HANDLING CHANGE

HANDLING CHANGE
HANDLING CHANGE
In the life I live and the work I do, it is apparent that many people have trouble with change. Yet change is as certain to happen as it is certain that to live, you will draw another breath.
"We cannot live the afternoon of life according to the program of life's morning; for what in the morning was true will in evening become a lie." -- C.G. Jung
It’s interesting, in reading sent out this week by both Dr. Randin Brons, my mentor, and a friend and coach in Australia, Phil Evans, the subject of “change” was their themes, and I have borrowed from both of these sources! Helping people make change is a key to what we as coaches do, and is a key to the personal happiness of many.
Life continually evolves. We're always moving into new experiences, new possibilities. This constant change unsettles the personality, which finds security in stability. But with life always in flux, that security is an illusion. We experience pain by trying to hold on to things that are not solid.
Life becomes joyful when we can open to the constant flow and ride freely with it. This requires us to let go of the need to control. We need to learn to trust.
In recent times in my roles as a Life and Addictions Coach, I have become increasingly aware that one of my major tasks is to actually help people manage change in their lives. When they approach me for help, they know that something is out of whack; that they’ve got to do something about it now; and they're asking me for help with, 'why is it out of whack', and 'how can we fix it' ?
Do your best to remember this paradox of life: We can often stare for so long at the door which has closed; that we can miss a new one which has opened!
 It is actually very easy to resist change; but keep in mind that resisting change is actually hard work! Quite often, we don't even know that we are resisting it; so like most other things in life, it's about being aware!
Right now, change is being forced upon us in many ways; and for some of us, that could be overwhelming. My No 1 suggestion for anyone who is feeling the pinch, is to remember that 'necessity is the mother of invention'; so if you can get yourself into embracing the change which is forcing itself upon you, and get creative, then you may come out of your own situation absolutely shining! Yes folk, our attitude towards change does make all the difference!
We can choose to Embrace it ... or Resist it!
If you are hurting in any way whatsoever: then you can choose to reach out to others, and seek help.
 Remember: None of us have to do it tough on our own ... ever!   Because: doing it tough on our own ... is also a choice! Are you prepared to face and embrace change? Need help? (www.hopeserenity.ca)
"We're never the same; notice how you're called to write something entirely different about a topic you responded to weeks or months ago." -- Patrice Vecchione


 

SOUL SICKNESS. GOT IT?

SOUL SICKNESS. GOT IT?
SOUL SICKNESS.GOT IT?
I, for one, can today readily admit I suffered from “Soul sickness” for a long period of time.
What is it you may ask?
To me, soul sickness symptoms are a revulsion against self and against the way we are living. Life became impossible, there was no joy. While I did not give suicide serious thought, I did know that if I did not change, I did not want to keep on living the way I was, I just couldn’t stand the joyless existence.
It was so easy to blame others and “circumstances” seemingly beyond my control for the life I was living. If you had the things going on in your life that I did, you’d use mood altering substances and behaviours to escape too! As K. Stanislavski was quoted as saying, “Anyone can blame; it takes a specialist to praise”, and I had hit a point that was the furthest it could be from specialist.
So what happened?
Simply put I got sick and tired of being sick and tired, and from a source I did not understand back then, found the courage to change. I sought “outside” help; and this happened through a strange set of circumstances. But “outside” help led me to getting my life back.
This soul that was sick? I found it inside of me and found it had always been there, but that I had learned/chosen to ignore it. It was a small quiet voice inside that I learned, with help, to hear and respect. It was the “ME” that I know today I was meant to be.
Today I live without deep rooted soul sickness. I take full responsibility for me (not you) and my actions. I seek direction on a daily basis and try to live a “BALANCED” life (free checklist at www.hopeserenity.ca. Today things are far from perfect, but I live daily with hope and serenity, gifts given to me by addressing my soul sickness.
There are many ways to get there. I know what has worked for me!
If you think you may be suffering from “soul sickness” and think you might want to make change, let’s talk freely about it.

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What is your destiny?
"The significant business of your life is alive and well, awaiting discovery, within your very soul. You and I were born to come into ourselves as complete and distinctive persons. Accepting this, we build a valuable life." -- Marsha Sinetar
What is the significant business of your life? What is your purpose? Andrew Schneider says that purpose "is more than just having a direction. It is about one's place in the universe. It is the journey of finding that place and being there and living fully whatever that place is. It is your own unique place that nobody else has, had, or will have."
How would you describe your place in the universe?
"We become powerful in the face of our fears when we have a sense that we make a difference in this world. Affirmations of purpose communicate the truth that we are all meaningful participants in this Universe and that we are worthy of giving and receiving love. Some affirmations of purpose are:
- I know that I count and I act as though I do.
- I spread warmth and love everywhere I go.
- I am a healing force in the Universe." -- Susan Jeffers
"The grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for." -- Joseph Addison
So what is your destiny? Dr. Brons in his Idea Engineer above has provided food for thought.
Want to crystallize your thinking, set a plan and move forward? Helping you is our destiny. (www.hopeserenity.ca)

WHAT IS YOUR DESTINY?

WHAT IS YOUR DESTINY?
What is your destiny?
"The significant business of your life is alive and well, awaiting discovery, within your very soul. You and I were born to come into ourselves as complete and distinctive persons. Accepting this, we build a valuable life." -- Marsha Sinetar
What is the significant business of your life? What is your purpose? Andrew Schneider says that purpose "is more than just having a direction. It is about one's place in the universe. It is the journey of finding that place and being there and living fully whatever that place is. It is your own unique place that nobody else has, had, or will have."
How would you describe your place in the universe?
"We become powerful in the face of our fears when we have a sense that we make a difference in this world. Affirmations of purpose communicate the truth that we are all meaningful participants in this Universe and that we are worthy of giving and receiving love. Some affirmations of purpose are:
- I know that I count and I act as though I do.
- I spread warmth and love everywhere I go.
- I am a healing force in the Universe." -- Susan Jeffers
"The grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for." -- Joseph Addison
So what is your destiny? Dr. Brons in his Idea Engineer above has provided food for thought.
Want to crystallize your thinking, set a plan and move forward? Helping you is our destiny. (www.hopeserenity.ca)