HANDLING CHANGE

HANDLING CHANGE
HANDLING CHANGE
In the life I live and the work I do, it is apparent that many people have trouble with change. Yet change is as certain to happen as it is certain that to live, you will draw another breath.
"We cannot live the afternoon of life according to the program of life's morning; for what in the morning was true will in evening become a lie." -- C.G. Jung
It’s interesting, in reading sent out this week by both Dr. Randin Brons, my mentor, and a friend and coach in Australia, Phil Evans, the subject of “change” was their themes, and I have borrowed from both of these sources! Helping people make change is a key to what we as coaches do, and is a key to the personal happiness of many.
Life continually evolves. We're always moving into new experiences, new possibilities. This constant change unsettles the personality, which finds security in stability. But with life always in flux, that security is an illusion. We experience pain by trying to hold on to things that are not solid.
Life becomes joyful when we can open to the constant flow and ride freely with it. This requires us to let go of the need to control. We need to learn to trust.
In recent times in my roles as a Life and Addictions Coach, I have become increasingly aware that one of my major tasks is to actually help people manage change in their lives. When they approach me for help, they know that something is out of whack; that they’ve got to do something about it now; and they're asking me for help with, 'why is it out of whack', and 'how can we fix it' ?
Do your best to remember this paradox of life: We can often stare for so long at the door which has closed; that we can miss a new one which has opened!
 It is actually very easy to resist change; but keep in mind that resisting change is actually hard work! Quite often, we don't even know that we are resisting it; so like most other things in life, it's about being aware!
Right now, change is being forced upon us in many ways; and for some of us, that could be overwhelming. My No 1 suggestion for anyone who is feeling the pinch, is to remember that 'necessity is the mother of invention'; so if you can get yourself into embracing the change which is forcing itself upon you, and get creative, then you may come out of your own situation absolutely shining! Yes folk, our attitude towards change does make all the difference!
We can choose to Embrace it ... or Resist it!
If you are hurting in any way whatsoever: then you can choose to reach out to others, and seek help.
 Remember: None of us have to do it tough on our own ... ever!   Because: doing it tough on our own ... is also a choice! Are you prepared to face and embrace change? Need help? (www.hopeserenity.ca)
"We're never the same; notice how you're called to write something entirely different about a topic you responded to weeks or months ago." -- Patrice Vecchione