low self esteem/respect. Deadly if not treated. Funny, they don’t understand why they do the things they do and with the lawyer and my other long term acquaintance, really believe that they can fix themselves through sheer abstinence.
Life reminds me of where I found my major problem. I found it in a mirror. After having found the problem, I swallowed my pride and reached out for help. Some fortunate ones seem to get all the help they need from a 12 step fellowship. While I certainly got (and get) help from group meetings, I needed far more help than meetings could provide. I needed the help of professionals to help me learn not only the tools I needed to live the life I was capable of, but to help me understand how I got so far off track and to address the root causes. I was fortunate to “get it” and learn the hard way that I could not fix myself.
The past 24 hours has once again reminded me, “the road to hell (and I’ve been there) is paved with good intentions.” To get off it requires action and change.
I love to see people get the life they want and am blessed that I have been a part of many success stories. As noted above, I continue to be reminded that I cannot “fix” others, particularly those who believe they can fix themselves. I have empathy for those who “just don’t get it” for they cannot be honest in front of that great tool we all own, the mirror. All I can do is be present when I can be of service! And keep on learning to be of greater service. (www.hopeserenity.ca)

इ दोन'टी गेट आईटी!

I DON’T GET IT!
(Or I CAN FIX IT MYSELF)
In my line of work and in my own “life of service” there seems to be periods of time where I can’t believe what my ears are hearing.
The blessing, in hearing what I hear, is that I am grateful for the life that I have learned to live, and the basic move way from insane behaviour because of what I have been taught. Daily I thank that power greater than me that I am now conscious of and which, when I pay attention, gives me a life free of large doses of fear and shame.
Today’s most recent saga, an old acquaintance has called a lawyer client of mine for a get together. The reason, he has lost (for the second or third time in 2 months) his passport, and wants to attend a hockey tournament in the USA this weekend to watch his son; this after a five day detox stint following 9 weeks of nearly killing himself. The lawyer was recently told, during an emergency trip to hospital, that if he continues his life style, he will die.
I must admit that this sounds like the blind leading the blind; or, insanity in a form that I have personally experienced.
Throw on top of this a conversation with a potential client who suffers from chronic lateness (is getting chronic on this habit insane?) and it’s been an interesting 24 hour period.
With all concerned, they claim that they just don’t understand why these things happen to them, and at least with “frick and frack”, deep down they think they can fix it themselves. Unfortunately, unless things change, I foresee a couple of more needless and senseless funerals that I will be attending. Chronic lateness, I don’t think this kills but it certainly puts unneeded limitations on your life and certainly does nothing for self worth!
The people I have been interfacing with are basically decent, intelligent hard working people but people who have the deadly combination of false pride and low self esteem/respect. Deadly if not treated. Funny, they don’t understand why they do the things they do and with the lawyer and my other long term acquaintance, really believe that they can fix themselves through sheer abstinence.
Life reminds me of where I found my major problem. I found it in a mirror. After having found the problem, I swallowed my pride and reached out for help. Some fortunate ones seem to get all the help they need from a 12 step fellowship. While I certainly got (and get) help from group meetings, I needed far more help than meetings could provide. I needed the help of professionals to help me learn not only the tools I needed to live the life I was capable of, but to help me understand how I got so far off track and to address the root causes. I was fortunate to “get it” and learn the hard way that I could not fix myself.
The past 24 hours has once again reminded me, “the road to hell (and I’ve been there) is paved with good intentions.” To get off it requires action and change.
I love to see people get the life they want and am blessed that I have been a part of many success stories. As noted above, I continue to be reminded that I cannot “fix” others, particularly those who believe they can fix themselves. I have empathy for those who “just don’t get it” for they cannot be honest in front of that great tool we all own, the mirror. All I can do is be present when I can be of service! And keep on learning to be of greater service. (www.hopeserenity.ca)

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

मोरे ओं ANGER

MORE ON ANGER
Today, I had the pleasure of reading an exert from a book called “In God’s Care” by Karen Casey. What a great reminder about the power of anger.
How many people do you run into in your own life that give off vibes that make you feel like there is a volcano present and just about ready to explode? Ever feel that way yourself?
Anger was made a part of us for a reason. Dealing with it, for many, is an acquired skill.
“Anger dwells only in the bosom of fools.
--Albert Einstein

Anger can be a healthy emotion, provided we don't wallow in it or attack other people. When we express anger honestly and without reservation, we can prevent walls of resentment from building up and blocking us off from the intimacy that we strive for in our relationships.
When we allow anger to fester in our heart, we surrender our peace of mind and lose our sense of purpose and self-worth. When we harbour anger rather than openly and respectfully expressing it, we no longer hear our inner spirit. Thus we are cut off from our innate wisdom to guide us in our actions.
We're often drawn to people who express their feelings honestly. This style of communicating serves as an invitation to build a relationship with them based on trust. From this trust we learn to open ourselves to God's love for us as we are.
Today I will feel my anger, express it when necessary, and then let it go so that I can deepen my trust of other people and of God.”
The beauty of life today is that I have a choice on how I deal with anger on a daily basis. I chose to express honestly and without reservation and do carry it with me as baggage. I openly admit; this is a skill I acquired through coaching and a skill that makes my days brighter! (www.hopeserenity.ca)

MORE ON ANGER

MORE ON ANGER
MORE ON ANGER
Today, I had the pleasure of reading an exert from a book called “In God’s Care” by Karen Casey. What a great reminder about the power of anger.
How many people do you run into in your own life that give off vibes that make you feel like there is a volcano present and just about ready to explode? Ever feel that way yourself?
Anger was made a part of us for a reason. Dealing with it, for many, is an acquired skill.
“Anger dwells only in the bosom of fools.
--Albert Einstein

Anger can be a healthy emotion, provided we don't wallow in it or attack other people. When we express anger honestly and without reservation, we can prevent walls of resentment from building up and blocking us off from the intimacy that we strive for in our relationships.
When we allow anger to fester in our heart, we surrender our peace of mind and lose our sense of purpose and self-worth. When we harbour anger rather than openly and respectfully expressing it, we no longer hear our inner spirit. Thus we are cut off from our innate wisdom to guide us in our actions.
We're often drawn to people who express their feelings honestly. This style of communicating serves as an invitation to build a relationship with them based on trust. From this trust we learn to open ourselves to God's love for us as we are.
Today I will feel my anger, express it when necessary, and then let it go so that I can deepen my trust of other people and of God.”
The beauty of life today is that I have a choice on how I deal with anger on a daily basis. I chose to express honestly and without reservation and do carry it with me as baggage. I openly admit; this is a skill I acquired through coaching and a skill that makes my days brighter! (www.hopeserenity.ca)

Friday, October 15, 2010

MOVING TOWARDS SUPERCONSCIOUNESS

MOVING TOWARDS SUPERCONSCIOUNESS
MOVING TOWARDS SUPERCONSCIOUNESS
Each week I receive, with interest, a thought provoking “Idea Engineer” from my mentor, Dr. Randin Brons.
I have been fascinate for years by the concept of duality, the two (at least) personalities that exist in each of us. Which one is at the forefront is driven by our level of consciousness.
In getting a life more in tune with what my Higher Power had intended me to have, I had to learn to move from (as defined by Dr. Brons) too much time in the subconscious to a majority of time in the conscious and even at times, the superconscious.
Getting to this life change was a learned skill, and great coaching was instrumental in my achieving change. I invite you to read and reflect on Dr. Bron’s article from this past weekend.
Levels of consciousness
"The greatest discovery of my generation is that man can alter his life simply by altering his attitude of mind." -- William James

Here is one perspective on levels of consciousness and some descriptive words to help us identify the differences:

Not conscious - instinctual, follower
Subconscious - habitual, robotic, reactive
Conscious - aware, intelligent, conceptual, reflective
Superconscious - intuitive, guiding, truthful, loving, universal

Reflect on how you typically move through your day. As we use our minds more consciously, we open up to the superconsciousness.

"Utilizing your conscious mind to direct the subconscious mind to enter into communication and harmony with the universal mind is the secret of personal power." -- Delfin Knowledge System